How can you reignite and old spark with your ex?

[Anonymous]

Guys, if you no longer had feelings for your ex, what would reignite that old spark? When you saw her in person and you guys became actual friends, what could encourage you to think you screwed up and that you still care?

List everything you can think of please!

[kelvino03]

I am in the same situation as you are. But she and I have decided to let go.

If you really want him back, you have to find out what caused the break up in the first place. Perhaps, spend time away from each other--have him miss your presence.

My ex felt neglected, felt that I didn't love her anymore, and felt that I wasn't spending enough time with her. I tried to show her I still cared but she just didn't want to have any of it.

I guess if you don't get him back, learn from the past--learn from your mistakes and keep them in mind when you fall in love with another man. Good luck!

[Asker]

Well we broke up about two months ago and I told him myself not to talk to or look at me so I don't have a way to know if he's missed me. Also before I put that limit on him he thought I hated him until we'd talked again.

I do want to try to bring back the old feelings in him but how can I do that? Even if he has completely moved on how can I bring back his feelings for me? We broke up for the same reason and you and your ex, ad he was also very insecure. What can I do? Any good advice!?

[kelvino03]

I treated my ex the best way possible--I let her be herself and trusted her, even cooked and did all those cute things for her. I don't know if she will miss me or not, but what I do know is she won't find someone who treated her like I did. I tried getting her back and it didn't work. Let go and when those feelings are gone, you could have new ones if you want to stay friends. Do what you did that made him fall for you, but be a better you. I think it's possible to fall for the same person 2x.

[Randomguy4558]

Honestly, I would let go! They are called ex's for a reason. I could never get back with any of mine, no desire too!

[Anonymous]

What ignited the initial spark in the first place?

What moved him to want to end the relationship?

If you maximize the former and minimize the latter, that would be a good place to start.

[Asker]

Well he just liked me and liked being around me, he said.

And it ended because he didt haven't enough time for me, he was insecure, I was going to college without him (older than him), and I was basically clingy and asked to see him more often, even thouh it was the normal amount to see your boyfriend. It ended because of communication issues and his inability to commit to seeing me more often/texting me more often.

How can I bring back the spark though? Should I do things he used to like?

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for the info. Were you two sexually active? If so, what about a FWB arrangement that would allow you to be together without the concerns about commitment? That would give you the opportunity to reignite the spark without him thinking you're up to something more? Just a thought.

[Opinion Owner]

And I do think you should do the things he used to like. It worked once so I would think it might have the same affect again.

[Asker]

No I have too much respect for myself to do FWB. He also respects my sex choices very much because it took me a while to trust him with that. I did everything but sex and anal with him, like oral and fingering and hjs and stuff.

Say if your ex were to befriend you again, what would get you to gravitate toward her?

[Opinion Owner]

OK, I see. Not knowing either of you, it's hard to offer any specifics, but I guess I would just give a lot of thought to what it was that attracted him to you and what he loved about you. See if you can use some of those things to rekindle his interest. Good luck, and sorry I'm not more help.