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7 Reasons Why Women Fall for Guys with the Emotional IQ of a Gnat

7 Reasons Why Women Fall for Guys with the Emotional IQ of a Gnat


You hear it all the time.



"Why the hell is she with HIM?"



How often have men and women debated the question, sitting in bars or clubs or restaurants, gazing about for juicy conversation topics? How many times have girls heard from their friends, "I have no idea what I was thinking"? How often have guys stared in consternation at the really hot chick who just wandered in with one of those Type-A all-balls-no-brains, Rambo-without-a-jockstrap dudes? We stand there and gape and go, "I don't get it. That guy's an asshole."



If you're wondering how and why women tend to fall for guys who have the mental acuity of a low-IQ hyena, here's a handy little guide. And bear in mind that this is hardly a slight against women, as you'll see by the list.


7. Some guys are good actors...for the first few dates


7 Reasons Why Women Fall for Guys with the Emotional IQ of a Gnat


If you ask, "how did he get her?" and then find out the couple is new; i.e., a new item, it's feasible that the guy is just a good actor. Women can be fooled. Guys always put on a little act when they first meet a woman, a fact to which most any girl can attest. Some women are easier to fool than others and some guys are better actors. I've known some very smart women who were taken in by complete idiots, though I should add it didn't take long for the girl to see through the disguise. The smarter the woman, the faster she'll realize the truth.



Again, we're talking short-term. Guys with the emotional IQs of insects aren't really capable of long-term relationships, anyway.


6. Not all women are more mature than men


7 Reasons Why Women Fall for Guys with the Emotional IQ of a Gnat
This should be an obvious one but you can get in trouble saying it. The bottom line is that while there are indeed plenty of male dolts out there, there are lots of female dolts as well. Even if we guys think the girl is nice and sweet and everything, we might not realize that she's extremely immature. Maybe that's why she's hanging off the arm of that fat biker guy with misspelled tattoos and hair in all the wrong places. Maybe, despite what you might assume about this girl, she's really just that dumb. Yes, it has been known to happen.


5. They really want to piss off their parents


7 Reasons Why Women Fall for Guys with the Emotional IQ of a Gnat
This is mostly in regards to young girls. They all go through this stage where they want to bring home the worst guy imaginable, the dude who makes your mother cry and your dad sorta wish he had a gun in the house. It's just rebellion, thumbing your nose at the only authority figures you really know. If the girl has any brains at all, she won't end up with the guy long-term, though, and the phase will pass in due time. Unfortunately, as my mother always told me, some girls just never grow out of it. I guess she had a friend who didn't, which is why that friend drinks a lot now.


4. Girls easily confuse "loser" with "bad boy"


7 Reasons Why Women Fall for Guys with the Emotional IQ of a Gnat


We've done the "nice guy vs. bad boy" question to death, and we all know that various bad boy traits do appeal to women. It's a given. However, there are times when I'm convinced the girls need a cultural dictionary; an updated definition of the term in question. See, a "bad boy" is just a guy who spits in the face of convention and tradition; he's the rebel, the modern-day James Dean, the guy who doesn't give a shit what you or anyone else thinks about him.



He's not a bad boy if he's just a lowlife. If he's a deadbeat who can't hold a job, who just hangs around other deadbeats getting drunk and doing the same adolescent things they did in high school, he's just a loser. He's not a "bad boy." The latter has a little gumption, style, flash, charisma, etc, and is very different, so don't confuse the two.


3. Even idiots can be exciting (at least for a while)


7 Reasons Why Women Fall for Guys with the Emotional IQ of a Gnat
"Exciting" can be mutually exclusive from traits that actually matter; someone doesn't have to be emotionally mature or an intellectual to be exciting. In point of fact, there's a reason why the less intellectual are often considered more exciting by women, and it's because these guys may not have two brain cells to rub together, but they're awfully active. They take risks. They're seemingly not afraid of anything. Any woman who claims this isn't attractive is lying.



Thing is, though, that excitement has a shelf life for most women. When it wears off, she'll quickly realize she's just with an 8-year-old who lives life for the sake of cheap thrills.


2. Women are running out of options


7 Reasons Why Women Fall for Guys with the Emotional IQ of a Gnat
It's embarrassing and depressing but it's true. There was a great article some years back in The Atlantic called "The End of Men," and it illustrated just how far men have fallen, and how far women have advanced. Females are kicking our ass in a variety of areas in this country now, while we seem to have a growing population of apathetic deadbeat guys who won't move off the couch. Isn't it interesting that when I say "couch potato," just about everyone pictures a man? Sure, stereotypes are playing a role here, but there's some truth to that automatic image, isn't there?



Guys need to start stepping the hell up. The good news is that because it's slim-pickings for the ladies these days, it's easier for decent guys to stand out. It's not much of a horse race anymore, and girls are desperate for a guy who might at least tick half their boxes.


1. "I'm gonna fix him!"


7 Reasons Why Women Fall for Guys with the Emotional IQ of a Gnat


'sigh'



Oh ladies, you still think it's possible, don't you? You know, I don't blame you for trying and in some cases, I applaud your efforts. If you see a really good guy in there somewhere, and he's just buried beneath a mound of stupid jokes and unwashed clothing, you think you can lure out the smart guy. You think you can make him grow; you think his emotional IQ will blossom right before your very eyes. And I've actually seen this work.



But it's so very rare. As much as I like to see women helping men, there comes a time when a girl just has to cut her losses. He's a loser, move on. He's about as sensitive as he was the first day you met him and despite your best efforts, he's still a toad. Don't waste your life with a toad...feel sorry for him if you must, but if you're a simply more advanced species, you have to shrug and join the rest of us in the civilized world, where guys listen, remember birthdays and anniversaries, offer a shoulder when necessary, and a boost when asked.



We're out there, I promise. Though I shouldn't flatter myself, as I'm still single and I'm sure there are good reasons for that. :P

7 Reasons Why Women Fall for Guys with the Emotional IQ of a Gnat
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