Why do most women have a hard time accepting that not everyone once to be their friend? Also, are you selective when choosing friends?

[Babebytheshore85]

I'm not trying to be rude I'm really trying to understand because I've noticed this particularly in black women. They become very angry and intrusive when you aren't interested in being friends with them. I have not had this experience with any other racial group.

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And when I say I have not had this experience with any other racial group of women I mean like I'm not really interested in being friends with black women. Their lifestyle doesn't align with what I want for myself. The baby momma culture, twerking, ratchet, loudness, unmarried, little to no education, their choices in mean, the high instances of obesity, weed smoking, insecurity, their rudeness, masculinity. It's just a not for me not my crowd

[lyrem04]

Well, that took a turn. Honestly, that description of Black women is nothing like the ones I know, and I’ve met plenty. I could say the same about women from other groups too. Everyone’s experience is different, so it’s not a universal truth.

I think women who get offended might either be desperate for friends or just are entitled as someone else alr said bc aren’t used to being told no. Funny enough if there’s anything my parents taught me is that not everyone has to be your friend, and that’s okay lol who cares!

At the end of the day, it depends on where and how you look for friends and that alone can say a lot about the kinds of people you will encounter. And yes everyone should be selective, best believe I am lol... People like that wouldn’t even get a chance to be rejected by me AND on top of that act like that with me because they simply wouldn’t find me in the first place.

[Babebytheshore85]

The majority are this way. If the majority of people are saying the same thing about the same group, then yeah, it's definitely true. Too many people are having this experience with them.

[lyrem04]

Just bc many people say or believe something doesn’t mean it’s true lol. Just bc many people say that white people can’t dance, have no rhythm, can’t cook and lack seasoning, are blatantly racist, uncultured and untraveled, only like country, Starbucks and the boring pumpkin spice to be exact, are passive-aggressive, don’t have manners, uneducated about other cultures, only know to appropriate cultures, school shooters, entitled or superiority complex … doesn’t mean it’s true and that the majority is that way.

[Babebytheshore85]

It's not racist black women are known for being this way and they don't make an effort to fix it. They'll complain all day long about the most unprotected class of women are black women yet black women are 95% of the time the aggressors. Even black men are saying this and are refusing to deal with them. It's no coincidence

[lyrem04]

White people are “known” for things too but you’ll never catch me generalizing or avoiding anyone based on what others say. Negative stereotypes are truth that come from negative environments… duh. Never the majority, and I’ll say that about any race. Not sure where 95% comes from exactly and what agressions but If a black man only finds “aggressors,” for black women… maybe it’s time to check where he’s looking or what he’s attracting. No one’s forcing him to deal with that, and if I were him, I’d reflect instead of complaining. And if he’s refusing to deal with that, that’s good I would 100% applaud that. But, if he’s refusing to deal with that based on stereotypes then he’s either 1. Is in that negative environment, is comfortable there and that’s what he attracts, 2. Internalized those stereotypes and now struggles with self hate, or 3. Have nothing else better to do with his time, no values, class just hate 2 hate… because if you’re not in those environments, what else do you have to rely to make those assumptions mhm? It would be “he said/she” said from other ppl’s experiences in those negative environments perhaps from social media or whatv content they like to consume on the media and I wouldn’t expect it to be resourceful lol. Also it’s so funny to me how the ones who talk the most are the same ones chasing women from other races with those exact same traits they claim to hate, yea it’s rooted in self-hate. And nope that’s not all Black men though, the ones I know are confident and unbothered by stereotypes cuz they won’t allow themselves to remain in those environments and me too lol I could never those people literally cannot find me from any race and if they do then time to reflect.

[Babebytheshore85]

Majority of black women are as I've described. Why do you think they have the highest rate of being unmarried and single moms? Lol stats dont lie no one wants to be bothered with them

[lyrem04]

No they’re not, you’re bias which is why you think that way. Consider perhaps that it’s bc we have different priorities. We’re chasing degrees and education today more than ever, in a generation where people idolize marriage as the all end goal in life and where most marriages end in divorces anyways. Perhaps it’s a personal choice. I can foresee literally any other argument and stat you might throw to build your case, I can see where that’s heading so imma end it here.

[Babebytheshore85]

Stats dont lie🤷🏻‍♀️🤣

[Kingofkings1992]

@lyrem04 don’t waste your time engaging. He’s a man pretending to be a woman

[lyrem04]

@Kingofkings1992 you’re probably right, this would make sense lol

[Kingofkings1992]

@lyrem04 just look at the way he talks. I saw in one of his posts him say “take it from me, a woman.” 😆 No actual woman says things like that.

[lyrem04]

@Kingofkings1992 Ya damn right lol said it like he has something to prove 🤣

[Summeroflove]

Some people simply have a sense of entitlement it’s not everyone but tends to be people who don’t have lots of friends.

[WonderingManII]

Sounds confusing.

[Babebytheshore85]

What sounds confusing

[WonderingManII]

The opening question. I don't know that many black people.

[Babebytheshore85]

🤣🤣🤣

[Aldan1609]

I think everyone is