Can you share a moment when life pushed you into a role you weren’t ready for, and how that experience shaped your growth?

Question

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

Probably at 5 years old I was told that my step dad was not my real dad

And after that moment I started thinking very deeply on who I was Who am I supposed to be then. At 10 years old

My step dad and my mom got a divorce and as we were leaving he told me that I was now the man of the family and I had to take care of my mom my sister and my brother and watch out for them protect them

And that changed my whole life the at 15 my mom got married again I could see right through this guy at 16 and a1/2 he tried to put his hands on me and I didn't allow it but anyway I moved out a couple weeks later. And that's where life started because I thought I knew it all and I realized I didn't know anything so that's where life started for me. And I'm still learning that was a lot more clarity in sight and wisdom and realize that no matter what I learned there's something always deeper something better to understand and to incorporate Within and become and that all equals love the deepest Realm of love

Zack-Bann · Accepted Answer

I got injured recently and had to become a patient
I’m now recovering from an ACL surgery

And i was NOT ready to become the helpless guy walking around with a cane.

I still hate seeing people look at me with pity as they walk around me with fear of tripping me up
Constantly asking if I’m good or need to sit down

I know it comes from a good place

But I’m still not used to it.
I spent my life as the big bulky guy in good health, few people ever took pity on me for anything.

Nikki1989 · Accepted Answer

My parents abandoned me when I was 12, so I was forced to have to grow up fast. I was working full time, sharing an apartment and paying bills by the time I was 16. It made me feel I had to skip most of my teenage years and was fast-forwarded into adulthood.

thegreenyogi · Accepted Answer

My father was diagnosed with brain cancer and I had to take his place in the family buisness and become my mother's support system. I wasn't ready but nobody else could do it and I made that choice for the love of my parents and it wasn't easy.

OneViewpoint · Answer

I was the baby of the family. My father was a piece of work. He molested both my sisters from about age 13. My mother stood by and let it happen. I beat him to a bloody pulp when I was 15 to keep him from walking my youngest sister (age 21, middle child) down the aisle. From that day on I took on the role of patriarch for all of them. My parents and both sisters. I was their protector, enforcer with abusive husbands, mentor, career counselor, advisor, priest, financial support, life coach, and tech support. Until I buried them all, took care of each of their estates, and explained it all to my niece and nephews. And then I was free for the first time in my life.

nolabels · Answer

A moment?

How about a lifetime of such moments?

Life happens, sometimes it sucks, hopefully understanding and growth follows.
It usually does, but usually not on my desired timline.
Lol.

My wife recently passed from battling brain cancer for two years.
Her diagnosis came very quickly on the heels of my own brush with death, multiple cardiac arrests as a result of a widow maker heart attack.

Things have been extremely difficult for me.

Luckily, my late wife's sister has been there for me, providing much needed support in coming to grips with processing all that has transpired over the past two years.

Yep, life happens.

C'est la vie.

Great question.
Thank you for posting it.

Cheers!

strateguy632 · Answer

Very rare. First day of preschool -5, i was age 4 and passed the bilingual entrance exam! I was confident i was ready! But i wasn't "really ready for the insane curriculum" at a religious jew scool*. Because i assumed they started reading on the FIRST page and read everything, but those cheaters SKIPPED pages so i "wasn’t ready for" the cheating!

i didn't know where they skipped. So i was holier to read in order but after a page- i said "everyone skips then i don't really need to read". So it changed me into a lazy student!

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

So me, my bestie and her kids were attending some live performance, the kind of performance for family you know. Somewhat Disney-ish scenario with people singing all the time. Then in the middle of this live show, one comedian, a princess, brought me on stage. I performed the role of some prince for a couple of minutes, trying to lip-sync a song I had no idea about of course.

I wasn't ready for that.

Did it shape my growth? We can say that. It's one thing to be chill in public, it's another thing to be chill on stage when you don't know the lyrics at all... 💅🏼

AviatorTom · Answer

This happened many years ago...

I got laid off due to downsizing, completely unexpected. At the time, I had a wife and 3 young kids. I took a month off, then started looking for a job. There were none in my area that I was qualified for. So I found a job in a big city many miles away. I commuted back and forth on a weekly basis. I learned how to deal with hardship while still maintaining a relationship with my family. Weekends, when I was home, were special times, and I tried to do as much as I could with my wife and kids, without smothering them. Best thing I learned is that they are individuals, with their own lives, and I can be a part of it, but not the most important part.

It helped career wise too. I learned how another company operated, how it did things, in my industry. General information, not company secrets, that I learned to use during the rest of my career with other companies and projects

FunkyMonkee · Answer

I guess it'd be about 14 years ago when my brother decided to kill himself by jumping off a bridge and then it was up to me to help mom first thing in the morning after she had her stroke. Once she got up and around, she could get by on her own and I could go to work at the print shop but could only be there for about 5 hours because I'd also have to get back home in time to help her make dinner. But, my bosses were okay with this and understood the situation and also knew that I was doing more work in 4 or 5 hours than a lot of the others were doing in 8!!

exitseven · Answer

i really was not prepared for parenthood. I had a crappy minimum wage job and there was still places I wanted to go to and things to do. It all got derailed when my son was born. I was not prepared for the responsibility for supporting a family.

Anonymous · Answer

Back in the late fall last year.
I work at a production to make traffic signs, and my department we were usually 3. I was the new one. The most experienced had 25 years. And the other one, super smart and the one who was teaching me.

Anyway.
My mentor was on maternity leave, and suddenly, the experienced coworker went down with stress.
Without being fully ready, I had to keep up the production at our busy season, learning things on the fly and just, keep us afloat.

LiamJHayden · Answer

My dad passed away when I was 19. My mom had passed away when I was 16. I was suddenly facing the world alone - only child of two only children, so no close relatives. I had to grow up in a hurry.

Likes2drive · Answer

When I was your age, I had my first child and was getting a house and married all the same year, so it was pretty stressful in the beginning, but I managed to get through it all and raise a family

LC75LC71 · Answer

Fights. Never wanted them, but I was more than ready to stop being treated like a piece of shit. Then I got jumped. This was all in junior high school by the way..

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Marriage...
Life had pushed me to get married but i was ready for it but sadly it turned out after years that my ex wasn't ready for it...

The experiences were a combination of positivity and negativity but the negativity part had shaped my growth generally...

I still believe in real love and sacred marriage but i don't think that i'm the one who will participate in such adventures again miss sel⭕⭕na 😕

whosnumber_1 · Answer

Children. That's a big one for me. I think any time I've been in a new situation and felt like a fish or if water I've usually come away from the experience feeling that much wiser

Anonymous · Answer

My life is full of sad moments, not just one.

Can you share a moment when life pushed you into a role you weren’t ready for, and how that experience shaped your growth?

Most Helpful Opinions

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said

Can you share a moment when life pushed you into a role you weren’t ready for, and how that experience shaped your growth?

Most Helpful Opinions

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said

We're glad to see you liked this post.