Should I talk to my assistant manager or tell my boss?

[Anonymous]

So I've been having very strong pregnancy symptoms and yes the tests and the blood one all said negative. But I'm still having strong symptoms to the point my OB told me to come back because my results was considered a gray area. So it's not 100% and it's even possible ( rare ) for some women can fail the tests and still be pregnant. It's possible that I could be like those other women. Just today at the day care center I volunteer at she was telling me she was 18 weeks pregnant when she found out she was actually pregnant after doing a ultrasound because she was also going through the symptoms and it did say she wasn't pregnant. So assistant manager was very rude in a way saying how I wasn't pregnant and it's all mental. Like I'm not going to throw up on foods I love and wanting to throw up just by smelling coffee craving foods I hate. she keeps saying how it doesn't sound like pregnancy when I dip pickles in peanut butter. Like everyone is different? But I don't know I just felt really uncomfortable how she was so determined to say I wasn't pregnant just because the blood and urine test said I was negative I mean obviously something is wrong if my OB said it herself to come back and re do it because it's a chance it could be wrong. She even talked about my OB almost calling her stupid and to find another one.

[Anonymous]

Talk to them and tell them what? That you’re having a phantom pregnancy? That’s not gonna fly. I think you are just so deep in your head that you convinced yourself you can be pregnant somehow someway.

[Asker]

I'm not the only one that was feeling uncomfortable even my other manager was on my side and trying to tell my assistant manager to relax and calm down. Even if that was true. I don't want to be pregnant right now, because I have 3 jobs now, and starting school in the summer.. I was told already I couldn't get pregnant so my boyfriend wasn't wearing a condom anymore after a month of becoming official so when I told him yes he doesn't have to wear one. We did have sex more than once without him having one because I remember being told I couldn't get pregnant my ex boyfriend and I was together for 6 years now condom and not being pregnant. All of a sudden around early March I was having symptoms without even having that thought of being pregnant according to my OB because she told me to remember everything I was going through. My boss was the one that told me to take a blood test because I was feeling sick and realized yes I did miss my period. And the last time my boyfriend and I had sex was Feb 14 & the 23rd. I was supposed to have my period on the 20th because every month it lands on the 20th. So I haven't in Feb or March now.. So being pregnant isn't something I want right now. I mean if it happens. It will be a miracle baby but at the moment having kids isn't on my list yet until my boyfriend and I are both financially ready and then I was going to see if I can start taking medication or shots or whatever they had to do to help me become pregnant.
So if it is phantom it's just crazy to me for my body to act that way because mentally I wasn't even thinking about it. But like I said. They're other women out there that went through failed pregnancy tests and still found out they were pregnant. The lady today proved it when she said she found out she was 18 weeks pregnant and the pregnancy tests was saying she was negative. Some women isn't as lucky like others to know if they are not right away

[Asker]

* no condom

[Opinion Owner]

Okay so what do you want to tell them?

[Asker]

It's not just me. I've noticed how she acts towards others and they would seem a little upset. I mean yes we are one of those, " we're a family" type of co workers, I just feel like she's a little too comfortable with everyone and she speaks a certain way towards everyone when she thinks something sounds stupid. All I did was come to her for advice because she has a daughter. The way she was talking to me made me seem like she was calling me crazy and stupid for thinking that I'm pregnant. Especially Being there in the office when my OB called me to say I have to do it again. I was even happy when I was told I wasn't pregnant. So it felt uncomfortable with how she was acting. She even called my OB doctor stupid and how I need another one.
Plus she only acts that way when my boss isn't around. So it's like she knows it's wrong with how she acts at times

[Opinion Owner]

Are you avoiding my question on purpose? What do you want to tell them? Am I missing something?

[Opinion Owner]

You’re going on about your feelings but still not saying what you want to tell them and that’s what’s confusing.

[Asker]

Oh sorry I responded after what I said but I guess it didn't submit. I just wanted to tell my boss, how she acts when she's not around, I'm not the type that tells on people. But the way she was acting towards me or anyone else just felt a little uncalled for. And it's always happening when my boss isn't around.. maybe for now on we all shouldn't have certain conversations with anyone at work. Maybe certain topics should be spoken with another family member, friend, doctor or psychiatrist.

[JayBones2469]

Get a note from your doctor and contact Human resources or corporate headquarters. They are not allowed to say things like that. That's assuming you live in the states although employee protections are better outside of America in most cases

[Asker]

I believe we do have that at my job. I just feel like they're just too comfortable with everyone and they think they can talk to us a certain way at times. I came to her for advice because she has a teenage daughter. So yes I did come to her I just didn't expect for her to be so negative and aggressive sounding

[JayBones2469]

She may be jealous. My wife had a coworker that wanted another kid but was unable. When my wife got pregnant something clicked in that lady and she went crazy.

[Asker]

I hope not because she doesn't even want kids anymore. She even makes it clear with the guys she dates, she doesn't want a committed relationship because it means to her that the guy might want kids in the future and she doesn't want that. I'm sorry the lady went crazy with your wife. It can be very uncomfortable and not knowing what to do because honestly some people can't really be trusted these days. So many people are just crazy