I'd prefer a guy who's 'nice all the time' versus an asshole more often than not. Then again, guys like that don't really exist. Most are generally a mix.
Well for one, most nice guys are doormats, rendering them sexually unattractive. I know sex is not the most important part of a relationship but it's pretty important. Think of sex as an X factor. Why be in a sexless relationship? Y'all might as well be friends.
Two, they don't necessarily stimulate women's mind. Meaning they don't challenge the women psychologically as what most women want; keep her guessing/chasing.
Last but not least, they're not really a stand-up guy. He's agree with everything you say or do too much even if it is illogical or irrational or even if it against his ideas. A woman wants a man and a friend at the same time. A woman wants a man who isn't afraid to stand up to her and for her.
Amen to basically everything you listed. It's incredibly irritating how so many people will choose to construe those things, all of which are pretty damn harmless, in a negative way. Accuse girls of being superficial, greedy, etc.. by preferring a guy who makes more money than the next, or is of the more attractive type.
Damn fucking straight we want a guy with a good income. Anyone, guy or girl, would be silly to dream of being with someone who brings in minimum-wage paychecks. Money doesn't grow on trees. It's also only natural to prefer to get intimate with people you find to be attractive versus boning someone who didn't win the 'genetic lottery'.
true nice guy, fake nice guy who cares, they both sleep with their hands. we get all the pussy. the revenge of the nice guy is becoming rich cause all the gold diggers start lining up at his door.
Being bold and courageous is tough and it can be challenged, display it at the right time and you are golden also adding "niceness" is good in the mix, girl would dig that and will like you for it
Some guys will get a girlfriend later than others. That could be for a multitude of other reasons, not just to do with the girls you've been interested in. You're the common denominator here and the most nonsensical conclusion to draw from this as to why you've never had a girlfriend would be because you're 'too nice'.
You're right... now that I think about it, I think the reason I've never had a girlfiriend is because I'm not very social and stay in my room when I'm not at work. Aside from that, I still am a nice guy though
Can guys who have bad social skills get a girlfriend?
yes, of course guys who have bad social skills but are genuinely nice can still get a girlfriend. Not very easily seeing as how social skills are the main component of what draws anyone to another, whether it be romantically or simply in terms of friendships. So you can use that as motivation to improve your social skills, get out of your bedroom and hang around public places more often.
I dont know whom to blame for such behaviour. Is it the parents for not giving the child the right set of principles or Is it the individual for refusing to learn from people around him/her. I am/was such a nice guy. Only recently I learned that it is not a sin to take what you want or desire so much.
not at all. But it just boggles my mind why some people, guys included, who are not very socially adept fail to see why guys who are very charismatic/effortlessly sociable people will get more positive female attention than themselves.
I think it's because, at least in my case, charisma and charm just aren't important to me in a woman. As long as a girl is friendly and courteous, that's enough for me socially.
@UtopianLobotomy if you want to go all tesla mode you are welcome to do it. but dont forget he died a virgin. as beethoven and all the similar guys... .
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Here's another article on it.
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a25249-why-self-proclaimed-nice-guys-never-win
Guys, when you're being an asshole, you're entitle to get women's attention. But when you're being a nice guy, you're not entitled.
-woman's logic
... women's logic when said woman is interested in nothing more than a good dicking and/or getting her ego stroked.
Get the fuck out of here with your pathetic excuse to demonize women because you get swon by what other people say or unrealistic experiences
Well it's true. Let me ask you this: mytake owner, why would you want a relationship with a guy that's nice all the time?
And to whatever that dude name is that just replied to my comment, do you ever hear that assholes are not entitled?
I'm not saying you have an asshole at all times but have to be for most of the time.
I'd prefer a guy who's 'nice all the time' versus an asshole more often than not. Then again, guys like that don't really exist. Most are generally a mix.
Why would you want that?
Why would I want a nice guy? well, let's reverse that.
Why wouldn't I want a nice guy?
Well for one, most nice guys are doormats, rendering them sexually unattractive. I know sex is not the most important part of a relationship but it's pretty important. Think of sex as an X factor. Why be in a sexless relationship? Y'all might as well be friends.
Two, they don't necessarily stimulate women's mind. Meaning they don't challenge the women psychologically as what most women want; keep her guessing/chasing.
Last but not least, they're not really a stand-up guy. He's agree with everything you say or do too much even if it is illogical or irrational or even if it against his ideas. A woman wants a man and a friend at the same time. A woman wants a man who isn't afraid to stand up to her and for her.
Amen to basically everything you listed. It's incredibly irritating how so many people will choose to construe those things, all of which are pretty damn harmless, in a negative way. Accuse girls of being superficial, greedy, etc.. by preferring a guy who makes more money than the next, or is of the more attractive type.
Damn fucking straight we want a guy with a good income. Anyone, guy or girl, would be silly to dream of being with someone who brings in minimum-wage paychecks. Money doesn't grow on trees. It's also only natural to prefer to get intimate with people you find to be attractive versus boning someone who didn't win the 'genetic lottery'.
Harsh reality but...
Such is life.
Yea I guess so
but i love being socially retarded. i'm like trump i give NO FUCK what women or society wants. i'm a unique n special lonewolf.
i'm like him without his billions unfortunately.. .
Great take! Calling yourself a nice guy doesn't make it so.
I got tired of reading and skimmed the last of it but good take (:
thankyou. :)
I only came to enjoy the shit storm that ensued.
Anyway great read.
hahaha pretty amusing how many people lose their shit over many of my takes and in doing so, help me prove my point even more, eh? :P
Thanks. :)
Anytime, credit due where credit is due :)
I've had plenty of negative experiences, but meh, just lessons learned
true nice guy, fake nice guy who cares, they both sleep with their hands. we get all the pussy. the revenge of the nice guy is becoming rich cause all the gold diggers start lining up at his door.
Being bold and courageous is tough and it can be challenged, display it at the right time and you are golden also adding "niceness" is good in the mix, girl would dig that and will like you for it
Hey, I'm a socially retarded, unassertive, uninteresting and unfunny mealy-mouthed internet addict and I don't act like this!
Not all guys who call themselves nice are the way you described
I'm a nice guy... and I've never had a girlfriend, or dated. Most nice guys do finish last 😔
Some guys will get a girlfriend later than others. That could be for a multitude of other reasons, not just to do with the girls you've been interested in. You're the common denominator here and the most nonsensical conclusion to draw from this as to why you've never had a girlfriend would be because you're 'too nice'.
You're right... now that I think about it, I think the reason I've never had a girlfiriend is because I'm not very social and stay in my room when I'm not at work. Aside from that, I still am a nice guy though
Can guys who have bad social skills get a girlfriend?
I can tell you right now that you have to straight-up kill that asshole. He's holding you back.
No, they cannot.
yes, of course guys who have bad social skills but are genuinely nice can still get a girlfriend. Not very easily seeing as how social skills are the main component of what draws anyone to another, whether it be romantically or simply in terms of friendships. So you can use that as motivation to improve your social skills, get out of your bedroom and hang around public places more often.
can we stop going on about the nice guy thing we are all assholes
Well said author !
thank-you. :)
I dont know whom to blame for such behaviour. Is it the parents for not giving the child the right set of principles or Is it the individual for refusing to learn from people around him/her. I am/was such a nice guy. Only recently I learned that it is not a sin to take what you want or desire so much.
IS there anyway to save/bookmark myTakes?
I love this take! 👏 bravo
I agree with this 100%.
guys gaaais im such a nice guy ;)
lulz haiii
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heeey there :P
Is socially-retarded supposed to be a bad thing?
social-retards invented radios, planes, jets, rockets, phones, and computers
@UtopianLobotomy yeah lol
not at all. But it just boggles my mind why some people, guys included, who are not very socially adept fail to see why guys who are very charismatic/effortlessly sociable people will get more positive female attention than themselves.
I think it's because, at least in my case, charisma and charm just aren't important to me in a woman. As long as a girl is friendly and courteous, that's enough for me socially.
@UtopianLobotomy if you want to go all tesla mode you are welcome to do it. but dont forget he died a virgin. as beethoven and all the similar guys... .