Which do people often remember? Any meaning behind it?

[Rosexøxø]

Do people (often) remember offense more than they do, kindness? How about vice versa?

-Thoughts?

People remember/ recall OFFENSE more

People remember/ recall KINDESS more

Neither / Other (explain)

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You know, I also feel like remembering certain negative gestures would be a form of survival. Like remembering toxic plants.

Surely for example if a king or queen was nearly poisoned by one servant they’d remember that! It’s be death not to!

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

We have a natural inclination to focus more on the negative than the positive. It has to do with those pre-evolution animal instincts. Everything negative is something our animal brain perceived as a threat. Back in the days before society, this was a useful thing to note as it often meant seeing dangerous predators or plants that were poisonous. These days an internet comment isn’t going to hurt us but it can psychologically affect us as if it does. People will more often remember the hurt someone else caused them than any kindness because there is a greater psychological impact there than just feeling good. It’s our way of protecting ourselves even if we don’t realize it because we don’t want to be around things that hurt us but because things aren’t as simple as they were when we were monkeys, we don’t always get that choice so now we have to learn to rewire our brains and get them not to take everything negative as an active threat against our lives so we can better survive in a world made for something beyond an animal.

[Rosexøxø]

Wow this is a great contribution and feedback. Well said too. It makes me think of how we can go into fight or flight mode with stressors that aren’t like dangers but just mere trivial social stuff, and yet that fight or flight can get triggered in us. I forget all the stuff read on it to quote word for word, but it’s so interesting to pair that with memory and how we have to train ourselves and evolve.

I wonder if it’s not just memory but like simplified into serotonin of pleasure and pain.

We have strong memory and interactions with the intensely positive and the tensely negative- the stuff most offensive to us and the stuff most pleasing- like a childhood memory of “when the family used to be together.”

Or how some guys remember that one lady they had “great never-before-experienced/ nothing-like-it” sex.

I don't know but this was really helpful to read. Great stuff! I appreciate this.

[Nikki1989]

I can't speak for others, but I always focus on the positive.

[Rosexøxø]

That’s a wonderful statement. I can respect that. 💯

[OfMiceandMen]

All I have to do is turn on the news and you see offensive/negative stories being regurgitated on the networks everyday. The nastier it is the more people remember it. It's like people are miserable and they get off on seeing someone else in worse shape than them.

Yet, they put on something positive/act of kindness on the news - like someone saving a bunch of baby ducks from sewer and hardly anyone says shit.

[Rosexøxø]

lol I feel like I’ve seen that on YouTube. Baby ducks being saved from the sewer. I believe it may have been some type of sewer and it was empty. I really don’t know what it was. Like a water drain or something. It was very wholesome to watch.

Loved seeing the baby ducklings also climb up a step. I’ll see if I can add it here so you and anyone else interested can watch if they wish.

I agree about the entire thing though. I’m sure there’s a reason for it. Some logical and some illogical. It’s still unpleasant to know that’s how it happens at times.

[Rosexøxø]

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=JHy6bBKu0j4

Everyone grab a Kleenex 😭 it’s almost unbearable at the end.

[Rosexøxø]

m.youtube.com/watch

You know, I had seen it as a kid and honestly don’t remember what the humans looked like. Just remembered the ducklings themselves, so I just posted this one cause it’s still wholesome! 💯

The mother crashing in was a glorious sight.

[MrGSpotHer]

My guess is different people probably remember different things I know I remember negative over positive things quite a lot I think it's why I don't like people 😆

[Rosexøxø]

I agree! And I’ve also remember a handful of wrongs. Only a few good ones. Check out @cupcakethedestroyer ‘s comment on this question too! Interesting stuff about us as survivalists. 💯💯💯

[MrGSpotHer]

That's basically what I meant you know 😜

[Account]

Offense without a doubt.

[MisterWack]

In my case: Kindness

[Rosexøxø]

That’s a very optimistic and wholesome response! 👍

[MisterWack]

@Rosexøxø Thank you, I meant it all the way.