(FOR GUYS) Do you feel sorry for black girls when it comes to interracial dating and are we the least desired?

[Anonymous]

My question comes from a guy who felt this way. I'm going to assume he's white though I can't see his face but that's what he said in a nutshell. I didn't answer the Q because I couldn't gather myself to do so and dignify with what I personally felt was stupidity whether true or not. Then I began to wonder is this how many people feel? Please rate this question I want as many opinions as I can get. This was his description and I quote

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Do you ever feel bad for Asian men and black women?

in terms of interracial dating, since most white and Asian men are not into black girls and most black and latina girls are not into Asian men - they both have fewer options than white men and women, who seem to be desired most often in interracial dating

and even dating within the race sometimes"

White guys and other races and black men tell me how you feel about us specifically. All men aren't the same and they have some things to work on but I do love black men endlessly!

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+1 y

I find it hard to believe we are less desired considering women get ass implants lip injections to get the features that come to US black women naturally and even the breast area but its all opinion anyway but hell I could be wrong as well as the ones who think My race is less desired.

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+1 y

Thank you for everyone's input- the valid and the ones that were of plain ignorance. It just showed that some individuals will look for any opportunity to put others down when they got the chance while others gave me an answer and explained their reasoning why they thought/felt a certain way which was all I asked for.

[mocha2010]

I think I am an anomally. I am a tall, skinny dark skinned black girl, big breasts, long legs with small facial features , a flat ass and naturally curly silky non-kinky hair that grows very long on it's own no weave. Hmmm. I ve been told I look like Black Barbie. My hair is naturally medium brown. My face has been described as "angelic" small waist, thin lips.

I guess I do not fit into the black stereotype category, as I am an honor student and honors graduate with an advanced degree who speaks proper English, a size 4-6 and 5 feet 9 inches of mostly legs.

The whole black woman thing is so exagerrated and stereotypical. I have walked with my equally beautiful black highly educated female friends (surgeon and professor) and people just stare at us like we are aliens.

People are taking a small percentage of black women and making it the whole, that's unfair. My boyfriend is not only white, he is the cream of the crop white. European, extremely intelligent,highly educated, tall and model looking with an athletic build, gorgeous and rich. Like is attracted to like. I like that I can be an example and inspiration to black women that you just need to take care of yourselves and have confidence. Which we already do.

Maybe try the forieghn white men, even Halle Berry dates non-American white men.

[Anonymous]

Hey, girlie :) I just came to spread some love and give you some encouragement.

I'm a black female who pretty much only dates interracially. I've given up on black men seeing as most of them have made me feel inadequate for not possessing more European features. They'll make me feel desirable in terms of my body type but then say "You're pretty to be dark" which is basically like saying "You sure do have nice teeth for a homeless person! :o" I know not all black men are going to be like the black men from my past. But I'm not waiting around for a "good black man". It's not my style. Anyway, I've had no trouble finding guys to date. I've had all kinds of guys hit on me. I think it ultimately comes down to you as an individual. The way you present yourself and your personality. Also the open mindedness of the guy. Don't make it about a color thing because I'm learning that it's mostly a color thing to black people. It's black people making it about color, when in reality, most other ethnicities of this generation sincerely don't give a f*ck.

[Asker]

Feel it girl! I Feel it spread the love! too much downing without good reason and decent explanation

[Asker]

I couldn't have said it better myself tho! That was my experience with black men too love the body but don't wanna get to know the mind and something real. I'm with yuu 1-hunnit on that

[Anonymous]

You guys need to cut it out with the stereotypes & it's not specifically black woman who have bad attitude & who are over weight. Different people in different races are like that, so all of you guys need to back off. It all just depends on where you were grown up it has nothing to do with race. And as for your question, forget those people that don't appreciate your skin color OR your weight they don't matter, there will be a guy that doesn't care about that, you probably just haven't met him yet. It all just depends on that guys preference

[Asker]

THANK YOU !

[G-Daz]

Noooo, only in the US from what I can gather are black girls not as desired... but even so it'd still depend on the region of the US. I seen that question... that person has issues. I'm sure it might just be an assumption on his part because its not often you will come across a black guy who isn't happy to date out. I'm sure that guy probably just takes this and assumes it means that black girls are not viewed as attractive 0_o.

Never felt sorry for black girls like that, they're stunning.

[Asker]

=)!

[G-Daz]

:)

[tarzan_luvs_2]

I will say that is a big "NO" since I am a White Man dating a Black Woman. I know most White Men think Black Women are stunning, but are afraid of approaching a Black Woman because of racial tensions.

No, I was not afraid of approach Black Women and I have never been.

[Asker]

Thank You

[CandyCoated123]

*thumbs up*

[pr3ttybr0wn]

I think it is narcissistic of that guy to think "white and Asian men don't want you, so I feel sorry for you". I mean, how many sistas are really checking for them anyway? Last time I checked we like dark meat lol. For real, majority of black women I know are not pressed about finding a nonblack guy so why do they have us on our mind if we aren't flocking to them as a whole? If I didn't know any better, its almost like the guy who wrote that question is going out of his way to make black women feel bad and single us out. I don't hear about sistas throwing themselves at white guys in general so why act like that? feelings mutual

We do have sh*tty stereotypes, but I would never want to date a guy who wasn't familiar enough with black people as a whole. I tend to notice people who don't know many black people are the main ones who stereotype the most. If you dated out of your race, would you want to date a guy who had only one black friend (you) lol

[afrohombre1]

I think black girls are beautiful, but I won't lie, I'm more attracted to the black women that resembles you. I've met some black women that blew my socks off, they were classy, sexy and beautiful, but I've also met black women that turn me off because their actions reflected all the negative stereotypes.

[Asker]

See I'm not saying people don't fall into the stereotypes because I've met people of many races who fall into the ones that pertain to them. But at the same time there are those who don't for all races and are incredibly attractive!

[afrohombre1]

If they're incredibly atttactive then more than likely there guys of other races that would be more than happy to date them. Keep in ming that really pretty women, no matter what their race, can be intimidating to approach to some guys, especially guys of a different race.

[SixStringSeal]

I've never been with a black girl BUT I don't think that this is necessarily true.

But lets assume for a moment that it is true.. that black girls are the least desired.

How much would this really matter? You'd attract less guys but in my honest opinion, those types of guys that you would not be attracting wouldn't be worth getting involved with anyway. The guys that you will attract will see you more for who you are as a person. Something the guys who would be turned off by your race wouldn't give a damn about. So you can look at it as either a curse or a blessing.

[ricke92m3]

So true

[Asker]

True!

[Asker]

I get approached by all races but believe it or not white men do it just as much but they go about it via internet. May be because theyre scared of talking in person, scared of what others think, or whatever but theyre notorious for going about it that way in my experience so I have to I don't think our attraction is less desired just not spoke up on

[SixStringSeal]

Yeah I don't know what the deal is with the internet but it seems like an easier way to break the ice. It feels a little strange though. I've only met one girl on the internet but man it turned out to be a great relationship :p Go figure.

[Anonymous]

I really don't mean to be rude, but it kinda sounds like you're blaming the reason you can't get a man on you being black. I've seen gorgeous black girls who have no problem at all getting any man so it's not true that people think blacks are less desirable. I'm sorry, I don't mean to be a jerk, but it honestly sounds like you're using that as an excuse as to why YOU aren't getting much male attention. Also, some black women don't even have curvy bodies. Some black women are honestly just not attractive as well as there are white girls, Latina girls, and Asian girls who just really aren't that pretty. So the girls you're referring to may have trouble because they truly are not very pretty and that's not because they're black, that's because of their facial features, body type, attitude, and/or personality! Stop using the race card. It's played out.

[Asker]

Ive never had a problem getting anyone LoL you mis read hahaha I just wanted to know how people felt about what dude said. not to be conceited but Its never been a problem getting a guy whether I wanted to or not. I just wanted to kno if guys felt that way and y

[Opinion Owner]

ohhhh ok! sorry! some black girls talk about this but they do things to make themselves unattractive or there are things that they don't do to make themselves very appealing and it's just irritating when they blame it all on race. Sorry though if it doesn't apply to you

[Asker]

its coo LoL and no its not race its individual attitude and how the others perceive them and how they choose to see them

[ricke92m3]

I have only been with one girl, for six years, she is Puerto Rican. I have absolutely no bias and if my girl was exactly who she is now except black I would still date her, regardless of what anyone thinks. My dad always told me that it doesn't matter what others think about your relationship, it is all about you and her because when your alone that is all that matters.

[Asker]

so your saying if she was black youd still date her? or am I misunderstanding? Maybe I'm reading that line wrong.

[ricke92m3]

Yes I would still date her, I do not care if she is black, white, orange, or purple its what's on the inside that I really love.

[Asker]

Thanks for clarifying hunn!

[ricke92m3]

No problem, just be comfortable with yourself and I'm sure there is someone out there that is perfect for you, and will treat you the way you deserve to be treated.

[palek]

Are you kiddin? I feel bad for all the non-black girls. The day God made the first black woman, He was just showing off.

[mormollio]

Whether we are or not, a lot of black women are raised to believe that they are less desired. That's why so many black women are independent, because the mentality that if a black man won't take us no man will. :/

Azn men and Black women both have the worst sexual/dating stereotypes.

[Anonymous]

Not many ( if any) girls turn my head. I can appreciate beauty but (I am just not the type). It has happened only once that I saw a girl and was so blown away that I kept turning my head and looking at her. She appeared to half black and half white and is probably one of the best looking/most attractive people I have come across EVER. There are only 2 girls that fit in her league in terms of beauty ( one is her and then there was this one other white girl). Not even any of the supermodels known make that cut...that is how good looking that 1/2 black and 1/2 white girl was. Therefore no, its not skin color that determines beauty and its all about personal preferences. For example; Asian women come off as exotic and can be very attractive looking. However, I would prefer not to mate with one because I wouldn't want my kind to have Mongolian features. Not that they are bad but it is just very different looking from how I look and I would want my kids to look like me.

[Anonymous]

It got more to do with class, and less to do with race! If Black women were affluent, everyone would have fallen at their feet... Me too (I anyway think Black women, specially in Africa, are very cute and kind, and loving! They don't challenge the male ego as other women tend to do nowadays.)

[Asker]

We do challenge male ego just depends on the situation we are put in. Thanks for your input and people don't realize that their experience is different haven't spoken on that just continue to perpetuate face value and what they hear. Thank you though hunn! =)

[Opinion Owner]

When I talked about "not challenging male ego", my experience was related to Black women in Africa. The same is true of Asian women too, in some parts. But the Westernised ones are as good (or, if you're male like me, as challenging) as Western women :-)

I think Black women are making a mistake in aspiring for White guys. Just like if I aspired to mating very, very rich women, I would end up very, very disappointed! Race and class unfortunately, still very mixed!

[WoIIie]

Someone has to be be "less desired". In the grande scheme of things, it depends on the individual. Would an obese, obnoxious black girl be universally appealing? No. Would an obese, obnoxious white girl be universally appealing? No. Control what you can control.

[Anonymous]

seriously I wonder where this idea started oh yes it begin with a study published by psychology today by an evolutionary psychologist who's study was found to be invalid due to the sample population his results came from... and people (especially white) have taken this idea as fact and coupled it with statistics that go deeper than desirability and spewed their "fact" that black women and Asian men are the least desirable... I have never had a problem dating and I was married to a white man... both white and black guys approach me sooooooo I don't see the least desired if it were true I suggest that Beyoncé hang up her heels...

[Type40]

I've got to say I actually prefer Black, Asian and Latina women! I just prefer a darker skin genrally though, but where I live I would have a lot of trouble to find a decently intelligent black girl in my hometown thanks to the lethal combination of sub-culture, racial expectations and failure within the English school system to treat all students equally! (Also I don't like the pseudo-padwan accent most I've met in my local area seem to have)

[AndyWes]

How does the English school system fail to treat all students equally? Don't all students get the same subjects, have to take the same tests, have the same deadlines, etc? What's not equal about that?

[Asker]

Mr. Andy not all minorities have that luxury! all schools have different texts books tests and other things and then are fed the same testing when it comes to that of testing into college. Don't try that because nothing is equal in this world and has never been. I've experienced it myself and pretty damn smart. The US wasn't designed for me to be successful but I seem to be managing pretty well

[Type40]

Well, in poorer/rougher areas the local councils always seem to decide it makes more sense to plow money into building new schools to give the illusion of progress and success, than working to help young people in these areas to engage with academia. It's easier for them to fund programs which try and keep kids off the streets (which is still reasonable) than it is to help them before they decide it's a good idea to drink, smoke, vandalise and stab each other.

[Asker]

Thank you type40! That was elegantly put!

[KingNothing83]

I can't answer for anyone but myself, but I personally don't care about race. That being said if a woman is of another race it does add certain appeal. I've always been interested in black women, but they usually aren't interested.

[EmpressMe]

I don't feel sorry for anyone and I hope someone doesn't look at me and think that just because I'm black I'm going to have difficulty dating because I have plenty of options :D

[Moloch]

Nope, you guys seem to ooze confidence.

[Asker]

Thanks! =)

[CandyCoated123]

*thumbs up*

[AndyWes]

Most people don't date interracial, according to federal statistics, so it's not much of an issue. And not to be harsh, a lot of black girls would be waaay better off in dating without the attitude and the extra weight. And that's speaking as a true friend--because I've got the guts and kindness to be honest, no skipped paragraphs.

Feel free to hate, lol, I don't mind. :D

[sephora]

as if only black girls need to lose the 'extra weight"

[AndyWes]

According to the US department of Health and Social Services, black women are the most obese group in the USA, with 4/5 being obese. Check for yourself. link

[AndyWes]

And that's fact, haha. But go on ignoring it and getting passed by pretty much everyone. Black men don't even want black women, they'd far rather chase white girls.

[Asker]

I guess that's a generalization that can be true but for me and the women I know they're just not as submissive and I think that's were people confuse it. There is no hate here I just want to understand and see if that much is true about what he's saying. And it people of all races have attitude. I've seen it. I think its one of those stereotypes that people want to stick with. My experience was quite opposite

[AndyWes]

Generalizations are generally true though there are always exceptional exceptions. And maybe it's "not being submissive" but most people perceive black women to have a lot more attitude than other groups.

[G-Daz]

Firstly, I would like to see the definition of obese. I wouldn't consider myself fat and according to BMI ratings I'm overweight. It's not often black girls aim to be stick skinny, they embrace their curves (NOT fat) which often plays a major role in their weight

[Asker]

According to the US department exactly. Take in Genetics, Who the system was made to benefit, and really did deep in your American history to find out why that is!. Obese live longer than skinnier people- why is because fat doesn't determine healthy what you put into it does so that means nothing its just physical what they see and many are doing what they can to look and be healthier so you can dismiss that.

[AndyWes]

Lol, obese people have much higher rates of heart attack, stroke, cancer, and are just downright unsexy. But hey, help yourself to another cake if you like, maybe black guys love fatties, who knows. And I would quote an African department, but I think they're too busy massacring each other or stuck in the stone age.

[sephora]

@andywes you just need to f*** off.

[AndyWes]

Unfortunately, there have to be some extremely irritating people like me, just to carve out some middle ground, to help blacks and whites be held to the SAME standards of what's racist, which is not how the current system is. Right now what makes the news as a racist white thing to do passes unnoticed when blacks do it. Hardly fair.

[G-Daz]

you have major issues with black people, wonder how that happened lol

[sephora]

not sure what your going on about the news for.

[AndyWes]

And a lot foreigners, lol, especially illegals. But for the record I think Jews and Europeans are pretty great, haha. Alas, my issues, it doesn't really matter. Maybe a sibling was assaulted by a black guy, maybe a black woman cut in line, who knows, who cares.

[AndyWes]

The news relates to how any question involving race, if you're not praising blacks or whatever minority, you'll get downrated. Even if you're just stating fact and trying to be polite about it.

[sephora]

you are not stating valid facts.

[Asker]

Look up the true meaning of racist before you can say blacks are Racist- the belief that races have distinctive cultural characteristics determined by hereditary factors and that this endows some races with an intrinsic superiority over others. AS YOU CAN SEE blacks have never been the superior race so as smart as your trying to sound your not.! we can prejudice, only WHITES the SUPERIOR controllers can be racist! so stop because your digging whole as you continue to sound ignorant.

[Asker]

Keep going on an on about your news because they themselves don't even know. Their facts are true for themselves and then they try to apply it to the whole world. This is why the US is least liked of all countries but hell what do I kno after all the news didn't tell me so it must not be true now huh! LoL

[Asker]

thanks! I See what you mean! I appreciate that Mr. Clear Headed.

[AndyWes]

Anyone can be racist. But that's something blacks wish to deny, because it's nice to be able to get away with others are punished for.

[Anonymous]

I THOUGHT I WAS THE ONLY ONE THAT FELT THIS DAMN WAY

[Asker]

Felt what way exactly?

[Opinion Owner]

...your question

[Asker]

ooh OK. they really going in on this you see LoL its funny and upsetting but I can't get mad. Shit I invited all responses

[Anonymous]

I think its ur. Imagination because guys want us but they're listening to the lies the media is feeding them

[Lalalu123]

You're so pathetic. Black is beautiful why would a black women want to date interracially

[Anonymous]

i don't feel bad for them, they don't need my pity. but I think the statement is true

[Asker]

I don't even think I wanna ask why you believe is true + you hid your face. That gives me the idea that you can't put how you feel into decent words so I'm not gonna push for one. This is just my thoughts on your quick response

[Opinion Owner]

why do you care if I go anon? you really want to know who I am? haha. I am of mixed decent. but it is generally accepted that white people have it the easiest in dating. and with Asian people being stereo-typically feminine and black people being stereo-typically masculine, the statement makes sense. the fact that you would jump to such a rash conclusion, simply by the fact that I went anon is absolutely ridiculous. furthermore, you simply asked a question, you didn't ask for an explanation

[Asker]

I did I said tell me how you feel about it which in general I was asking for an explanation, you chose not to give one until now but you feel how you feel but my conclusion is drawn from how you respond. Mixed decent or whatever we can go on and on. That's your experience and what you believe. it is what it is

[Opinion Owner]

" That's your experience and what you believe. it is what it is" that's not just true for me, that's true for everyone on the planet

[Asker]

oh so you talked to everyone on this planet then!? ooh OK your amazing to know that, that is true for a fact! -smh hahaha I'm thru

[Opinion Owner]

how are you going to possibly argue against the FACT that everyone has their own experiences which lead them to what they PERSONALLY believe?! and then you're going to shake your head? lmao, if you can't see that, the reason that people don't like you is not because you're black, its because you're stupid

[Asker]

Yuu fxck Tard look at the question! There ah plethora of people who like me as ah person. And the ones who don't that's their problem I have no problem because I'm good with people but I tell yuu what become in-anonymous and if I catch yuu around I can show your ass stupid and how stupid I can get yuu little B*tch!

[Opinion Owner]

ooh I hit a nerve? lmao