Ignoring someone is one of the worst things you can do to someone, in my opinion. Especially if you used to be really close and suddenly, the other person just decides that they're going to ghost on you. It drives you insane. You feel like you're left with so many unanswered questions. These questions keep spinning around in your head, not leaving you alone for a second. You feel hurt. You feel abandoned. The biggest question is usually "why?". Why did they do that? Why aren't they answering my calls or my texts? Why so suddenly? Why would they ignore me when I feel like I haven't done anything wrong? You're driven mad by all these questions, you're driven mad by all the pain of feeling abandoned, and you're driven mad by not getting the closure you wanted. The closure you feel you deserve.
I get it. I get all of it. I've been in that position myself, numerous times. Waiting days for someone to return my call or reply to my text. Feeling sick to my stomach thinking that they have suddenly lost all interest in me and moved on, without telling me. Replaying all the memories I had with that person, wondering if I did or said something wrong. Wondering why they'd do something like this to me. I understand all these feelings and why they are valid. But there is one thing you can do to break this "curse".
Realize that they, for whatever reason, simply don't want to talk to you anymore.
I mean, seems pretty obvious, right? But it's true. And that's the one thing you've got to realize in order to let go, when you feel like you didn't get the closure you wanted. Why they would do something like this, in the end, doesn't matter at all. Their silence is loud and clear. Their silence says "leave me alone, I don't want to talk to you anymore".
"But what about my closure?!" you ask. That's the thing, though. You don't always get the perfect closure to everything. And even if they gave you a very specific reason as to why they would suddenly start ignoring you, you would still most likely feel some kind of resentment towards them. You would still ask yourself how, or why, or what you've done to deserve this. That's a type of wishful thinking that allows you to dwell on things that aren't really important, and you've got to stop. There's no perfect closure that will suddenly make all the pain go away and you will be liberated from all the heartbreak. Even with the answer at hand, you will still feel hurt because someone still left you. Someone still broke all contact with you and decided that they don't want you anymore. And that's still painful as fuck, especially if you cared a lot about that person, even if you have all the answers to your questions. Maybe the healing process is slightly faster when you have a few answers, but the situation remains the same. They left you. They don't want to know you anymore. And that's all that matters.
Knowing that is the only thing that will help you move on, in the end. If someone continually ignores your texts and calls, and pretends like you don't exist when you bump into each other, it's a massive sign of them not being interested in you anymore. Pining after someone who doesn't want you anymore is a waste of time, and you know it. That's the only thing you need to know, in order to let go of someone. Regardless of if they actually tell you this, or suddenly start ignoring you. Silence is a type of rejection, and that's just something you'll have to accept. Would the world be a better place if people just openly and honestly told you why they don't want to be with you anymore? Maybe. Most probably. But that's not the type of world we live in.
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