Me and my girlfriend of 5 years have just broken up.
The reason for this is not cheating, or fighting, or not getting along, or bad sex, or anything else of that nature.
The reason is I've been out of work for over a year where I used to work as a builder. My boss almost went under and my job was one of the cuts he had to make to try to get his business to survive.
But I've been looking for work actively ever since and living in a small town makes it so hard to get any jobs.
Her career on the other hand is just starting to boom. She's doing a diploma and has two jobs, a brand new car and everything is going well for her.
Here's where it gets tricky.
She's working.
I'm not.
She has a career just starting that is keeping her here.
I don't.
I had a career that I've been unable to resume and it was once the other thing keeping me here.
Now it's just her.
This situation isn't fair to either of us. She's trying to help me live and at the same time chain me down because she's got a career here.
It's not fair on me because being with her isn't allowing me to open new doors and find new career opportunities and it's not fair on her because she's helping support me since I'm having such a hard time finding work.
Neither of us wanted to break up but the reality of the situation is that sometimes it's necessary to do the things you don't want to in order to do what you NEED to do.
I know how hard it is and I know how hard it's going to be. But nothing in this world worth having comes easily.
What's going to happen now is that I'm moving away to get my security license and if I deem it necessary my license to carry a firearm.
This will combat my lack of work with the foundation of a new career and hopefully I'll be able to after a short amount of time return home and have a career where I am currently
It's a hard decision to make but I also know that the choice I've made won't be accompanied by regret. Life is too short for regret.
The conclusion:
No matter what your reason for staying is.
No matter how much you love someone.
No matter how happy they make you.
No matter how much you will miss them.
No matter how much you don't want to let go.
Sometimes being happy with someone doesn't make you ultimately happy. If something weighs on your heart or mind that you can't change from where you. Are right now.
Don't ever settle for the life you have if the life you want is so much better. Don't ever let yourself fall short if the step you need to take to be where you want to be is so small.
Even a seemingly big step that is scary is a small step when it comes to the rest of your life.
If you take the step without a safety net and you fall. You will fall hard. And it will hurt but at least you can say you took the step.
And just because you fell the first time doesn't mean you can't try again. And next time instead of stepping. Try jumping.
Don't live a life that you don't want. I've done it for over a year now and I'm only now realizing that I need to take a leap and something has to change for me to be happy.
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Sometimes we grow apart and sometimes together. Of course, the hope is to grown into one as we forge our individual identities. This is not always the case.
Love is never enough sometimes