Name something that ruined your life and another thing that made it better?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Was institutionalized when I was 16 in a facility for teens. Where I was was moreso for teens with mental health issues rather than teens committing crime, I’d never been in that lifestyle but I was struggling with major depression and autism. We could not voluntarily leave and if we tried, they had authorization to use force to keep us in there. It was me and 10 other girls in a unit and I was in there for 6 months. During summer we would go outside 1-2 days a week but during the winter we were on lockdown. During that stay I only left the facility 2 times.

Anyways, it was horrible. I had horrible anxiety so bad that I couldn’t even eat in the cafeteria if there were other groups in there, I’d not left that facility for 6 months straight and despite my dad living 15 minutes away from this place, he only came to visit once.
That experience really, really fucked me up. Anyways, when I got out at 17, I became a literal recluse. Never left the house, and I mean NEVER, dropped out of high school completely. I had just given up at that point on my life because every day I had to sit with the thought that my dad was not visiting me. It wasn’t that I was a bad kid why I was in that facility, either.
Anyways, I look back and while that visit really fucked me up inside, it ultimately made me who I am today. I remember my roommate I had while I was in there ended up killing herself years later. Another one was found dead in an abandoned home a year after he got out. I’ve cut myself in there, and the cuts are still visible on my arm, even 10 years later. Most of us are doing okay in life but I’m glad that happened to me because I’m able to use where I came from to pioneer myself to where I want to be. Makes me think of becoming a mother how I want to be there for my child so they don’t have to go through the BS I went through. Even with all of the BS of being in there, the staff were very caring. I think they really helped a lot of us from going completely over the edge as small as it may seem of a gesture.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I got diagnosed with a chronic illness at 29 after being horribly sick with it for a year full of endless rounds of testing that never seemed to yield anything. As a result of the illness I also lost a bunch of my hair which as a woman was incredibly traumatizing. A lot of days I am sick even with medication and have had to change my diet in a way that really makes eating complicated. I also have to take pills every single day for the rest of my life. It was and is very stressful but given my position at my job at the time, like a lot of people who are chronically ill, we lie about it and try our best to keep up appearances so people won't see us as weak or incapable of doing our jobs. This applied to friendships as well. I told no one. I didn't know how to handle any of it.

What made it better was first leaving that job. It was stressful by itself and adding the pressure of having an ongoing illness I was learning to cope with just didn't work for me. That was a huge relief, as was getting to then work from home where I didn't have to make excuses why I needed another sick day or could work from my literal bed if I needed to. Then having a full break down in front of my best friend in my car at a Target parking lot at night. She just put her arm around me and let me sob and talk about the past couple years and everything I'd been holding in, and how horrible everything had been and was and she was just there for me beyond all words, and continues to be checking on me and my mental health almost monthly to see if I'm okay.

Peter_Penetrator · Accepted Answer

Being bipolar robbed me of who l could have been in the last 30 years as I searched far and wide for the right doctor and the right meds.

As of 4 years ago l finally found the right doctor and the right meds. Other than trying to start a family; l make it a point to try and make a difference in the lives of those around me. If someone attempts to drown me in their misery; l just smile and work hard to treat them kindly.

abc3643 · Accepted Answer

Made Better: 1. My ex-girlfriend who I wanted to marry. 2. My wife Ruined My Life: 1. My ex-girlfriend who I wanted to marry. 2. My wife

MemeSupreme · Answer

holy shit i just disassociated for like 30 minutes trying to think of how to answer this lmao. i experienced some serious abuse and neglect almost my entire life till i moved out at 17. literally left me with  chronic pain  and  mentally fucked me.  something thats made my life better is learning how to bob and weave life better now lol its a learning process still tho

Anonymous · Answer

I was raped by my cousin when I was 9, it ruined my life for 6 years I never told my parents about what happened because my cousin said they would hate me because I was a slut. Those were the 6 most miserable years for me and my little brother because I took it out on him for being a boy and got my little sister too treat him mean. When I was 15 a boy lived next door and I liked him and actually trusted a boy for the first time since I was 9. He convinced me to tell my parents and they put me in counseling which was the best thing that happened to me.

Babygirl_S · Answer

I had a crush on an attractive Indian man which hurt me but I didn't let it ruin my life. I was so depressed because he made me feel bad for not being a party girl. I was also virgin-shamed. I was so obsessed with him that I became depressed due to all of this.

Exercise helped me a lot. So did cooking. I enjoy both activities and they're therapeutic.

exitseven · Answer

I was born colorblind and it got me kicked out of the air Force and I lost my college scholarship. Fifteen years later I finally finished college and found a decent good paying job with benefits.

YesterdaysChild · Answer

Probably the same as others - getting married to the wrong person and then getting divorced. 😍🤔😫😎

SixFootSexy · Answer

The bad: Alcoholism, weed (kicked weed very easily though) The good: Creating mental models for hope, love and joy. Rooted in transcendent truth/God. Going to the gym regularly.

Potteplante · Answer

Ruined my life: Alcohol - drugs. Made my life better: quitting the two above

Anonymous · Answer

What ruined my life: Going into foster care when I was nine with a mentally unstable woman who took care of us.

What made it better: I moved to a different city/school and met my best friend who I still talk to today.

HaleyCatgirl · Answer

Frederick's ataxia, going to the gym and hanging out with friends reluctantly but every time I do they cheer me up and we have fun.

Unit1 · Answer

Ruined: my parents and them dragging me into being stranded in the totalitarian regions in the east. Made it better: money, money and money. Self reliance.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Ruined: being promiscuous in my teens. Made it better: Stopped the aforementioned and started my own business while developing a long term investment plan.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Nothing ruined my life, and if something had, nothing would make it better, otherwise it didn't ruin my life.

Anonymous · Answer

Rape, and someone close to me keeping me alive afterwards

Anonymous · Answer

The thing that trigger me to make bad decisions or the bad decisions themselves?

Anonymous · Answer

The death of my cousins and dealing with survivors guilt fucked me up for a long time. Having a great support system saved me.

abbyjgriffin98 · Answer

Insecurity. Positivity.

CarnaGirl18 · Answer

Pornography  But God made my life better

bededazzle · Answer

depression baby sloths

slatyb · Answer

My ex-wife, and my current wife.

Anonymous · Answer

Kratom addiction has ruined my life, so far nothing has made it better

Anonymous · Answer

A person and a person

Worst · Answer

@Joker_ is both my answers lol

Heolurt · Answer

People  and avoiding people

Iron_Man · Answer

Death

jahaims · Answer

My parents. Myself

Slim57 · Answer

The same answer my ex

RedInnocent68 · Answer

Sex, and sex.

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