We all know that spending quality time with your significant other is key to a successful relationship. But for a lot of women, we can becomes so engrossed in our romantic life with our partner that we begin take other women in our daily lives for granted. Here are 5 reasons why a woman needs other women in her life, and not just men:
1. Girl Talk
Every woman needs some girl talk every once and awhile. From periods to pregnancy, there are some things that we can (and should) only discuss with other women, and things that only other women can truly understand. Your man will appreciate not hearing about feminine issues, which are probably both confusing and/or gross to him!
2. Shopping
Lets face it, most men hate shopping (well, shopping for fun, anyway). For most men, shopping seems like a one-track mission; go to a store to get only what you need, push the cart up and down the isles like the Indie 500, then get out of the store as fast as possible (unless, its looking at tools, of course). But for women, shopping is about carefully browsing and finding good deals! It is much more of a social activity than it is for men, which is why other women make the best shopping partners!
3. Watching Chick Flicks
Trust me ladies, no man willingly wants to sit down with you and watch a sappy chick-flick or rom-com! If it doesn't have explosions, violence, or nudity, he won't see it, unless it entails getting some action from you during the movie, of course. Chick flicks are much more enjoyable to watch with your gal pals, especially with a girly drink and junk food!
4. Beauty and Fashion Advice
Your man may tell you if your outfit or makeup looks nice (or not) when asked, but that's probably the extent of his fashion and beauty input. If you are looking for a more in-depth opinion on your fashion choices and makeup, another woman definitely has one (albeit a more brutally honest one too!).
5. Home Decorating Advice
Just like beauty and fashion, most men don't have a keen eye for interior decoration. If it was up to men, the fridge, toilet and TV would all be in the same room, and that ugly futon he had in college would still be the focal point of the living room. Sometimes its helpful to get another woman's opinion when it comes to decorating the home (especially when picking paint colors for a room!).
5 Reasons A Woman Needs Other Women Her Life (And Not Just Men)
1. I don't need girl talk because I talk to my mom about anything and everything all of the time. She's the one I go to for advice and if I want advice from someone closer to my age, I'd go to one of my female cousins that I'm close with and talk to a lot and hang out with when I can. So, I'm not losing anything but not having a female friend to talk to. I have people, so I'm good.
2. I'm not really a big shopper, I usually only go to the mall if I actually need something of if someone invites me and I really want to spend time with them. However, just to ask a bunch of chicks to go to the mall for the sake of going to the mall, not going to happen. So, it's okay I have no one to shop with because I'm not a big shopper myself.
3. Though I enjoy a good romantic comedy, I also like action and suspense movies as well. I watch a lot of crime movies on Lifetime and LMN, that's my thing. I like light hearted comedies and rom coms but I'm a action/ crime movie girl at heart. So, it doesn't bother me. Besides, I've never watched a chick flick in my life. The way I see it, life sucks enough and all I have to do is think about certain things in my life if I want a good cry, I don't have to watch a movie to do that.
4&5. I'm rolling those in together because if I ever need fashion, makeup, decorating or even cooking advice, my mom is the perfect person to go to for that and the only one I would want to go to for that stuff. All of those things are things she's quite knowledgeable about and is very passionate about, so why would I go to anyone else?
I sense this is aimed at chicks in relationships and though I've never had a relationship, I do feel more comfortable with guys. All my friends are guys and that includes my two best friends and despite being different genders, we understand each other well and have a lot in common. It's not easy for me to connect with people or be comfortable around them, so having someone I'm comfortable around and can be myself with is more important then having some sisterhood of the traveling pants bond with women, I might not feel comfortable around or relate to. Basically, if I ever down the line add a female friend to my life, fine but if not I'm totally content with my boys.
I see what you're saying, and I guess it could have some importance, but a lot of women do like male company over women's. It's a tough situation. A lot of women don't see it as a big deal for women to get together on the things you're saying, and feel that guys are better friends, even if they're their boyfriends. Also, women have to feel like they can actually bond enough with each other to want to do these things.
And honestly, it sort of seems like you're trying to say that women should mingle with other women just because. As if female companionship should be more important than bonding with men. Any woman can have girlfriends and girlfriend moments, but I'm more concerned about how a woman can bond and have enjoyment with men without lacking the confidence.
Yes, I am actually one of those women that enjoy the company of my boyfriend over other women. I think over time, I have come to realize that both men and women need friends outside of their romantic relationships. I am just saying that women shouldn't set aside their female friendships because they are in a relationship (same goes for men too).
@stardust101 Because it's easy to interact with your same sex, but can you have any skills and courage with interacting with the opposite sex? Do you know how to be versatile? Are you just as secure with men as you are with women? That's what I mean. To me, women who prefer female company over male, even when they're in relationships with men, don't seem to me like they really have any courage or ability to be social or close with men.
I get what you're saying. I actually work in a male dominated environment and I interact with them the same way I do with women. There are times where I will prefer another female's company over a man's company just cuz I like to have girl time.
@stardust101 Yes, I got that. But what I explained is that - to me - it has the appearance of saying that as women their bonding is supposed to come before any others or come before bonding with men.
@stardust101 Exactly! I feel like I write anything on here without it being misconstrued. It's mostly aimed at men who don't think it's important for their SO to have a social life and women who take their female friendships for granted when they are in a relationship.
@MandyRuth I explained that your post SEEMED that way to me. Misconstrued writings happen. I have some of my own stuff misconstrued, especially when the person actually did not read the whole thing.
I've never known of guys to think their SO shouldn't have a social life, but I guess it could be. And is it that women with bfs/husbands take their female friendships for granted? Or they just feel like their relationship with their man is healthier, more sincere, and more important to them than hanging out with girlfriends? I mean, it doesn't have to be a bad thing if she would rather connect with her man than other women.
I like the things you listed but I don't need them necessarily. I can do shopping by myself or with my guy friends who like shopping. I enjoy the company of guys, I grew up with two brothers so I'm infinitely more comfortable being one of the lads. I like being friends with girls but I don't see having 'girl time' as that important to me. It's nice but I don't necessarily have to have it. I like being friends platonically with dudes and my interests are very similar with my guy friends and I don't think I have to change who I am for anyone tbh.
I think personality is most important. and you can be more comfortable doing any of those things with a guy over a woman if you're more comfortable with him. i actually have had more in depth discussions about periods and pregnancy with men than women. i know guys who are more comfortable doing stuff with woman than men., i dont think connecting over genitalia is necessarily necessary unless you're dealing with things like discrimination. then its a matter of what group is experiencing the same thing. but even there there will be disco. its not like being one sex makes you all the same.
but caressingly movies and shopping and talking and home decorating.. can be done with anyone if they are a trie friend.
1. My "girl talk" is about YouTube and video games. Any period stuff (which there really isn't much to report on) would be centered on sickness and in that case someone would be taking care of me because I can't move.
2. I don't like shopping
3. I prefer horror films, and sometimes my boyfriend requests "chick fliks" when he wants to be romantic but we'd both prefer something scary or filled with action.
4. I don't wear makeup and women's idea of what men find attractive seems to be grossly skewed from what men say they find attractive. Plus I'm only trying to look good for my boyfriend.
5. Girl I play the Sims, I've got a lot of home decor practice. :D
Sorry, but I'll take guy friends over girl friends any day. Aside from a few girls I've met, most are catty, jealous, judgmental, and dramatic. I'm a nerdy, straightforward girl, and I hate the mind games and drama that come with most female friends. Aside from the very childish ones, guys don't put on a facade as friends. It makes things more relaxing and enjoyable.
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1. I'd rather keep girly stuff to myself. 2. I hate clothes shopping. If I had to buy clothes, then I'd go a thrift store to buy clothes. 3. I am disinclined to watch chick flicks and romantic comedies. Romantic comedies -- bleh! I don't want any of that mushy-gushy stuff! 4. I don't put on make-up or trendy clothes myself; anything about fashion or make-up bores me to death. 5. I am not in a position in my life where I own a house. But if I were a co-homeowner with a husband, 2.5 kids, and a dog, then I would just ask my family.
I don't mind girls. Guys have as much drama and gossip as girls (oh did you hear that girl is a slut? Or hey you know josh fucked jenny) bs like that... So I don't get why girls say that as the reason lol. I've just always gotten along better with guys since I was a little kid, I didn't have girl friends til I was kinda old and probably still don't have any I can class as a real friend... just people i know kinda thing, you know? I do once in a while wish I could have girl chat, but the rest I don't care about. Girl talk just looks fun in movies when they're bonded enough to talk about certain things or ask for advice.
1) i dont really like girl talk. it tends to be catty and judgmental. guys are a lot more chill and fun to talk to. they mes around with peeople to their face instead of talking behind their backs. plus, they always tell the truth
2) i dont really like shopping. and you can't really trust your friends opinons, because a lot of the time friends want to look better than you. they will tell you that you look good when you dont
3) i know a lot of guys that like chick flicks
4) i kind of agree with this one
5) i would go to my mom for help with this, not friends
From my own observations , women value other women far more then they value men , women form ultra close friendships that men never do with each other. The genders are wired totally differently , which is why women tend to stick together. You are right about shopping , I get my groceries delivered as I HATE going into shops , if i have to , it's early on before they get busy ! I'm a single dad , so time is precious.
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I dislike all 5 things described. Exactly the reason I find it difficult to engage in friendships with other women. Just not a girly girl I guess.
Youtube and amazon pretty much covers all of this.. Meh I can't stand most girls usually. Too emotional and dramatic. Chick flicks should be an abomination, I don't know how people watch them lol
Personally I couldn't agree more with you on all the points you've raised. However in having said that, I do know of several women who wouldn't, for the very same reasons the girls/women here have given.
... you know, when I say this is what women do on their own, I get called a misogynist. Something about stereotypes and shitlords. But you're right, shopping is VERY important for women to do together for... reasons.
So basically the same reason men need other men in their lives? So we can talk about random ass crap, watch violent movies, and decompress away from girls? Cause I completely understand that and I've never had a girlfriend.
Yeah I totally agree with these. Sadly, I really only have guy friends. Weirdly I get along really well with guys. Although one of them doesn't mind me spilling a little girl talk on me
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