The Absolute Foundation: What Relationships Should Mean

Anonymous

I don't understand the concept of relationships these days, especially the break-up fraction of them. Nobody seems to understand why a relationship is called a foundation.
- AskButterfly



Let me just say, this is a common thought on relationships and I'm here to tell you what they actually should mean.


So many of us fall victim, to just suddenly going steady with a person we know really nothing about. In three months, they soon begin to realize that they have nothing in common whatsoever and a relationship ends. The people in that relationship can feel confused and sad. But why should they do that?


Statistics say that it takes about 3-5 years to understand and know a person fully. That's why dates are so very important.


The Absolute Foundation: What Relationships Should Mean


Dates help us to understand the person and what they are like, and they also help with finding out what two people need. If one of them cannot provide that they should move on. Some of us can determine if it is even worth continuing with, and so after the first date, they never call the other person back,


But what does a relationship truly need?


1. Trust, Faith, Kindness, Respect, Loyalty, Understanding, and Patience.


That's it! Something you have probably knew already.


So if we know what all we need, then let me decode all those words for you to help you have a further understanding.


Trust- means that you trust your partner through everything. That includes: not second guessing,and not thinking that he/she is cheating. ( That is what can crack a foundation.)


Faith- means, that if your partner is doing something you don't like, then you pray that they will be better, that they can be better. ( But for those in abusive relationships, try to get away from them. They are not healthy, obviously.)


Kindness- means that you are kind as possible even when they have upset you to the point of tears.


Respect- means, that you take care to not hurt them, and that there body is a palace. There emotions need taken well care of.


Loyalty- means that you won't cheat, that you will be honest with your partner even if it is something you really don't want them to know. Just say it. They may or may not forgive you but it teaches us, how to be better.


Understanding-this is a big one! To understand your partner. Understand why they did this or that but don't be mad or revengeful toward them. Understand it from there point of view.


Patience- It takes quite a while for some things to happen. Patience is what is needed to complete the foundation because many of us get upset if the other one canot find a job in a certain amount of time, it's all of those things. Including, why they won't call you back. People need the time to understand their emotions as well. If they haven't contacted you in months, it is at that point you should coinsider calling or moving on with your own life and taking care of yourself. Don't spend countless nights going over every detail when you still have so much more to complete in your life.


Above all, if something doesn't work out ,you can take all the time you need to get over it. You can cry and mourn over it because it does hurt but as stated in my previous article don't let it consume you. Don't let it make you become obsessive, that's an automatic turn off.


For those that have decided they don't want to be committed or just want friends with benefits ( Friends With Benefits) there is absoultely nothing wrong with that. Just let the person you are seeing know first-hand and make sure that you are safe by using a contraceptive or birth control.


You are well on your way to having a long lasting relationship!


Remember:



  • It takes at least 3-5 years to know a person fully.

  • Go on plenty dates to find out if this is the person you want to be with

  • Wait to get married after 5 years of being together


WARNING
If you are someone you know that'sin an abusive relationship please contact the following:


In the US: call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE).
UK: call Women’s Aid at 0808 2000 247.
Australia: call 1800RESPECT at 1800 737 732.
Worldwide: visit International Directory of Domestic Violence Agencies for a global list of helplines and crisis centers.


Male victims of abuse can call:


U.S. and Canada: The Domestic Abuse Helpline for Men & Women
UK: ManKind Initiative
Australia: One in Three Campaign

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