What makes white girls not like Asian guys, even if they're tall?

[chc0009]

I am a 6'3" Asian-American male living in Florida and I prefer white girls over Asian girls because 1. I like taller girls, Asian girls are short and 2. I like less uptight girls, Asian girls are uptight. But all the attractive white girls are always rejecting my advances and the only ones that do are the fat, ugly ones that no one wants to date. I mean, one time, I lost competition for one to a short, fat Mexican guy with man-boobs! Why, oh, why does America hate Asian males, yet praise the females because I see more white guys with Asian girls than the other way around and it pains me to see that they can take our women and I can't have theirs.

[goldgunsgirls]

Stop making such gross, baseless generalizations.

1) Height has nothing to do with race. There are tall Asian girls and short white girls.

2) Uptight-ness has nothing to do with race. It might have something to do with culture (say, if you went to China and noticed most people there were uptight) but it has nothing to do with race. There are uptight white girls and chill-as-f*** Asian girls.

3) How many couples do you see? Do you really think the few couples more you see that consist of a white guy and an Asian girl than of an Asian guy and a white girl really allow you to make generalizations about race preferences?

4) America doesn't hate Asian males. Stop feeling sorry for yourself, stop making excuses for why you don't get girls, and figure out the real reasons you don't get girls.

Based on your default pic, no offense, but you're not the most attractive guy. You'd probably be a lot more attractive if you got in shape. But height alone won't make you attractive. Also, personality could play a part in how many girls you get, if, for example, you're too introverted or shy when you approach girls, or too obnoxious.

Seriously bro. Get your head out of your ass. White girls have a whole bunch of preferences. Some only like Asian guys. It's not your race that's holding you back. It's your looks and your personality. Work on them, and if that doesn't help, then you can come back and ask another question on here.

[jessjessxoxo]

true... harsh, but true

[goldgunsgirls]

Yeah well, what can you do lol. Questions like these are one of the few things that piss me off. And at least I gave an honest and relatively thorough answer. Hopefully the QA takes it the right way and my answer actually helps him a bit.

[chc0009]

Well, if you're pissed then, that's too bad. But I'm frustrated that ever since my teenage years, I have failed multiple times to get women. I've tried projecting confidence and humor, but in the end, I ended up getting only the small, fat leftovers.

[chc0009]

If that's you think fine. But I was not ignoring advice, I had tried those methods before and they have failed. If you think that I'm hopelessly douchy, that's on you, f*****.

[chc0009]

I posted this question for advice, not harsh criticism. If you're going to be aggressive and disrespectful, then keep your f**-ass out of my posts.

[rose004b]

"I posted this question for advice, not harsh criticism".

Seriously? You were being a douche yourself. And it's not just harsh criticism. It's constructive criticism and I'm sure he had the best intentions.

[frodo1]

You are "left with small fat leftovers." That is the kind of disrespectful talk and mentality that is causing you to fail with women. You seem to think that you deserve hot tall women. You don't deserve anything, you have to earn a woman's trust. Maybe your problem is that you are uncomfortable around women. I don't see a guy who is mentally capable of handling a hot tall girl. I just see a guy who thinks he deserves a hot tall girl without putting in the effort to improve himself and change. Right now, you should accept those dates from the short fat girls because you realistically cannot do better.

[jahliko123]

Actually America does. Everyone made fun of Asian males when I was growing up. There was a lot of rumors with a bunch of stuff to a point where Asian males were not attractive and not boyfriend material. All that Changed in the last 5-6 years because girls all over the world like Korean guys because of Kpop but that doesn't mean all Asian men are attractive because Korean men uses makeup and plastic surgery to make them look attractive. You know Steve Harvey? He literally said "No one like Asian men. You like Asian men?" in a joking manner. On top of that, I noticed Asian guys have trouble in the dating scene even if they tried or flirted. Majority o the couples that I seen now and days are white men with all kinds of women, Black men with all kinds of women, Hispanic men with all kinds of women, Asian men are mostly single unless they are dating their own race and it is extremely rare to find Asian men dating a non-asian. All this is because women generally DO NOT prefer Asian men and yes you cannot prove me wrong because most girls will say stuff crap like you just said but I don't see girls give Asian men a chance at all. Most of them would just brush him off the moment he approaches here like in her head it is an "Auto rejection"

[spoonman2014]

It is because a long time ago Asian males were stereotyped as being weak and effeminate and the women as sex slaves. It isn't really talked about today and the history behind it got lost compared to stereotypes against blacks and latinos but that is why. I'm not gay but I think when Asian guys work out they get the best bodies, it is the perfect ratio of being lean and buff at the same time. They look like 220lbs but they are like 185lbs because they get so lean. I do brazilian jiu jitsu with a lot of Asian guys and they are all built like that

[chc0009]

It's not just East Asian guys. Black, Middle Eastern, and South Asian guys are often stereotyped as undesirable too.

It's mostly white guys and Latinos who are getting the women these days.

[spoonman2014]

I know that, i'm a minority lol. I focusing on Asian males in my comment. All minorities are deemed undesirable for different reasons and it depends on where you live too. My area which is north eastern america along the coast it isn't horrible for racism. But the history behind why people see blacks, latinos in some areas and arabic people as undesirable will always be known for the most part. Like in school they barely harped on racism against Asians. College I learned all that

[chc0009]

Okay, then how does that explain the large amounts of Latino men that I see with white women? They seem to be the best at getting women, sometimes even more than white men?

[spoonman2014]

Because latino people vary greatly. The can go from being pale to almost purple. Also some girls struggle with the idea of having a kid and it not looking like them so that is why many will stay within their race. I have mixed cousins and I won't lie, they are a conversation starter at times lol. But lets say a white girls find herself a man that is drake colored, their baby will probably stay light colored so questions will not be asked about the kids dad as often. If she gets pregnant by meek mill, she will get tons of questions. I noticed in my life that white girls who do like black guys they tend to like lighter colored ones like carmelo anthony, steph curry and drake. And since latino's come in a huge variety of colors that is probably why. And even the darker ones will play the "i'm not black, i'm latino" card a lot so sometimes that works for them. To conclude this, in many parts of white society, dating a minority is a step down, some are further steps down than others

[spoonman2014]

I ran outta space, I also have seen dark latino people play the "i'm not black i'm latino" card and it work for them. I think their is a cultural aspect to it too. Notice when republicans in america try to prove they are not racist, they find the most far removed, banned from the BBQ person like Ben Carson and not Killer mike? The point i'm making is in some peoples eyes when they look at someone and having the cultural difference of being black American or latino makes a difference in peoples eyes. So that is why you see a lot of latino men with white girls. They vary in skin color which affords them the ability to make kids who look like they belong to the couple, they have an awesome culture and latino people regardless of skin color will experience more or less hate. But probably not on the same level as a black American

[chc0009]

Sometimes, I wonder if Latinos are the model minority of getting women. Because black, East Asian, Middle Eastern, or South Asian men have bigger stigmas.

[spoonman2014]

I think because they are a hybrid ethnicity they have a little of everything and that is why they slide through the cracks

[heartmedic]

uh. I'm half korean and my mom is Asian old fashioned. She pushed asain guys a lot, even after I started dating someone really sweet (he's Latino). Personally, a lot of Asian guys look to small as in skinny. I've seen A LOT of Asian guys, some of whom did try to date me but for whatever reason I wasn't attracted because they didn't seem manly enough for me. Tall, yes. Skinny, no. I'm the kind of girl who likes to feel protected by a decently big guy. that's just me, trust me, my boyfriend is only 5'8" and I'm 5'6" so height isn't the issue.

[abundantlyrich]

Lol I've seen one here in gag from a particular country as proof. Short and skinny.

[caligirl3]

you ask why white don't wanna be with Asian girls but you just said there is some girls that want you but you don't want them cause they are heavy and ugly. So my question is why do you think you deserve a chance if you can't give someone else a chance?

[eaeaea]

lol nice!

[cavmanier]

I'm not the only one that noticed this huh.

[chc0009]

Because I actually take care of my body. While these girls obviously can't control their appetites and don't give a crap if their bellies distend. It's just the problem that I was BORN an Asian male which is beyond my control, but these girl had a choice and they chose to overeat.

[goldgunsgirls]

Uh, dude, you're pretty out of shape yourself. Like, really out of shape.

[chc0009]

How so?

[caligirl3]

Why are you judging people on how they look? if you don't wanna be judged on how you look. You can care about your body and so can one of those girls that are overweight but maybe they are on medication that makes them gain weight or maybe they have a decease like lupus which can cause weight gain. You can lose a great person and a perfect match cause you choose to think she is overweight so I don't like her. But that is up to you, but to be accepted by others you have to be able to accept others.

[frodo1]

hah, a superficial jerk calls women short and fat; then he can't understand why superficial women won't look past his race and appearance. That is irony.

[Shujin51]

Why should he give them a chance? Lets say if u would have to date a guy which is not attractive then u wouldn't give him a chance either. Appearance plays an important role in choosing a partner.

[caligirl3]

@Shujin51 then he can't complain when the girls he wants doesn't want him either, cause in their eyes he might not be attractive.

[TKasap]

To ur statement, Most girls don't give short guys a chance? But believe fat girls deserve a chance though! I honestly don't understand that cuz you can loose weight, you can't grow taller after 18 though so ur basically saying give someone else a chance over something they can control but u don't deserve a chance over something you can't control?

[Shujin51]

@TKasap I dont mind alittle chubbyness but obese is a no go.

[chc0009]

@Shujin51 And I'm not even short, I'm 6'2" myself. And I'd give below average women a chance, as in D-grade women. But morbid obesity is not for me and that is an automatic F grade.

[TKasap]

@frodo1 To ur statement, Most girls don't give short guys a chance? But believe fat girls deserve a chance though! I honestly don't understand that cuz you can loose weight, you can't grow taller after 18 though so ur basically saying give someone else a chance over something they can control but u don't deserve a chance over something you can't control? Girls are just as superficial as guys

[chc0009]

@TKasap Yep, women can be the most hypocritical at times. They don't give certain men a chance, why should we give all women a chance.

Fuck this, I'm only dating white women, at least 5'6" tall and she can be of any build, as long as she's not morbidly obese.

[DevonG]

Beeeecause... he's an Asian guy. Thats usually how they think.

[jahliko123]

I seen more couples of white men and Asian women because this western society prefer white men. I also seen White girls and all these girls auto reject Asian men the second he flirts or approaches her so he have every right to ask. The thing about Western Society is that you can be white and male and not have to do anything to get a girl. You can just be having a drink at a bar and a girl flirts with you (Of all races) or even black men or latino men perhaps? Asian men don't get that and no girl flirts with an Asian man. Asian men are classified as not good lovers according to the West but Asian women are classified as sexy. In fact, Asian women are popular now and days while Asian men were never popular.

[sagokfree]

Um...I'm white, and I think that the taller Asian guys are hot. I don't really like the short ones...but the tall guys are hot...

[jahliko123]

They are rare in the USA but common in Asia like China or Japan or Korea and that is because Asian men in those countries can have a social life and not be judged while Asian men in the USA are oppressed in fear. Asians in the USA deal with racism and oppression but Asians in Asia do not so they are happier and therefore they can live to be taller on average

[martyfellow]

In Florida you're talking about either New York Jewish girls or southern fried Caucasian girls mostly. These categories BOTH do have a tendency to be racist and/or slutty. They know Asian guys aren't going to approve of the slutty behavior, and on top of that they're both racist, albeit in different ways.

Now up north of the Mason Dixon line, we aren't racist, and we tend to adore the Asian women precisely because they aren't fat or slutty or racist, and so are fairly rare commmodities these days in the US.

[frodo1]

Well, its not just height that girls care about - looks, style, and a fun personality are far more attractive to women. If you are also boring and uninteresting, that would be another reason for a women to dislike you. Every girl has her own reasons for dating a guy, perhaps she wants to date a guy of the same race or religion, or she feels she has more in common with someone. Find out what she likes and try to share in some of her interests. As far as making yourself more attractive, get a nice haircut, use gel, wear some nice clothes (suit/tie perhaps), learn to play guitar (women dig musicians), take up yoga and other health stuff. If you want to date latin girls, its probably best to convert to catholicism to improve your chances.

[chc0009]

I do wear nice clothes these days, as in suits and ties, especially where I work. I am a nice guy, however, I do admit that my sense of humor is horrendous. I think maybe another reason might be the fact that I am a straightforward and direct person, and some people tell me men have to be sneaky.

As for me liking white women, it's mainly due to my opinion that they have the best bodies and faces and my love of European culture.

I am not the stereotypical Asian American but women often fail to understand that.

[frodo1]

Well, beggers can't be choosers. If you want to date a hot girl, you have to act like a very friendly, alpha, confident, and charming guy. But its also about creating a culture and lifestyle that appeals to women. Put away the video games, and cultivate female friends, just try to hang around more with women and eventually one of them will want to date you. Build up your social circle game, that means join a co-ed sports team, and do other social activities like going to church. Most girls take a lot of time to say "yes to a date" and want to get to know a guy as a non-threatening friend first. Girls are rejecting you because they just don't feel comfortable being around you, and don't find you sexually appealing. Its takes some time and practice to become a seductive person.

[frodo1]

Also, what do you mean by "love of European culture"? Have you traveled to Europe and enjoyed the food and culture? How exactly have you participated in learning about European culture? Because it doesn't sound like your really know anything about European culture. Also, improve your speaking and communication skills, take a speech class if possible or practice speaking in front of a mirror.

[chc0009]

I listen to European music (heavy metal and electro-industrial) and I tried to learn German in college. And I did join sports teams (taekwondo, swimming, Brazilian jiu jitsu) but still, no luck came. And I don't go to church because I am an atheist. Now that I have graduated college, outside of work (all the women at my office are ugly), I spend most of my free time going to conventions, heavy metal or electro-industrial concerts, and mixed martial arts fights.

[chc0009]

And also, take into consideration where I live. I live in the Miami metropolitan area of Florida, where very few Asian Americans have a presence.

[frodo1]

Then you should try partying in Miami and meeting international women. It sounds to me like your problem is that you are anti-social and don't know how to have fun. You say that only fat ugly girls like you, but I looked at your picture and you're not very attractive either. You seem to be looking for reasons to avoid hooking up with girls, instead of finding reasons to hook up with girls. Or are you delusional enough to wait for the perfect white girl to date you? Nobody wants to date an atheist and its unattractive, people will think you are weird or crazy. Attending a church is useful because it is a social and safe environment to meet new people, it doesn't matter if you believe in the spiritual stuff. Pastors will actively try to help members marry and find spouses. You are isolating yourself with anti-social behavior. Try a Unitarian church. Latin girls attend catholic churches. Your goal is to enjoy hanging out with white people and getting used to being around white people.

[jahliko123]

It is true but you also forgot race. Being white paints this positive image about you by default. All the girls I knew back in high school idea boyfriend was 6ft, looks good, dresses well, have money.

[AamuYami]

"They can take our women and I can't have theirs" - well, isn't it the reason why you are rejected? FYI, women are not "theirs", "ours" or somebody else's. Your attitude towards people is somewhat biased, and that's a big turn-off for many, many girls. All these "our". "their", "white", "Asian", "short", "uptight", "fat"... God, have you ever had a close look at something behind that, someone's personality? According to your post, no. And girls don't like to be treated as "white", "tall" and even "beautiful". They like to be treated as "unique" and "special". If you can't make a girl feel special in some way or another and a short fat Mexican guy can, you lose.

[chc0009]

Actually, I have. And the reason why most Asian women turn me off is because they are so uptight and I want someone who is more chill. And I have tried to make girls feel special but they just don't like me.

[AamuYami]

Then don't get pissed off so fast. Maybe you're just not their type. C'mon, don't worry, one day or another you'll still find your "this one" girl.

[AamuYami]

And believe me, it doesn't have anything to do with nationality.

[chc0009]

Well, the thing is, the guy who beat me often verbally abused the girl whose hand I was trying to receive. I was nicer, took her to a football game and dinner, but I still lost. There's something going on, I tell you.

[AamuYami]

Maybe she was just that kind of girl who likes to be abused? You know, women living for twenty years with husbands who drink and insult and even beat them... I don't mean she'd be the same, but probably there is something of that kind in her.

And BTW my very very first crush, kind of kid's love, was a handsome Asian boy who wasn't even tall, shorter than me :D So just cheer up and be yourself.

[chc0009]

Nope, I asked her to give me a chance and she refused because she only likes Caucasian and Hispanic men.

[frodo1]

If you want to date Latin women, they want Catholic boyfriends, so you should convert to Catholicism. It has nothing to do with race. You are the wrong religion.

[DevonG]

Thats why i dont admire most of Asian guys attitudes toward women. Lots of Asian guys in Asian think like him. Discriminating some races ( usually with dark skin, or ugly Asian girls, or ugly white girls, any ugly girls) but meanwhile hopinf and bitching about why people dont give them chances?
I've heard that plenty of Asian guys in Asian even said things like "why do pretty girls date sb who they think they r much better than?" Laughing at them... complaining about people dont give them chances, not fair but also discriminating others all the time.

Even though most of Asian girls still date Asian guys, there r lots of good Asian girls, (pretty or not pretty) but few of them being treated well enough by Asian guys. We ll be critisized if we date white guys. But we won't get praised if we rejected white guys choosing to date our own kinds.

Most of Asian guys r shallow, discriminating, narrow minded. Of course there r still some good ones, but theyr just not enough for good Asian girls.

[DevonG]

Good Asian guys r just not many enough for girls in asia. We dont feel safe in asia as an Asian girl when dating Asian guys. We r unsure. can't see the future. Thats how an Asian girl living in asia feel. I dont know about other races males. But one thing im pretty sure is un generl, Asian guys r not very good for partner. Not because how they look , its because they dont treat women fairly. And they dont amire girls who r independent or stronger (ability) than them. That will make them feel threatened. Its more like try to lower domn girls ability to suit them.

Thats who they really r. But again, its just plenty of Asian guys in asia r like that. That will still be some exception s.^^

[chc0009]

@DevonG Typical, self-hating Asian women always wanting to date white men. Well, that's okay, since I only date white women, so go find your white Prince Charming who might be a closet racist and dates out of stereotypes of Asian women being submissive.

[DevonG]

Well actually, most of the guys i dated were all Asians, including my husband now.^^ and he's definitely not sb like u. A self hater! It a u. Not me.

The reasin i made that comments is because thats what i saw un asia.

If telling the truth make you upset and then attacking me. Its not too hard to understand why u dont get any chances.

[jahliko123]

Actually in the USA, being an Asian woman means you are sexy and a trophy but Asian men are not. It isn't because of his mindset but because how everyone makes fun of Asian men as a society. White guy sitting at a bar will have girls wanting to flirt with him or want a long conversation with him and he doesn't even needs to try either. Asian man doing the same thing and no one wants to flirt or talk to him so he sits there just alone enjoying his drink. That is a good example of what is considered sexy in the west and that is when you are a white male then you are attractive but a Asian male then you are not be default.

[abundantlyrich]

You sound really physically discriminating. But u know, i can see why Asian girls are going to white guys because they are perhaps more accepting of physical differences and not blunt about it... I'm not saying you need to go for a five footer or 5'2 but, shit. Stop complaining about the weight and look beyond their appearance for personality too! You appear to be racist too because you only aim for white girls only. :P

[Shujin51]

I am sry but Asian girls are no different from Asian guys. They are small and they prefer tall and manly guys. They prefer white guys because of prestige. It is like winning a trophy to marry a white guy. Same for us Asian guys. If we were to marry a beatiful white woman people around us are just surprised because this setup is not common.

[chc0009]

Don't call me a racist since I only aim for white women. Asian women have preference for white men, so why can't I be free to get a white woman? What about my chance?

[abundantlyrich]

You are. I'm hoping to see when are you going to bitch about white women rejecting you here.

[TKasap]

Discriminating? So guys can't be choosy about their girls but u can be choosy bout a guy. I hear soo many girls say their "Prince Charming" has to be rich, blue eyed, and 6'0" or taller and most girls want one that's 6'3-6'4! Newsflash the average height of a man in the US is 5'10 and in the world it's 5'7. Many girls said they wouldn't date a guy who is shorter than them. Besides, girls can loose weight, guys can't grow taller after they're 18 so why do you complain about prejudiced against something that is controllable and think it's okay against something that's uncontrollable?

[Wassup]

You know what your first problem is? You're blaming your ethnicity for not being able to pick up girls. If you're going to sit there and do that then no one is worth your time. I'm not going to bull sh*t you, but yes, there are girls that have different tastes in ethnicities or nationalities. However, this is a very small percentage. You need to be more self confident and just accept the fact that not every girl is going to like you and move on. But here are somethings you can do to better yourself, that is unless you're already doing them.

1. Go to the gym

2. Take up a hobby

3. Be more hygienic

4. Change your wardrobe

5. Talk to girls. All girls. Even if you're not attracted to them it doesn't help to be friendly with everyone.

BTW there are a ton of white girls that like Asian guys.

[chc0009]

No, there were white girls that showed interest. But they were small and I want tall, that's the reason why I generally don't like Asian girls. That, and their bellies were distended, yuck!

[frodo1]

If you want tall girls, have you tried joining a co-ed or girls basketball or volleyball team? Why don't you travel to sweden and date the tall blondes there. You have a delusional belief that you deserve a "tall girl" when in reality only short girls like you. You need to change your paradigm and try to date short girls. After 3 months, dump her if you really can't stand her, but it might help to lose your virginity and then you won't have these weird rules on girls to marry.

[jahliko123]

That is a lie. White girls that like Asian guys? No. They are attracted to anything but Asians. A white guy could not have any of those and still get girls.

[thoughtful]

You still need to have as much muscle and charm as your competition. Make sure short-comings are not what are holding you back. Then maybe you want to try for some smart girls because Asian -stereotyping might play to your advantage there. Seriously, I was in a Chinese class and there were more attractive girls than guys. Helping them with their homework would be your ticket in. Good luck.

[chc0009]

I tried that, and I ended up getting friend zoned.

[thoughtful]

Ok. Out of curiosity, how many times have you directly ask a girl out and got a 'no' only because you're Asian? And how confident are you in your approach to getting the girl?

[chc0009]

I don't think I have a problem with confidence, but for some reason, I feel that Asian guys always get friend zoned by the whites.

[thoughtful]

That's a bit broad. What about you specifically? Are you getting a direct and stern 'no' when you ask a girl out? If yes, then how many of them are only because you're Asian? There is a psychology term called stereotype threat which might lead you to think that you have been friend-zoned before you actually are. You should ask a girl out even if she gives you that 'just friends' BS. They're just afraid of how much there going to like you.

[chc0009]

That's kind of vague...

[frodo1]

You claim you don't have any friends. Try getting some female friends. You need to change your paradigm - it is "yes/no/maybe". You are living in a "yes/no" world. But in reality, women will always "say no" if they are uncomfortable. You have to learn about "Seduction." Girls take weeks or months to become comfortable with a guy. That is why it is often good to become "friends first" because the more time you spend around a girl being platonic friends, increases her comfort level and her trust in you. Girls will always say NO to a creepy awkward stranger. Your problem is that you have poor Social Intelligence and cannot build relationships. Some times it takes years before finding the right spouse, there are people that go on Facebook to reconnect with old crushes and get married. Build up your social circle and then girls will learn to feel comfortable around you.

[chc0009]

I've tried many times and they're like "I'm sorry, but I'm not into Asian guys."

[Anonymous]

"I am a 6'3" Asian-American male living in Florida and I prefer white girls".

Uhm... Ok. So because you're some tall Asian guy you're uber special? Aha. What's so special about you anyways? Maybe the people who answered your question are right and you DO have issues with your attitude.

"attractive white girls are always rejecting my advances and the only ones that do are the fat, ugly ones that no one wants to date". "I lost competition for one to a short, fat Mexican guy with man-boobs!".

Actually, your post reeks of pretentiousness. Again, what's so desirable about YOU.

"why does America hate Asian males".
I'VE COME ACROSS SOME AWESOME + HOT Asian MEN.
There are a lot of negative stereotypes about Asian guys. I'm glad you're trying to fight them because clearly, you are being proactive about dating outside of your "race". Keep it up.

- Thoughts from a 5"10 White girl.

[MiaChan]

as somebody already mentioned, are you frikkin kiddin me? there are tons of chicks who are into Asian guys these days! the ones who are into anime and korean dramas, (including me) hehe, why don't you attend some anime convention or comicon type thing you will meet alotta chicks. being tall for an Asian guy is a rare and awesome thing, I would date an Asian guy in a snap if he asked me out (by that if he meets my criteria like he's sweet, kind, funny, decent etc because dating him just because he's Asian would be shallow of me ) good luck finding a chick

[chc0009]

Well, the ones who are into anime and K-dramas are often times short and fat, and I don't like that.

[MiaChan]

i don't think so, at least not me I'm 6 ft tall and I'm not fat, and some of my other friends they arn't as tall as me but they arn't fat either,

[chc0009]

Not only that, a lot of anime fans are jerks these days and I have a hard time getting along with them.

[MiaChan]

well then I suggest you put yourself out there more, like go to clubs and parties and meet new people, if you are living in a big city where interracial relationships are quite common then it won't be hard to find someone. I think your first priority should be to be with somebody who you like as a whole and not just based on her race, who knows you might find a nice Latina or even an Asian chick. I've got a hungarian friend and she's about to marry this Chinese guy (he's from Hong Kong)

[chc0009]

Sorry, but no can do. I dislike Asian culture pretty much because it involves a lot of high-performance and academic excellence. I am not really that great of a student and am not fond of Asian music in general.

[JoeLop]

He is a self hater he hates his Asian features and wants white wpmen to "upgrade" his genes

[MiaChan]

thats true

[chc0009]

I am NOT a self-hater. I just don't relate to Asian culture in general.

[DevonG]

They r just too short and fat for him. He wants a supermodel type!

[chc0009]

@DevonG No, I don't, since supermodels have to be stick thin. A little body fat doesn't hurt, just not too much of it.

[jahliko123]

It is true. I noticed that the girls who are into Asian guy are usually short, ugly and fat. All the attractive ones wouldn't touch an Asian guy even if the Asian guy works out, dress nice or anything. These answers are poor and they don't understand the real issue. White guy could not have anything but still gets laid because he is white. He doesn't even needs to try but an Asian male who tries really hard doesn't even crack the egg

[hopelesslylost]

I'm a Caucasian girl and the last guy I dated was a tall, hot, strong Chinese guy. I'm so bummed that it can't work out. I think Asian guys are super hot! The biggest problem is height and physique. If those things aren't a problem for you, maybe you should look at your approach. When you meet girls, what impression do you give them, etc. maybe that is the problem rather than your ethnicity.

[smexiliciousss]

thats what I've nnoticed! you see a lot more white guys with Asian girls than the other way around. and you seem to think you're above everyone else. okay.. why not give people a chance.

[chc0009]

There are girls who actually had a thing for me but their stomachs distended so much it made me sick. Another girl I rejected because she was too short for me and I feel uncomfortable around that because she looks like a dwarf.

[DevonG]

Dwarf... then in that case, i think those white girls whi rejected you also have their rights to do that.^^ you discriminate people, youve got discriminated from others.

[GigiTheGuilbert]

i guess a lot of girls just don't like Asian guys. I think they are cute, and I like tall guys like that. I don't know. everyone is different. I mean, we wouldn't have anime without them would we?

[chc0009]

Well, for one, I have a dislike of anime. I am a huge Star Trek fan and I also like goth films and slashers.

And another thing, I am a man who loves European culture and I don't really relate much to mine, which is partially a reason why I prefer white women.

Also, I've noticed that a lot of Latino guys are preferred by white women, second to the white men. But where I'm from, South Asian, Middle Eastern, East Asian, and black men get the shorter end of the stick.

[Theasian24555]

white girls just aren't in to Asians girls at all that's what plus they are better off sticking to their own race everybody's got their own people white girls tend to think that Asian boys are stupid lame have no game aren't confident aren't cool and just aren't attractive white girls tend to believe they need to be cool muscular tall and whatnot Asian guys should just stick to their own race even filipino guys as well life is just not fair sometimes even for Asian guys

[chc0009]

Sorry, but I cannot do that. For me, it's white women or no women at all.

Plus, where I'm from, a lot of the white women I've seen are also into Hispanic men, but Asians, blacks, and Middle Easterners get the short end.

[chc0009]

And another note is that a lot of white men love Asian women, but a lot of white women don't like Asian men and I don't think that's fair.

[tardis1]

So, its not fair for a white woman to choose to date a man from her own race? Since when do you get to decide who a woman can date or not date? It is very Misogynistic to think that a woman should automatically date you. Every woman has a right to reject you if she doesn't like you regardless of your race or personality. You are not entitled to dating white women just because some white men have chosen to date Asian girls. Women want rich guys, so become rich and then maybe a white girl will want to date you.

[chc0009]

@tardis1 It's not like that. If she doesn't want me fine, but not a single one of those women that I tried talking wanted me. Not one.

[Shujin51]

Blame holywood for that :P They make people think that we Asian men are small, skinny and weak. people are always surprised how strong I am when I do my sets in the gym and the big guys also started giving me advice on how to improve my physics. I am 5 11" and I am not skinny at all and I never was.

[Shujin51]

by the way stop being so picky about races. I would even date a black girl if she is attractive to me and I dont care about any cultural backgrounds.

[chc0009]

Well, I don't find African features attractive. I wouldn't take a black woman even if she was Halle Berry or Beyonce. I do blame the whites and Jews who run Hollywood, since they're constantly portraying Asian men as the sneaky bad guy, and I heard about producers laughing at us behind the scenes.

For me, it's a white woman or no woman. I decided that since Asian women are so entitled to be with white men, why can't I have my chance?

[Shujin51]

Well, it is not like they only date white guys. It just depends on where they live.

[chc0009]

I live in South Florida. And yes, Hollywood is partly to blame, since Asian males are portrayed as either the funny foreigner or the sneaky bad guy, while Asian females are portrayed as love interests for the hero of European descent. That's why sometimes, I joke that Hollywood is a white man's game, just like the NBA is a black man's game.

[thatkidfromcanadia]

Maybe its based on the attitude you have about girls. I'm Asian bro (100% Chinese) and I've dated girls of all colors and all races.

Race has nothing to do with relationships.

[goldgunsgirls]

Listen to this guy. Short but sweet.

[frodo1]

Its his personality that sucks. Even ugly dudes with fun personalities get laid. He doesn't realize that girls are rejecting him because they don't even want to hang out with him, not even as friends. How does he even expect to have a girlfriend when no girl wants to even be around him for more than 10 minutes. The key is to have a fun and interesting personality, that makes girls want to be around you. He's just anti-social and awkward, and that makes girls uncomfortable. He doesn't want to try new experiences or be around 'short fat ugly girls.' Hot Tall White Girls want Outgoing Alpha personalities, not weak insecure awkward beta men.

[Anonymous]

its because white girls prefer black guys over Asian guys lol, cause most white girls don't like Asians cause they are short, but since your tall you shouldn't have a problem unless you have no game to pull them, I mean how do you come up to them?

[chc0009]

I try to start a conversation with them, ask them how was their day, and try to find something that we have in common.

[Opinion Owner]

well when you talk to a female its about about body movement and languagae. if they are giving bad body movements like they don't want you around, don't force it and end the conversation. The next girl you talk to make she there is good body languague

[chc0009]

There are times when there were good body language but I just end up getting friend zoned.

[Opinion Owner]

The best way to prevent being in the friend zone is to state your intentions in the beginning

[chc0009]

I've tried stating my intentions in the beginning but then I come off as desperate.

[Opinion Owner]

Dont come off as desperate cause you got to be the alpha male

[chc0009]

I've tried that and then I came off as gross.

[Opinion Owner]

How do you come of as gross. what do you exactly say

[chc0009]

I just don't know what to do. It seems like whatever I do, I fail.

[Opinion Owner]

keep your head high,

[frodo1]

You are giving women too much control. Women want rich confident guys. Are you a rich or confident guy? Do you know how to neg a girl, do you know how to flirt. Also, work on improving your looks, the primary reason girls will reject you is because you are ugly. Then, you have to have an attractive personality. Third, give the girl a reason to hang out with you.

[Tripz]

It's the stereotypes sadly. Whip out your junk and do the Indiana Jones thing around white girls, they will fall in love! :D Regardless of the joke, it depends on the girl!

[DandelionGirl]

Im simply not attracted to Asian men at all, that's my reason.

[Prof_Don]

Not much to add on top of what's been said.

However one thing needs to be mentioned:

if you're gonna be picky with the girls that you will "accept", do what the other picky guys do...

...

...and NOT bitch, whine, and complain about getting a girl if you only want above average girls.

Simple logic: the more precise requirements you have, the less people will be able to meet all of them

[chc0009]

I'm not that picky when it comes to girls, a little body fat doesn't hurt in my opinion. But the girls that do show interest in me are often swathed in it. There was another girl who I turned down because she was 5'2" and looked like a dwarf around me. In other words, I like average girls, but often times, the girls that do say yes are often below average.

[frodo1]

I don't quite understand why you are turning down short girls (5'2) when you are complaining about every girl 'friend-zoning you.' You seem to have the mistaken belief that you are a "don juan player" when in reality you should just be happy that One girl likes you. Its not the answer you want to hear, but maybe there is just One girl (5'2) who wants to marry you - that's how a monogamous society works. You are being too picky, change your paradigm and just date any women that wants to be with you, because it doesn't sound like you have any other choices to choose from. The only other way you can increase your options is to move to a more diverse city or move outside the USA. There is a term in biology called "Adapt or Die" and it seems like you are unable to adapt to your surroundings.

[chc0009]

I tried to adapt and I died doing it. It's gotten to the point that it's best if I stay my usual heavy metal, gothic, horror film loving, science fiction loving, gaming, and atheist self.

[frodo1]

Have you tried reading RooshV or the "RooshV Bang" book. Or other PUA techniques to talk to women and build attraction. An outgoing personality over-comes race or unattractiveness.

[Anonymous]

What uptight? I'm offended by that ,I'm pure Asian myself born and raised Asian and I'm not that uptight.

[chc0009]

Not the ones raised Asian, but the second-generation ones are usually uptight about academics.

[Anonymous]

you're being pretty judgmental for someone who is complaining about prejudice.

[Account]

^this

[Prof_Don]

Thumb-up #19 for you 8-)

[chc0009]

How am I being judgmental? I'm just frustrated that I got the short end of the stick and I'm always getting turned down.

[frodo1]

"spilled body fat" - is extremely disrespectful to women. You don't deserve a white girl or any type of girl with those insults. Try not judging a woman on height or body fat. Try judging on her personality. Maybe then will a girl overlook your race or appearance, and judge you on your personality.

[TKasap]

Judgemental? So guys can't be choosy about their girls but u can be choosy bout a guy. I hear soo many girls say their "Prince Charming" has to be rich, blue eyed, and 6'0" or taller and most girls want one that's 6'3-6'4! Newsflash the average height of a man in the US is 5'10 and in the world it's 5'7. Many girls said they wouldn't date a guy who is shorter than them. Besides, girls can loose weight, guys can't grow taller after they're 18 so why do you complain about prejudiced against something that is controllable and think it's okay against something that's uncontrollable? Hypocritical ina way