Wait, so... #5... if we are having a fight and MY emotional response is to go do something and cool off, that's just too bad, I have to suppress that to deal with her needs, but she doesn't have to worry about mine?
No, of course not, but I also think you should figure it out because it's not that hard. If storming out of the room is what you want to do, fine, but I wouldn't leave her in a lurch, it would be better to say "Look I've gotta go cool off, just give me a few minutes."
"5 Sure-Fire Ways to REALLY Hurt Your Girlfriend" Don’t criticize her body. Don’t put her mother down. Don’t bring up personal and potentially embarrassing things she does. Don’t say you’re not sure if you even love her anymore Don’t let her cry alone.
so if i do do these things, she will be really happy with me? I thing you need to work on your wording there. also. "Don’t say you’re not sure if you even love her anymore" that shouldn't even be on there because if the boyfriend doesn't love his girlfriend, do you expect him just to fake it? and i bet a girl would come right out and say she doesn't love him anymore.
You: "I thing you need to work on your wording there."
(Oh the irony.)
Okay, anyway, so much for reading my Take because it clearly says: "Be mad all you want, but unless you actually do mean that you do not love her anymore and your argument is the start of your breakup then never say this."
So if you were just patient and read that section carefully you would have seen that NO, unless you mean you do actually do NOT love her and you don't wish to lead her on with love, then don't say this.
In general i agree with your take, excluding a few points. And i'd write a MyTake from the men point of view, but my English and writing skills aren't good enough. So yeah, sorry, no can do. I'll repost it if i find one tho
So much for reading what I wrote. I just said in the second paragraph and told one other guy here, if you've got a guys' version of this Take, then instead of bitching about what I've written, write one on behalf of the guys so that we can figure out what's off limits for us. I pretty much know that stomping off while you cry isn't going to make it on any guy's list, so go ahead and create one rather than pick this one apart as being one sided when I made it clear I'd like to see the guys make a Take giving their own sure fire ways to hurt their guy.
If you're referring to #4, that's not what I wrote. I wrote that if you outright SAY the words you don't love her anymore or tell her you hate her, then that's a very big problem. There is no room for error with that one. If you choose to expel those words, then there is no mistaking it.
My own quote: "Love is too important of an emotion to play around with words about. Be mad all you want, but unless you actually do mean that you do not love her anymore and your argument is the start of your breakup then never say this."
I brag to all my friends that she has the smelliest vagina ever, I tell her she looks just like her mother, I tell her she acts just like her mother, I shit in the bed and blame it on my cat and I sometimes will break out the nunchucks.
I know. Can you imagine? I've had a few of these things said to me in the past and none of them were justifiable. Any argument I was involved in with my exes did not have to include some of the hurtful shit they chose to say during the argument at all, that they could never take back, nor could I ever forget about.
they actually said these things? :O well thank god they are exes then... people fight all the time, no one has to stoop so low though and girls get really hurt by things like that
Yep, where to begin. Had a fight with my first live-in who in the middle of our fight said, "... and you're getting fat!" Think that didn't sting? As if a woman doesn't know she's putting on weight and it has to be pointed out. The same guy in a different fight wouldn't say "I love you" back to me, and spat out "I don't love you right now" which really hurt. He became an ex pretty much right after these two fights because of what he chose to say - never mind the fact of what we had disagreements about in the first place.
My husband STILL has a problem with leaving the room when I cry, and letting me go to bed upset and still crying saying he's tired in his annoyed tone of voice. This bugs me so much. I usually throw on the lights and make him realize that what matters is his sensitivity toward me about what's going on, not even so much what upset me in the first place.
that's just low... : meh forget him... some girl is probably telling him he has a tiny **** right now :P lol
heh.. nobody is perfect i think a part of guys freak out when they see a girl crying because they kinda dont know how to make her feel better but can still see she is REALLY hurt have you like said it flat out? that "what matters is his sensitivity toward me about what's going on, not even so much what upset me in the first place." sometime thats all thats needed lol
The ex I'm talking about was from twenty years ago, so believe me I know he is now someone else's problem. LOL In fact I had found out about seven years ago on FB that he had married the next girl he dated after me, but mysteriously a few years ago saw that he wasn't on FB at all and any reference to her online no longer has his last name but her maiden name - so I am quite sure that though he was my 3-year problem, he was in fact her 15-year problem. LOL I can only imagine what kind of horror show she went though with him since I could barely take a few years of his crap.
And yes, my husband has learned and is a lot better at how to treat me when I'm emotional. It takes a lot of communication and timing is everything when we talk about things like this. I have to know what he expects just as much as I want him to know what I expect too.
we also have have many problems but girls don't care about the like be a man if we show our feelings and so. many girls think if a girl hit you dont hit her back and be a man.
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Wait, so... #5... if we are having a fight and MY emotional response is to go do something and cool off, that's just too bad, I have to suppress that to deal with her needs, but she doesn't have to worry about mine?
That's the impression I'm getting here.
No, of course not, but I also think you should figure it out because it's not that hard. If storming out of the room is what you want to do, fine, but I wouldn't leave her in a lurch, it would be better to say "Look I've gotta go cool off, just give me a few minutes."
that first picture
"Hey Billy, whats up?"
"The sky"
"OMG,... how could you do dis to me..."
"5 Sure-Fire Ways to REALLY Hurt Your Girlfriend"
Don’t criticize her body.
Don’t put her mother down.
Don’t bring up personal and potentially embarrassing things she does.
Don’t say you’re not sure if you even love her anymore
Don’t let her cry alone.
so if i do do these things, she will be really happy with me? I thing you need to work on your wording there.
also.
"Don’t say you’re not sure if you even love her anymore" that shouldn't even be on there because if the boyfriend doesn't love his girlfriend, do you expect him just to fake it? and i bet a girl would come right out and say she doesn't love him anymore.
You:
"I thing you need to work on your wording there."
(Oh the irony.)
Okay, anyway, so much for reading my Take because it clearly says:
"Be mad all you want, but unless you actually do mean that you do not love her anymore and your argument is the start of your breakup then never say this."
So if you were just patient and read that section carefully you would have seen that NO, unless you mean you do actually do NOT love her and you don't wish to lead her on with love, then don't say this.
That comment made my day
In general i agree with your take, excluding a few points. And i'd write a MyTake from the men point of view, but my English and writing skills aren't good enough. So yeah, sorry, no can do. I'll repost it if i find one tho
I don't know, i see ur point but all i'm hearing is compromising n catering
Again they all sound great, n helpful, to women... only
If we argue n u piss me off there's a good chance I'm not about to hug u, i'm probably about to drive somewhere
Guy version?
(Short)
1-don't cheat
2-...
3-...
4-...
5-...
Oh! I forgot...
Don't assume we kno we're mind readers
Sadly, I wonder how many guys are reading this thinking, "Thanks, Ozanne. You just handed me more ammunition!"
Maybe. But I don't know. If someone is going to be that hurtful, they probably have already used these and maybe even a few of their own.
Yes what you are saying is right but then why would a man who truly loves her woman would want to hurt her? a true man would never do that.
I don't know I've loves some woman with tempers... I would try and be nice and soothing and she's just want to fight and be really mean
I mean, she can do all these things to you, but never EVER do it to her!
So much for reading what I wrote. I just said in the second paragraph and told one other guy here, if you've got a guys' version of this Take, then instead of bitching about what I've written, write one on behalf of the guys so that we can figure out what's off limits for us. I pretty much know that stomping off while you cry isn't going to make it on any guy's list, so go ahead and create one rather than pick this one apart as being one sided when I made it clear I'd like to see the guys make a Take giving their own sure fire ways to hurt their guy.
The last one is perfect, I've seen that a lot of the girls agree but all the guys are saying they wouldn't. Come on males, step up your game!
If a guy tells me he hates me then I leave him what the hell why would I stay and why would he say that when he was angry that's fuck up.
But what if the argument is about her body, her mother and weird shit she does?
LOL timing and how you say things, my friend. :)
why do women speculate or create ideas that their man doesn't love them because he didn't do a certain thing besides saying I love you
If you're referring to #4, that's not what I wrote. I wrote that if you outright SAY the words you don't love her anymore or tell her you hate her, then that's a very big problem. There is no room for error with that one. If you choose to expel those words, then there is no mistaking it.
My own quote:
"Love is too important of an emotion to play around with words about. Be mad all you want, but unless you actually do mean that you do not love her anymore and your argument is the start of your breakup then never say this."
I brag to all my friends that she has the smelliest vagina ever, I tell her she looks just like her mother, I tell her she acts just like her mother, I shit in the bed and blame it on my cat and I sometimes will break out the nunchucks.
Point 1-2-3-4 are very true, will rruin your life. But a guys goes against point 5 it's dead end for any relationship.
The last one is pretty perfect. Whether you're fighting or not.
Good take :) my boyfriend should read it lol a lot to learn..
just reading this broke something inside lol
those are REALLY cruel... DONT DO IT BOYS !
I know. Can you imagine? I've had a few of these things said to me in the past and none of them were justifiable. Any argument I was involved in with my exes did not have to include some of the hurtful shit they chose to say during the argument at all, that they could never take back, nor could I ever forget about.
they actually said these things? :O
well thank god they are exes then... people fight all the time, no one has to stoop so low though
and girls get really hurt by things like that
im sorry
Yep, where to begin. Had a fight with my first live-in who in the middle of our fight said, "... and you're getting fat!" Think that didn't sting? As if a woman doesn't know she's putting on weight and it has to be pointed out. The same guy in a different fight wouldn't say "I love you" back to me, and spat out "I don't love you right now" which really hurt. He became an ex pretty much right after these two fights because of what he chose to say - never mind the fact of what we had disagreements about in the first place.
My husband STILL has a problem with leaving the room when I cry, and letting me go to bed upset and still crying saying he's tired in his annoyed tone of voice. This bugs me so much. I usually throw on the lights and make him realize that what matters is his sensitivity toward me about what's going on, not even so much what upset me in the first place.
that's just low... :
meh forget him... some girl is probably telling him he has a tiny **** right now :P lol
heh.. nobody is perfect
i think a part of guys freak out when they see a girl crying because they kinda dont know how to make her feel better but can still see she is REALLY hurt
have you like said it flat out? that "what matters is his sensitivity toward me about what's going on, not even so much what upset me in the first place."
sometime thats all thats needed lol
The ex I'm talking about was from twenty years ago, so believe me I know he is now someone else's problem. LOL In fact I had found out about seven years ago on FB that he had married the next girl he dated after me, but mysteriously a few years ago saw that he wasn't on FB at all and any reference to her online no longer has his last name but her maiden name - so I am quite sure that though he was my 3-year problem, he was in fact her 15-year problem. LOL I can only imagine what kind of horror show she went though with him since I could barely take a few years of his crap.
And yes, my husband has learned and is a lot better at how to treat me when I'm emotional. It takes a lot of communication and timing is everything when we talk about things like this. I have to know what he expects just as much as I want him to know what I expect too.
the fifth one is what i want every guy to rad and do
I like your take and I don't know why people get mad about it but it explains why so many relationships break
Why do guys keep chasing women when there's an argument? Every time there is an argument is it always the guy soothe girl's feeling?
we also have have many problems but girls don't care about the like be a man if we show our feelings and so. many girls think if a girl hit you dont hit her back and be a man.