I Love To Cheat (Sex, Games And Lies)

[Stacyzee]

Hello,

I am a bad girl.

I will cheat on you.

I will not confess to my deceit.

You have to catch me red handed,

before you know the truth

which consists of details, you will not believe.

When confronted with my acts of betrayal,

I will look into your eyes and declare my love for you.

You look at me as I sit before you exposed;

now appearing more naked than ever.

Your natural instinct is to hold and protect me.

Why? because you love me.

You kiss me on my forehead and tell me,

"You are the one. I will never give up."

We smile at each other.

A hug that seems to last forever, has got time feeling

as if it were turned back to when things were fine.

You look down at me with hope and belief.

In that moment, all seems forgotten.

No, major crime scene needs to be investigated.

I am no longer the robber of your heart.

You don't want to think about the pain, you just want to let it go.

As you proceed to bring your mind back to a place of comfort,

Little do you know, that inside of my soul, I really hold no regrets.

It won't belong before I will cheat again.

Hello,

I am a bad guy.

I've been searching for my ulterior motive;

Its been days, weeks, months and years,

my feet has long begun to grow tired.

I look at all of the beautiful women that surround me,

along with my lady they too are my top desire.

My wife, thinks I'm a good guy but I know

that I am exactly the opposite.

I have always asked myself,

Why do I continue to cheat on someone who treats me so well?

Perhaps It's the thrill?

Perhaps It's my immaturity?

I'll sleep with girl number 3 tonight,

when I go home I'll lay back in bed and cuddle with my wife.

This may seem odd to you all,

but this is my daily routine.

My heart is filled with nothing but satisfaction and greed.

I want my wife but can't I have the other girls too?

When confronted with the truth, I do not fail to admit it.

It isn't long before I promise I won't do it again.

If my wife could dig into my soul,

she would see that it consists of no remorse,

despite the feelings of empathy that is shown.

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Two different stories are shared, what they have in common is that both people lack remorse. The man and woman seem to be contented with their lifestyle of cheating. They refuse to change because it holds a major inconvenience for their lifestyle. Isn't that sad? They claim they care for their significant other but they continue to live in a self centered world where it's all about them.

I thoroughly believe that people have the potential to change, but that's only if they're willing to be honest with themselves, their spouse, and commit to the work.

I believe some people make poor decisions and genuinely regret them.

"Once a cheater, always a cheater", is a statement that does not hold true for all.

Life is all about developing and changing, if someone is willing to be different they can be different.

However, that fails to be the case for every one (as shown in the stories above).

Some people have no intentions of changing, and will continue to break your heart as long as you allow them to.

If you're in a relationship where your significant other makes it a habit to cheat on you, it's time you get out. The hurt and the pain will further damage you psychologically. Is it worth the effects?

I believe in you!

Yes, it will be hard.

Nothing is easy.

You have to come to a place where in your mind, you believe

that you are far better than the treatment you allow.

When you thoroughly believe that, you'll accept nothing less.

[brain5000]

The Take is very well-written. You especially capture the woman's perspective so well that one has to wonder if this was an experience you lived, until the third part of the take where you encourage the victims of selfish, serial cheaters to free themselves.

I was once with a serial cheater. I stuck around, gave her too many chances, to the point where she finally did straighten up her act, but I could never let go of the anger. As you said, being with a cheater poisons your soul. It makes you worse -- more jealous, more controlling, angrier. At least that was my experience.

My favorite part was the woman's sinister manipulations of her man. I didn't get that you understood the man's perspective, but cheers for giving it a good, well-written try.

There is a debate her in the comments about whether a serial cheater can reform. I think they can. It probably isn't worth giving them the chance, though.

[teawrecks]

I would never cheat on someone, yet, I'm perfectly content and even sometimes turned on by being the other woman.

And also yet, I find cheating repulsive when I'm not involved.

Not sure which part of my brain is misfiring here, but it's a big one.

Good take, though.

[CheerGirl38139]

OMG I posted a similar question a whIle back and it actually astonished me how almost every reply was that "once a cheater..." mantra.

Even to some ridiculous posts when I followed up with "what about the children of said union"... to which I got some of the most ignorant replies I've ever seen here.

Good luck. Glad you have thick Internet skin 💗✌

[Anonymous]

"Once a cheater, always a cheater" may not be 100% accurate, but it is a good way to predict the likely hood of them repeating their past actions. The exact numbers don't matter. The odds just aren't good enough to take a risk on.

People should always be judged based on the decisions that they have made in the past. It is foolish to ignore someone's history of selfish and often harmful behavior. The people that are most likely to tell you not to judge others for their past are the ones with a past they want you to ignore. There are a lot of those people, so we hear this message about not judging others for their past a lot.

[Anonymous]

Just because it doesn't hold true for all doesn't mean it doesn't hold true for the vast MAJORITY of cases. So even though "Once a cheater always a cheater" doesn't hold true 100% of the time, it could still hold true 95% of the time, and it also doesn't mean that it isn't a good motto to follow. I have dated multiple cheaters and let me tell you that saying holds true, about 99.9% of the time!

[Stacyzee]

Those are statistics based on your experience , however you must take into account there is an entire population of people. Your stats don't hold accuracy in the real world. I'd say it's 50/50 in all honesty. Like I said , there are people that genuinely made a mistake and don't ever do it again. It's really up to the person they are with if they want to stick around and find out if that saying holds truth or not.

[Opinion Owner]

50/50 my ass. Maybe 50% that get caught start crying crocodile tears and say "Oh I made a mistake. I'm changed Ill never do it again!" This is amlost always another lie. Its not about mistakes! They didn't cheat because say, they were drunk, they waited until there would be lots of alcohol so they could have an EXCUSE if they got caught. Its about some sick pleasure they get in decieving thier partner (s) about how much they love them, that they are loyal etc. Its not a mistake, it is pre-meditated, if not planned, as is the cover up. Just as their sudden "redemtion" if they ever get caught, "Oh yea I made a mistake, but just that once, nothing before or since." dig a little deeper, and most of the time you'll find that that too is a lie.

Cheating isn't about sex is or mistakes nearly as much as about power, and deception. Its like compulsive lying, the avenue of lies is simply sexual fidelity.

[Stacyzee]

Your past experiences clearly have gotten you so bitter that you feel as if there is no lead way for anyone to be different other than what you have stated.
We are all human.
We all make bad choices , all which fall
in different areas

[Stacyzee]

I believe in individuality and not lumping everyone in the same category due to my bad experiences.
That is all.

[Opinion Owner]

I mever said I was lumping all cheaters into one catagory. I simply said it is FAR rarer for someone to wake up one day amd change thier lifestyle than you seem to think it is. There is a huge difference between 50/50 that our modern culture seems to think literally everything must be, and 100% that you are accusing me of.

Yes some people will feel bad, and actually change. But for the most part they made a string of concious CHOICES, and they will most likely simply try to cover up those lies, and continue their choices, than fess up and change thier behavior. You beleive in individuality, this is what these individuals choose, in part, because they only care about themselves and their needs. Remember, having sex with and covering that fact up isn't that easy. It is very rarely a mistake, it is almost always a series of choices, made of free will by the individual, not in ignorance or under duress.

[Opinion Owner]

I mean whats with all this? Did you cheat, and are now looking for people to all tell you, "Dont worry its just a mistake, its no big deal?"

Because if you did and you really feel bad, that is a good sign. Most cheaters dont feel bad, they just pretend to in other to get people off thier back.

Anyway redemtions and appiffanies do happen, but they are much rarer than most people think. Its part of what makes them so inspiring.

[Stacyzee]

I am not making anything "seem" easy. I clearly stated someone who cheated has to commit to a lot of work before the progress of change can really occur.
There are serial cheaters (such as the examples given in this article), that will most likely do it again, they hold no remorse.
However, there are those who genuinely make a bad choice in life and don't want to do it again.
The problem with this society is they try to act as if they are "perfect". If you think about it, we all make bad choices it's just that they are in different areas pertaining to life. There is no one walking the face of this Earth not holding on to any regrets or wishing they hadn't made a bad choice in life.
Whether someone decides to empathize with a cheater and give them a second chance is something that doesn't have to happen. However, from the hindsight of being a person yourself I am sure you can relate with the fact that you've made some poor choices in life you wish you could take back.
Also, I never

[Stacyzee]

threw myself in this article so I'd appreciate it if you didn't try to get personal and dig into my life. I am writing from an objective view and I'd like things to stay that way. I never implied that cheating wasn't a big deal. If I felt that way this article would not be made, and I also wouldn't suggest major work be done on the cheaters part.
Whether someone believes cheaters has almost no potential to change is the "truth they hold for themselves". If that is the way one feels, then definitely do not give someone that hurt you a second chance. But from my perspective, it really all depends on the circumstance I am facing whether I would give that person another chance or not, and if they felt they were genuinely sorry.
Also, do we have kids? Are we married? there's a lot of things that go into account when making a huge choice.

[Opinion Owner]

Then as objetive perspectives, I am telling you that the innocent mistake cheating is actually kind of rare. Because there are so many choices one must make to lead up to cheating as well as the cover up most people who do it want to and are unashamed of that fact. Of course many play the victim and complain that society is "persecuting " them for "not being perfect" but not being perfect? This isn't just one little mistake, this is an elaborate plan to hirt someone, and then get away with it by lying.

I never said they never have the POTENTIAL to chnge! I am saying that often, they willfully and repeatedly choose NOT to change! Simply to lie about changing, like they lied about cheating, repeatedly!

[LaurenGrace]

I've never cheated and never will. having an open marriage and sleeping with other people i can identify with those same feelings and thoughts as a cheater

[Anonymous]

That's quite a visual Stacyzee!!
Was that your choice or GAG's? 🤔

[Stacyzee]

Everything I write here is written by me and inspired by me. Thanks!

[tommygator]

I like the way you think

[ArtDent]

Betting on a cheater to not cheat is a bad gamble.

[Billlewis]

May I please marry you?

[lacorine197]

I like this poem, very very well written.

[JennieF]

Yeah a lot of that sounds really hot.