While I'm fairly certain this will end up in sexual behavior it's really about rules I'd like to take place in all current and future relationships. Rules we all know but barely seem to remember. I think people would have less relationship stress if they practice these a little bit more.
A Peace Of Meat
People hear this initially as part of a female rant against men saying this to them. Yet there is some good in wanting to be treated like a piece of meat. Granted women may not like this treatment from strangers, they rather prefer it come from their partner. Everyone wants to be wanted. One of the biggest mistakes in a relationship is thinking the flirting stops after a few months in. Women are very in touch with emotional "vibes" and if she feels forsaken it won't take long for her to leave.
Ladies, Men like to be pursued as well. I remember all the times in my LIFE that I've been treated like a piece of meat. From the first time at 16 when a pair of drunk 30yr old women hit on me when I was working the drive-thru to which I replied with "I'm sorry I can't do that kind of stuff with anyone as young as you two." and the most recent at 36 when some newly arrived college girls yelled "NICE ASS" while driving by the only guy on the block. Truth is Men like it because it so RARELY happens to us. Well maybe just me...
Still try treating us like a piece of meat and see how we respond.
Play Games
I'm not talking about video/board games or mind games. I'm talking about games that show you care. Pranks are ways to keep you on your toes in a relationship, make you feel young and in love. Do you know the powdered cheese that comes with mac and cheese looks like Orange Juice if you put it in a pitcher. Which sets you up for revenge from your partner. Maybe they get you back by shrink wrapping your car or waiting til your on the toilet and scaring you with an air horn.
You never know when it's coming but that's part of the fun, right...
Hang Out With Your Friends
Even if you are madly in love and making your buddies sick with envy, catch up with them. Two people can't just talk without having conversations and experiences outside of the relationships. Voice concerns and discuss where your lines are if you have them but trust your partner to make the right choice. Doing that will allow the same in return and it eases a lot of would be issues. In the meant time have fun, bullshit and otherwise blow it up!
So we can have drunk sex when you get back!
Share Your Fantasies
I have two friends that told me how they went about doing this. Because lets face it, sometimes it's scary being honest about that stuff even to ourselves. My friends after one very painful Valentine's Day mishap sat down the next day to talk. My female friend said: Look I want you to know it's safe. I promise to make no judgments, only listen and think but I want us to talk about our deepest sexiest fantasies. Then try to make them happen as much as possible.
That conversation led to some amazing sex between them...or so they tell me. One fantasy and one of the tamer ones they shared with me included: one tent sized tarp, some baby oil and their two naked bodies in a very sexy wrestling match. The only problem was my amazing mind was picturing that and I almost choked on my beer. Flashing on my two friends naked was not on the day's agenda but I had to admit it was something I had not thought of doing before.
Why do my friends tell me this stuff...
Dress Up For Each Other
Dressing Up for a partner can feed into the last topic nicely but deserved it's own mention. I know some women have self confessed body issues and most men rarely do it. Yet it's not just lingerie that can do it. Dressing up like you're going to a fancy event or even sweat pants and a hoodie can do wonders for your sex life. The less you wear it the more we want to see you in it. We love seeing our partners shine for us alone!
I remember one day in the winter when there was nothing for us to do and we were in separate rooms doing things separately. I was in the living room cleaning my tools, I admit I can really get into it, when she walked out in a sexy teddy and just leaned against the wall with one arm not saying a thing. It took me only a micro second to drop what I was doing, pick her up in a Fireman's carry and throw her on the bed! After some amazing time passed I asked her, What that was about? She replied, You just looked so sexy concentrating on your task that I had to become that Task! (Prompting another round)
So....PLEASE dress up for your partner!
Lastly, Teach Us
We don't know you. We could use some help in finding what pleases you the most. In the sack maybe throw out an "Oh Fuck, Keep DOING THAT!" or a "Hey, why don't we try it this way." and out of the sack maybe drop hints like "I freaking love TACOS!" so we remember those facts and make it much better the next time. Assuming they or you remember that stuff, it may take a few tries.
As much as we all like cracking the safe to our partner's happiness, we welcome any and all Hints!
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me and my boyfriend have been together 8 months and i still flirt with him i joke with him i tell him my fantasy i ask how he has been etcetera but great my take
thanks for the like