Compatibility vs Commitment?

[MontBlanc]

It seems more common than ever to hear people say they won't commit until they've lived together or tested their sexual compatibility first.

To many, committing before knowing feels like buying a pig in a poke. But, when did commitment become something we postpone until every uncertainty has been removed?

If every relationship has to prove itself before it deserves commitment, has commitment become the destination instead of the foundation?

If we're willing to share our bodies, our homes, or even bring children into the world before we're willing to make a lasting commitment, are we building love or simply hoping commitment will appear after everything else already has?

So I'm curious, Is compatibility something we discover before commitment, or something we build because of commitment?

At what point does protecting ourselves from risk become avoiding vulnerability?

Has our pursuit of certainty strengthened relationships or quietly made commitment more conditional than ever?

In trying so hard to avoid choosing the wrong person, have we forgotten what it truly means to choose someone?

[Ariesman81Nshiiit]

Isn't that the point? Commitment only enters the chat when compatibility is present.

Sure, expecting perfect compatibility is a pipe dream, but to blindly commit to another human is foolish. And no, I'm not referring to frivalous things like sexual compatibility or whether or not a person is messy or clean. Of which all can be determined before moving in or sleeping together.

The problem I see is lack of communication pertaining to the larger compatibility issues before committing to someone. Something I was guilty of in previous relationships.

[sage2021]

There's no definitive answer to your question and curiosity.

When it comes to love relationships, even if you are committed enough to get married the other person can still choose to walk out of your life, never to be seen or heard from again.

Even if you do a test run and live together first, people change.

There never will be any guarantees in a relationship no matter what you do to ensure that it's okay to commit to.

[Nikki1989]

That comes down to intent, scope, and what you’re sacrificing in the process.

[EmmaMary]

Would you buy a new car without testing it first?