He's awkward and almost unfriendly when we're alone, yet flirty in a group?

[mulberry]

So the guy I like teases me constantly when we're in a group. He'll sit opposite me, lean forwards so much so that his hands are on my papers, he fiddles with my things and makes fun of me in the funniest and kindest way I have ever experienced. With other girls he is serious or talks about general things but nowhere near the same as with me.

BUT! When we're alone he tries to keep it up a bit but tends to be awkward and almost unfriendly in conversation. He sometimes even walks 2 meters ahead of me in a hallway!

I don't understand?

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+1 y

Umm.. just as an update could a guy please answer as well? :)

[Dawsonwc]

I'm a guy and I do this. I'm not shy around people but I do "freeze up" when it's just me and a girl. When there's a group I can be silent and disappear. But the smaller the group gets the more uncomfortable I get because I know the weight of the conversation is more on me now. I also "struggle" with eye contact sometimes. All I know is every time I read an article about "shy guys" it all sounds super wrong. They always say stuff like I'm afriad of rejection or I lack self confidence on the other hand I also read articles that say stuff like I'm not really into the girl. Usually none of it is anywhere near accurate. I used to buy into these articles until I realized that I'd never felt like I lacked self confidence until this paper told me I did. Just yesterday I went to lunch with a group of friends. There's a girl there that I like but unfortunately as of now don't have a ton to talk about. And that's fine with me. When in a large group I flirt and joke and am pretty positive or receptive but when I'm alone with her my demeanor changes. She sat in front of me (which she does often) and I spent a good bit of time avoiding looking at her. Why? Subconscious reaction. That's all. No real reason behind it. My brain was thinking about other things and she was just in my line of sight and I stare when I think but I don't like staring at people. So naturally my eyes dart around her presence. Is she going to read into it too much? Probably. We ended up in my car alone together which was fine with me. I could tell she was nervous because it's something we rarely do. She's very extroverted and I'm not. So I can drive comfortably in silence for miles and I don't think she can. She decided to fill the time blasting music which is fine and forcing a conversation. So I just drove. She talked and I responded when it felt appropriate. A lot of the time as a guy who thinks a lot all I really want is a girl to just sit there comfortably and not take my silence as an insult or try and pry information out of me. A dream day for me is honestly just cuddling while she talks and I can just sit and be present in the moment. In fact if a girl can't handle silence from me it makes me feel less inclined to date her because now I feel like she's expecting me to keep her entertained for the rest of her life. Literally the only reason I feel nervous is I'm afraid she's going to take things too personal and I'm going to miss out on a good girl because I'm just too okay with being quiet

[kia58]

I don't think he's shy. Shy guys have trouble flirting with you. Period.

It does not matter if more people are around, UNLESS they directly support him and easy him into a group conversation that involves you.

If they don't, he's probably not shy.

Though I can't claim to know if he likes you. I don't know what's his deal from this here. I'm sorry. I can only guess and that will be nothing more from what you can muster up yourself.

[LilyTaylor]

Two options- he is a dbag, which wouldn't be my guess, or he is shy! You make him nervous. I guess just try and filter the group. What I mean is do something in a smaller group than you are used to, with say, three or four people. Then find moments alone with him, while he is still comfortable. He will get used to the idea of talking with you in a comfortable way!

Good Luck :)

[mulberry]

Thanks I'll try that out!

[Anonymous]

It really seems like he's shy so he acts awkward when its just the two of you because he likes you.

[Anonymous]

He's not actually into you.

[mulberry]

Well that's abrupt :/ OK I'll take it on board thank you

[tottalyclueless]

aw :) she's right!