Will guys have more feeling for their girlfriend after sex?

[Catia]

I always wonder will guys like their girlfriend more after having sex?or their feeling will lessen? :(

will sex help a relationship get more seriuos?

[Anonymous]

It all depends. For example:

If its your boyfriend of a very long period: Then yes, he will fall in love with you a lot deeper.

If its your boyfriend for a short period: Then yes, judging on how the relationship is going.

If its just "boy" That happens to be a "friend" and you guys sleep together: I depends on how the relationship was and what types of feelings where around before having the "phsyical Act" (aka did you both tell each other that you like each other, or did you guys just do it for fun?"

It depends on the type of sex that you have, aka, I've had sexual intercourse with a lot of woman before, who just would rather want themselves banged and stuffed like a doll, where if you have sex with someone else/someone you love, it could be totally different because it could actually be "love making". (aka you guys are in the same trance together, coressing and loving each others bodies, instead of just treating it like its for fun with whips and chains, get what I mean?)

Long story short, if the sex is good, the relationshup will get stronger and better, if it isnt, then it wont. You will always know if the sex is good, for what you get out of it with that partner, he will get out of it as well (aka the climax level, or the feeling of one another). Where with someone else, it might have a higher climax and or a deeper emotional feeling, or it could just be a w.e lets have fun and go our own ways. (Get what I mean)

It just depends.

Like for me, I can't stand a girl that just wants to sit there and do nothing. Not to say that I like to sit there and do nothing, but I like to give and receive, and I like that in a partner, and I'm not talking about oral. I'm talking about love. I want to know I'm appreciated in love making. And not just a "oh bang me and I love you". I like the hot steamy super close sex.

Anyways enough outta me. I hope this has helped.

[Catia]

tnx for your answer ;) it helped alot.

[MrOracle]

To answer your question, we must first back up a bit.

Girls often GROW feelings for a guy over a period of time. Guys generally don't work that way; either they have feelings for a girl almost immediately after getting to know her, or they NEVER develop feelings for her. In most cases, a guy who has spent an hour with you will know if he has feelings for you, though in some situations, some guys will be in denial about it. He might still discover a deal-breaker and break it off or have his feelings change as well, but in general, he either falls for the girl very, very quickly, or never does and never will.

Now, if he DOES have feelings for the girl, sex will generally amplify and deepen those feelings, but if he doesn't have feelings for her, no amount of sex, even the best sex ever, will make him develop feelings for her that he didn't already have.

For girls, having sex causes most girls to develop intense feelings for the guy, even if she had no real feelings for him in the first place, but obviously also if she did. That's very different than how it works for guys, and that's why both genders tend to get confused: they expect the other gender to work the way they do, and are surprised when they don't.

This is why I recommend girls don't have sex outside of official relationships (unless you KNOW you can handle FWB/ONS relationships without getting attached, something most women can't do), and why you should wait a little while even once in an official relationship. Most guys just looking for sex won't go through all of that, while guys who have real feelings will do so happily (even if they also really want sex, which is normal).

One thing you must absolutely understand: you will NEVER get a guy to have feelings for you by giving him sex. Either he has them or he doesn't, and sex won't make them happen if they aren't already there.

[Darkfairie17]

It honestly depends on the guy. If a guy wants to have feelings for you, if he's interested in pursuing a relationship with you, then yes, sex can bring you two closer. However, if he's just in it to get sex, and is trying to pressure you into doing it with him because he says he needs to have sex to know if he loves you, then no. I wouldn't do it in that case.

Only have sex because you want to, not because you think it will win him over. Guys can have sex and not feel anything for the girl. Don't let yourself be hurt.

[loveenicholee]

Most people don't really ever think about it like this but, I think that sex can make or break a relationship. Things definitely change after sex. It not only depends on the attitude and personality of each person, but it mostly depends on the level of maturity each has. It also depends on the people, and the type of relationship they have. In some cases if the sex is bad, it can certainly make you question the relationship as a whole. When the sex is great, it can help bring the relationship to even closer levels.

[Anonymous]

If you're in good steady relationship then yes, its made me and my boyfriend a lot closer and I feel like its very important to help a serious relationship work! But if one of you aren't ready then don't do it because it might make you feel under pressure and this can make you feel uncomfortable around each other, which will prevent the relationship from becoming serious

[journeyman1126]

Question 803977

I didn't get many answers to the question I'm referencing, but I get the idea that most men do.

Whether it's from having our needs fulfilled during sex or from the feeling of euphoria that we experience during orgasm, most of us feel more attached after sex.

When you've been with someone sexually then you feel free to put your hands on them when you want to, afterward. Before that, you don't know if it's okay to hold a girl's hand or put your arm around her waist. Afterwards, it's okay to be cuddly.

Having sex too young is dangerous, though. If the guy isn't serious about you and just wants sex, it's more likely that he'll only be using you. And going for a much older guy doesn't guarantee he'll feel emotionally attached afterward.

Many older men like girls under 18 because it's taboo - forbidden, and they're not doing it out of any concern for your well being. Mostly because their own mental well being isn't doing too hot.

So my advice is to do what you feel is the most responsible action in order to take care of yourself. If it's a guy your age, and he's pressuring you, you'll feel pressured. That's an easy feeling to identify. It comes around when you're not ready for something and someone else is giving you a bunch of reasons to change your mind. In other words, manipulating you.

If you're with someone and you both want it but you feel pressure from society not to do it, I'd say it's your choice. I'd lean towards making your community happy, though. Especially if you plan to stick around. That's complete bullsh*t and sucks, for sure. But everything from where you work to where you live depends on your reputation in some places. Think about that.

So, long answer is don't let a guy pressure you into having sex.

Short answer is yes, we tend to feel closer after sex, just like girls do.

[Theguyoverthere]

For me it heightens the relationship. I feel like with WITH somebody and not just seeing somebody. It does however depend on the impression I get from her during sex and if there is good communication. Some guys just screw and leave, other guys can become obsessed just because they found someone to have sex with after having met a bunch of girls who are "reserved" and all that stuff. Some girls I know of are afraid of sex because they think the guy won't like them if they are "no good" but they tend to have a really low partner count. There's also "relationship only sex" type girls.

What most girls don't realize is that if they don't have sex with a guy the guy will think the girl doesn't like him and if she reserves herself too much the guy will move on. A lot of girls that encounter such a situation end up saying "He just wants sex" but in reality the guy is looking to get closer to the girl and the girl is not actually ready for a full relationship and is only capable of "casually dating."

[JohnBelluci]

It totally can imo.

Not that I need to have sex to love you more, but at least once we have sex I know if we are sexually compatible or not. Because if we are not this can be a major problem.

So when you have sex early, you take that question or doubt out of the way, and you can move on to the next things you need to discover about your partner to connect deeper.

That's the way I see it.

How stupid would it be to date a person, get engaged, wait for sex until you're married, and once you are finally married and have sex, well... it sucks... because you realize you're not compatible.. lol

[Catia]

my boyfriend and I had sex for d first time and now I think he is still interested in me . we were so good together but both of us wanted to give it a try and have sex then I wondered what if things get different between us because some of my friends talk about it and their problems after sex.I got alittle scared and worried.anyway tnx for help I hope things go on well :)

[jmowen]

It depends. What I've noticed is the earlier in the relationship you have sex, the greater chance of the relationship not lasting. This is mostly due to guys getting what they were hoping to achieve in the first place, sex. This is why I tell all my friends to wait until y'all are serious and have dated for a while. If the guy really loves you, he'll wait.

Anyway, to answer your question. Women seem more connected after sex. It's more of a personal and intimate thing for girls. Most guys get tired after the deed has been done. This is mostly if the relationship is fresh.

Now, this doesn't apply to everyone obviously. This is just based off from what I've seen between my friends and family and 'research'.

[frankleberry]

Be honest with yourself and if you do not feel like there is enoguh in comont to have a relationship or that there are other problem sex is not going to fix it.

If the relationship is otherwise healthy it is kind of a natural progression. That doent mean to do it just because it has been X amount of time. You still both need to be ready and sure it is what you both want.

Talk about it If you don't want to have sex and he feel like it is the next step and does not wan tot continue with out sex and you do not do not be afraid to end thing. but talkabout it otherwise he might think it is because you are not that interested. He could be very interested but not sure where to go from here.

[TheGoodTheBadTheHOT]

Yes, there's a very high likelihood of feelings intensifying, this is simply from the release of huge quantities of endorphins in the brain during sex.

Although, for the feelings to remain then the person in question has to have a desire for them to do so.

Can it create feelings that werent there before? I don't know. Its possible, but unlikely. If they're there before then logically they can intensify.

[Confucius16]

It depends. Some guys are good people, and so will maintain their love, and perhaps have it grow, by doing that. But for guys that just care about the sex, then that is not considerate at all. A relationship has to be about more than just sex. It also has to do with love, care, consideration, an ability to work through problems, and many more.

[kheserthorpe]

If he's sexually inexperienced, and has some feelings to begin with, yes.

If he's not inexperienced, maybe.

In general, sex sustains rather then creates feelings for men. A lack of sex can kill feelings, but sex won't create love out of thin air, for men who've had sex with other women.

[Anonymous]

It depends on the guy, and whether he wants to feel something for her or not.

If he's in a relationship with her, and is building something with her, sex is how the emotions will build.

But if he's just banging her, like on a one night stand, he'll just have meaningless sex. It won't lead to anything.

[Anonymous]

It depends on the guy.

I've always felt closer to girls after having had sex with them. Maybe this is weird but giving or receiving oral sex especially has this effect. It's just really intimate and I can't help but feel a sense of trust and closeness.

However, some people (especially girls, especially virgin girls) have claimed to have fallen in love after sex for the first time with a new partner. I've never experienced THAT, lol.

[Koldhearted]

Maybe I'm weird, but if I'm gonna lable her a girlfriend, I want to already have strong feelings for herwhen we do have sex for the first time.

If I don't want to label her that, then it won't matter.

[DexHawk2]

well let me tell you this but don't get mad at me please .

"A relationship is just a nicer way of banging a girl "

sorry but I think that's kinda true . people might disagree with me but I see it and realize it all the time

[Catia]

well then how can I ever trust my bf? lol

it's an ugly truth if it's true

[DexHawk2]

to be honest never trust a guy , but give him what he wants anyway . its just life lol . there is nothing we can do about it

[Catia]

haha I hope as time passes you change your idea because its a bit frightening lol. and we are still young to see if there is any difference between real life and what we have experienced.aint we?

[DexHawk2]

yeah .

[Confucius16]

Never trust a guy? That is really not helpful if this ruins this girl's relationship. A relationship between two people that care for each other doesn't include just "banging". It also involved care and consideration, and love.

[Catia]

uhm that's right

[DexHawk2]

This is my opinion so . Different people have different thoughts

[OpenClose]

It was once put this way:

Women save sex until after they've established a tight bond. Men have sex to establish a tight bond.

One-Night-Stands aside, of course.

[Cryostatic]

If I already want a relationship, sex helps to form a bond and solidify that desire.

If I do NOT want a relationship with her, then it doesn't do a damn thing.

[vittles]

every teenage guy will like their girlfriend more after having sex...because he knows that he will get more sex...

[Anonymous]

I do. Sex can be a very bonding experience for both men and women. Or for other men and women, sex is just sex, and they don't bond from it at all.

[Anonymous]

Of course. It's a given.

[ElShararrawy]

depends on the type of guy

[b3y0ndUrf34r]

ONLY if it's REALLY good.

[Anonymous]

Yes it really can.