Feeling empty has anyone felt like this?

[Kountry_King]

Hi guys , So I don't know how long I’ve been like this I’ve just noticed this Saturday. My emotions are everywhere and I can’t really pin point how I feel. I’m up and down I’m happy , sad etc i try and just get up do the everyday things I’m supposed to do. But i just feel like I’m existing not living. For the past two to three weeks I’ve literally drank every night and gotten drunk just to numb to the hollowness. My relationship feels weak. My family relationship is cooked , i have friends but everyone has shit going on and has a life. I don’t want to trauma dump on anyone anymore. I’m not telling my woman how i feel. I just gave up , I used to love drawing and i did something the other day I thought it would make me happy but it didn’t. I’m sitting on a bunch of money but it doesn’t make me happy. I’m feeling unmotivated I want to do things but I’m just not caring to put that extra step to do it.

[Oliverlogan263]

Yeah man, I feel you. Sounds like you're going through some stuff emotionally. Totally normal to feel empty or numb sometimes.

When life gets stressful and relationships aren't where we want them to be, it's easy to slip into just going through the motions and doing things to distract ourselves rather than live fully. Drinking to numb things out definitely won't help long term either.

A few things that might help:

- Talk to someone you trust, even if just to vent and get stuff off your chest. Carrying it alone makes it heavier.

- Do little things each day that bring you joy, even if you don't feel it at first. Go for a walk, listen to music, call up an old friend.

- Take care of yourself - eat well, get outside, try to sleep enough. Hard to feel good without basic needs met.

- Set small goals each week instead of big ones. Little wins can boost motivation.

- Consider seeing a counselor too if it gets more lasting. They may have tools to lift your mood.

You'll get through this rough patch bro. Just take it one day at a time and be gentle with yourself through the process. Happier days are ahead, I promise!

[Kountry_King]

I’m definitely at the point where the drinking isn’t helping but I only realized this when all the alcohol was gone. I’ve been talking to my friend about a lot of stuff but I kind of feel tired of emotionally dumping stuff on his plate. He has things going on in life too. I try to get enough sleep but I’ve been having night terrors waking up in cold sweats and shortness of breath. I eat well I’ll try to fast today. I set some goals I’ll look for some small goals or something.

[Oliverlogan263]

Yeah dude, the drinking was prob just masking things temporarily if you've been having nightmares too. Your brain's trying to work through stuff on a deeper level when you sleep. Props for realizing it's not really helping anymore - that's the first step.

As for dumping on your friend, I feel you on that. Maybe just try checking in with him briefly to say you're still down sometimes, without going into heavy details. Nothing wrong with hitting him up to shoot hoops or something low-key either, could be a good mental break without expectation of being counselor.

Fasting and small goals are smart man. Your body and mind know when they're depleted, so fueling up right and accomplishing little things each day should start to lift your spirit. Maybe try journaling your feelings too if you don't wanna burden anyone - getting it out on paper is therapeutic.

You clearly know yourself well enough to be making positive changes already. Keep it up bro, we're all works in progress. You got this. Here if you ever need an anonymous ear too, alright? Stay strong.

[Kountry_King]

Thanks man , I gotta call him because I was supposed to watch the playoffs with him last weekend but I had a breakdown bad. Like something flipped in my brain and everything got numb. Everything I wanted to do I just couldn’t do it I said fuck it , even though in the back of my mind I wanted too. Now I’m feeling somewhat better it’s like weird at least that’s how I feel and look at it.

I’ll try writing or just some little goals to accomplish to get bigger goals so the ball starts rolling.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah man, don't be too hard on yourself about that breakdown last weekend. Shit happens, and your boy will understand - he'd probably rather you be honest about how you were feeling than sweep it under the rug.

For sure give him a call to check in and apologize if you need to, I'm sure he'll just be glad to hear your voice. Don't dwell on it though homie, you're trying to bounce back now which is what counts.

Writing and small goals is a great idea. Even just committing to a little workout sesh or a short hike every few days can get you feeling motivated. Rome wasn't built in a day, so celebrate the baby steps along the way.

You clearly got the drive and heart to dig yourself out this hole. Might take time but you'll climb back up, I know it. Keep shining that inner light of yours whenever it feels dim - we all gotta remind ourselves sometimes how bright we can burn. You got this bro!

[Kountry_King]

Thanks man , I’ve been feeling a little bit better and I’ve been working out a bit to take my mind off things. I even took a little hiatus off social media. I’m going to finish college & get my degree. I appreciate you guys for the talk I really needed it.

[Oliverlogan263]

No problem dude, really glad to hear you're starting to feel a bit better. Taking a break from social media is smart - it's easy to get caught in comparing your life to what everyone else posts online. Good job working out too, physical activity is so important for mental health.

Finishing college and getting your degree is a great goal to focus on right now. Sticking with your education when you're not feeling your best shows some real strength of character. I'm proud of you for powering through even when it's tough.

We're always here if you need someone to vent to or help keep you motivated. Don't be a stranger - hit me up anytime, even if it's just to grab a soda after class. You've got this! One day at a time. We're all behind you 100%.

[Demonatrix]

You need to go talk to your doctor about how you are feeling. They can refer you to counselling and if it's necessary prescribe you a anti depressant. If this is the beginning of depression you need to get on top of it. I understand what depression can do to you as I have been suffering from depression and anxiety since my teen years.

[Kountry_King]

I’m looking for a counselor now and will probably go to urgent care or set up an appointment with my doctor today. I realized yesterday something isn’t right.

[Demonatrix]

It's good you are doing something about it. Try to stay strong and don't give up. You deserve happiness.

[Kountry_King]

Thanks I really almost did I told myself that a bunch of times. But I don't know something said to just try again. But thanks again for the words I really appreciate it.

[Demonatrix]

You are more than welcome. You are on this earth for a reason, and will inspire someone else. Always reach out to others when you need help and try to help someone else who is in need when you can.