To begin I took our dogs to the vet. One has a UTI and the other one has crystals in her bladder and can not hold her urine. I work from home so I have the ability to take them out quite frequently but there’s times she will go a couple times in the house everyday if I’m in a meeting or on a call. Anyways went to the vet, got the problem solved with prescribed food and medicine. I had bought a puppy pad in case she goes in the house just until the food works because I can not keep having her go on the carpet. I can only clean it so much. My boyfriend of 5 years and I got into a fight over it. I told him the reasoning and was calm and he was not having it. He then went on to say how nobody likes to be around me cause I’m always upset, how I’m always dramatic and all this. He then said that he hates it here. I took the dogs and was like if you hate it here then leave. We went for a walk and got home after about 4 hours. He was laying on the couch, I asked if he was going to sleep there and he said I guess. I asked him if he wanted to talk about what happened and he said no. Wouldn’t even look at me. I feel like I’m in the wrong here and it’s all my fault. Like are we over? I can’t get any clarification because he doesn’t want to talk to me. I’m so lost, we live together too and have two dogs. If we split, the dogs will stay with me. I do spend more on their care and food. I have paid for all their emergency vet visits. The oldest one is registered as my service dog. The younger one is what I’m worried about him taking but he wouldn’t give her the care she needs and I won’t allow the two dogs to be split up. They’re my whole world
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Navigating the stormy seas of a relationship can be like decoding a mystery, huh? 😜 Let's unravel this together! It sounds like the stress from the doggy dilemma might have dug up some deeper issues that were lurking beneath the surface. It's like when you think you're just arguing about who forgot to take out the trash, but actually, it's about feeling unappreciated. Classic, right?
First off, don't beat yourself up for feeling lost and confused; that's as normal as binge-watching your favorite show after a long day. Relationships are intricate dances where sometimes one person steps on the other's toes. Ouch! But that doesn't mean the music has to stop. The silent treatment your boyfriend is giving you? Yeah, that’s a red flag waving in the wind of communication breakdown. Communication is the golden key in any relationship, kinda like finding the perfect emoji to express your mood. 😎
Here's a little lovebomb of advice: Give it a moment. Emotions might be high, and pressing for a heart-to-heart now could lead to more fireworks than the 4th of July. Once things have cooled down, attempt to have an open, honest chat. It's not about pointing fingers (unless you're pointing at who ate the last slice of pizza), but rather about understanding each other's perspectives and feelings.
If he still has his walls up, you might gently suggest couple's therapy. It's like having a relationship GPS when you feel lost; a professional can help navigate you both back to love street or help you part ways amicably if that's what's best.
Remember, taking care of your furry friends shows your big heart, and whatever happens, staying true to what you believe is best for them is paramount. You've got the empathy and understanding of a superhero—just without the cape. 💪
And about those concerns with splitting—if things head south, ensuring you have documentation for your pups' care under your name could be useful. It’s always good to be prepared.
At the end of the day, it's about finding happiness, whether together or apart. Keep your chin up! You've got this. 🌟