Why do I always feel left out or excluded at work or anywhere? Does every autistic individual feel this way?

[Anonymous]

Some people are so close and hangout whereas me, I’m always by myself. I sit or talk with different spoke, not ones I’m close with.

My team never share things with me (they don’t have too.) like when we’re outside of work or when the kids are gone for Staff Development, I get ignored, I get pushed to the side and nobody responds to me. Why do people do this to me? They know I’m autistic and one coworker admitted that she’s scared of me because she worked with autistic adults and they threw temper tantrums, scream or so weird things and my height and size makes it even more intimidating. Wow that’s hurts but at least she was honest. She didn’t have to through my size in there. I’m 5’10”, plus size and a size 18/20W, well some close 16W. Previously 232lbs. I’m a big girl, not petite or average.

Some people looked a bit intimidated when I greet them kindly. I’m also afraid of getting angry people people are already intimidated with me as it is and I frighten people with my anger but with my petite friends, nobody is scared. Some might me.

[IslaTheWitch]

I'm autistic too... but I don't let others put me aside :D

there is therapy for autistic people, and it includes social skills training... it's useful...

[Asker]

How do you do that?

[IslaTheWitch]

social skills training helped me a lot... it's about creating boundaries, voicing your opinion, and other useful stuff like that...
so I simply use it... I communicate openly, and I ask questions that sometimes make people uncomfortable, but it removes situations of excluding me... because me asking openly, "why did you exclude me?" isn't something they want to experience :D

[jahaims]

Allistics don't think you are worth the effort. Allistics only build relationships where they can benefit from it. You probably just don't pick up on everything going on so you are left out.

[PaleDale]

It's hard to communicate with other people sometimes, and they take it the wrong way.

[Asker]

I don’t like myself sometimes. Why can’t I just be normal? I do have friends on the spectrum but I feel like I annoy the crap out of people. Even my own family is annoyed at me sometimes even though they love me.
Why am like this?

[PaleDale]

I know it can be a pain. Limits us to certain groups of friends. But those on the spectrum tend to be smarter 😉