How often do you come across as pretty indecisive?

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I feel I’m pretty decisive and know what I want, except for when it comes to guys. Like sure I know what I want in a guy, but when it comes to which guy? Thats always been a struggle. Things have been going great reuniting with one of my friend guys from HS/college. But I feel him pushing towards me and I’m totally pulling away... again.  I think the dream last week clouded my judgment. I still don’t see this guy romantically and I’m thankful I didn’t profess my feelings after reconnecting on Linkedin. I’m glad to learn it was his old girlfriend that ruined what we had and so on. And I mean he was so happy talking to me all yesterday and then suggested we go somewhere around town, but I couldn’t even bring myself to keep texting him. I told him “BRB” and I never returned. I’m sure I’ll get hate for this 🥴 But I’m not ghosting. I don’t mind going somewhere as friends and I’ll still talk to him platonically. Its just that romantically, I still have this crush for someone I knew “online” before reconnecting with him. The vibe isn't even comparable so I just know where I’d rather be. And I just don’t want to say anything misleading to my old classmate since he is not who I want. This sounds like an idiot move, but yea 🤣🙈 #FeelFreeToList

midnightmoon05 · Accepted Answer

I always knew what I wanted looking back even when I thought I didn’t know what I wanted, I guess I knew.
Because the pattern of men I dated are very similar as well as married to. Some behavior differences …but who they are what they want in life and their career path, values, align with mine or did I influence them? 😂

such as my college boyfriend. he told me I’m a wife material…I was a kid (In my mind) and had no idea what he was talking about. He was more mature even though he was only a yr. older. (He saw how I treated my family and how I was “raising” my little sister.
my ex. husband told me I can be a good mom and have a good family. (We have 2 kids together).
my ex boyfriend. liked how I was raising my kids and treating others.
my new husband didn’t want kids before he met me due to fear…. now he regrets never having kids, he saw that I am the right woman to have a family with seeing how well my family functions.
I guess…I picked the type of man because I want them to be the type man who align with some of these basic values.
I think at the end…we all still want love, family, children…the society/media is creating confusion for many and they are being delayed/scare to get (go for) what they want.

In other areas…I am very decisive as well.

Agape93 · Accepted Answer

Not often. I plan a lot, and think a lot, before a decision becomes necessary. Even in rushed time, I'll pretty quickly decide my course.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It depends what you're talking about. Having me choose between Egyptian cotton sheets on sale or low thread count sheets at regular price I'm indecisive as he'll. But deciding whether I like you or dislike you I'm very decisive.

coachTanthony · Answer

I think as you grow older you learn and experience things that make it easier to become more decisive. I have not been too indecisive in a very long time about anything... maybe what I want to eat because I can't figure out what I am hungry for if that counts lol

Phoenix98 · Answer

I'm not indecisive I actually make up my mind when I want to pretty quickly. My thing is when it comes to a lot of things I just don't care, so I just usually go with the flow.

Obviously if or when I'm in the mood for something or want to do something or when I actually need to choose something I make up my mind pretty quickly.

RavVid · Answer

Mostly decisive but there are times I know I am not gonna do it but like thinking about it so I would seem indecisive to others. So that tall former classmate didn't work out I gather.

AviatorTom · Answer

Rarely. I've learned to make a decision. If it turns out to be wrong, I can always change it later. Procrastinating doesn't accomplish much.

mandyfire98 · Answer

Anything to do with food lol. I want tacos but then I want chicken, no salmon, no pizza.

iron_ninjs · Answer

I rarely come off as indecisive. I usually know what I want. And by the way, it's good that you managed to connect with the guy from HS.

Billlewis · Answer

Not very often, because I've always been a very decisive person.

kellytheman · Answer

I was pretty indecisive when I was young especially with my job and relationships but I kinda know what I want now that I am older

MysticDevice · Answer

I can be indecisive sometimes. But I try not to be.

Shark_61695 · Answer

I'm very indecisive until I make a decision which is normally at the last minute.

Alex8736 · Answer

The only time I come off as indecisive is when someone isn't being specific and/or I am not provided with all the facts or the bottom line

loveslongnails · Answer

Sometimes I do, sometimes I don't. Indecision may or may not be my problem, I'm not sure.

justabuddy · Answer

I kinda think it's natural. Reality paints a different picture than what our brain tells us the situation would be like.

the_sinner · Answer

When I’m planning to go somewhere, shopping for something and gifting someone.

Abdulwahh · Answer

Not much tho when i do its regarding food or clothes lol

exitseven · Answer

I don't know, maybe sometimes, it is hard to say.

Pink2000 · Answer

Often. I can never make up my mind.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Whenever I go to a restaurant.

legalboxers · Answer

not too many since I dont have many options

Sparkie460 · Answer

Very Very rarely. I always know what I want

eagle1951 · Answer

everytime i wake up lol

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