Why You Shouldn't Have High Expectations if You're Not So Attractive (Rant)

[Anonymous]

Disclaimer: This isn't just guys. Yes I know girls do this too, but I noticed a lot more guy do. (At least on here)

I see all of these guys talking about how it doesn't matter how they look and how women shouldn't be so shallow when they're shallow themselves.

First of all If you want people to not care about how you look why are you allowed to care about looks?

There's seems to be a lot of guys on here talking and asking about if they can get hot girls while their just average. This angers me. If you want people to stop being shallow and only caring about looks so should you! Lower your fucking expectations Christ.

I also saw this one thing on here about this guy saying how more beautiful girls and hotter girls are easy. I'm like no it's just attractive women (tend to) don't care about looks as much as you do.

I'd be perfectly fine with dating a average guy, as long as he didn't care about my looks so much because honestly looks fade.

I'm going to say this one more time if you want people to stop being so shallow about looks and all then you should too! (Rant done)

#Rant

[ThisDudeHere]

Girls say you shouldn't have high expectations if you're not hot.
Girls don't like you if you lack the confidence to think you're hot.

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[myTake Owner]

Lol true.

[ThisDudeHere]

So what does an average guy do in this case? I mean, I know I'm not hot, but neither do I "complain" that "hot girls don't like me". I have reasonable expectations but does that mean I can't 'try' to go for hot girls?

[myTake Owner]

Just go after girls you like. Sorry this was a rant about guys who only date hot girls when they're not hot. I have no problem what so ever with average guys, average girls, people in general going after hot girls because everyone wants a hot person, but don't act like you deserve someone better looking and reject girls just because they aren't a 10/10 or something.

[myTake Owner]

You get my drift?

[cinderelli]

No it doesn't mean that at all.. you're not average okay.. but even if you think you are.. confidence gives two points. Like a 7 can be 9 with confidence.. plus like she said... hot + above average couples are common. That means one can aim higher and succeed

[cinderelli]

Hot + average couples are so common.. so it's fine to aim higher.. but yeah that should not limit your dating pool..

[Bluemax]

"Lower your fucking expectations"

This is a common mistake. The words "expectations" and "desires" don't mean the same thing. I believe most unattractive men desire an attractive woman. I have never heard one say they expect an attractive woman. I've heard them say they want one. I've heard them say they hope for one. I've never actually heard one say they *EXPECT* one. Want, hope, and expect are three different words with different meanings, but for some reason, people seem to interchange them.

You can control what you expect. But it's far more difficult to control what you want or what you find attractive. Ugly people generally don't find other ugly people attractive, just like the rest of us. It's not a matter of they are just unwilling to lower their standards of attractiveness, they *CAN'T* lower their standards of what they find attractive.

This is why I advise they make every effort to become more attractive, not (somehow) will themselves into finding unattractive people attractive, which I believe is telling them to do something impossible.

[steven7890789]

I never thought I ''deserved a certain woman. Before I just went after all types of women regardless how they looked like. I never complained if they rejected me cause of my looks. Then later on I went ONLY after women in my league and it still took forever but not as forever when I went after all types of women. I ended up getting a date finally for the first time. Now that woman in my league is my girlfriend. So does this mean I used to be an asshole for going after all types of women before? Even the 10/10 ones? The thing is I didn't JUST go after them.

[SatyricLord]

I gave four ugly girls a chance. The first one scammed me, she broke my body while giving me a massage and she tried to give me an STD. The second one wasn't very enthusiastic about me and tried to scam me. The third one was a complete psychopath. The fourth one scammed me. I'm done with ugly girls.

I gave one average girl a chance. She tried to extort me. I'm done with average girls.

I gave four beautiful girls a chance. All four of them were respectful to me. I am only going for beautiful girls from now on. Beautiful girls have great personalities. It's not fair for me to go for girls that I'm not attracted to. I know I've said I'm attracted to all girls, but after reading this rant and analyzing my past, I've realized the girls I found the most attractive were also the best girls for me.

[myTake Owner]

You're going after the wrong girls. You don't have to go after ugly ones, but dont think you deserve a 10/10

[SatyricLord]

The 10/10's were good people, though. None of them made me feel bad. None of them attacked me. All of them helped me out. The only reason I haven't chased 10/10's was because I never had the time to pursue girls. I have time now, so I'm going to pursue them now. I don't care if I don't deserve a 10/10. I want 10/10 girls in my life.

You can't decide who I can get or not get for myself. Only I can decide for myself who I can get.

I'm not going for ugly girls or average girls again. They have terrible personalities. I actually treated all of those ugly girls really well, yet all of them proved to me that they were bad people. Unless an ugly girl has a really good personality, I will never give an ugly girl a chance again.

[myTake Owner]

Troll you're making all that shit up lmao

[myTake Owner]

If you really did find a 10/10 u wouldn't be on a site like this lol

[Relentless_Hippie]

I get what you're saying, "don't be a hypocrite" that's certainly true.

But what determines someone's attractiveness? Beauty is subjective, if a guy you think is horrendously ugly wants a girl you think is outrageously beautiful what qualifies either of them as such?

[myTake Owner]

Yeah sorry my take sounds really dumb when I reread it I was just a pissed while writing.

[Relentless_Hippie]

I don't think it sounds dumb at all. For people who don't know how to read they'll obviously take it the wrong way but the message you're trying to deliver remains valid regardless of what tone of voice it is written in.

[AleDeEurope]

I get your point, and I agree, but if you look at real life situations, you don't see many men demanding hot women when they're average themselves, unlike these ugly fat women claiming their fat bodies re beautiful, and demanding a tall hot muscular dude, while rejecting anything everyone else.
That's why there's this stupid campaign about how every woman is beautiful. You don't see that type of shit with men.

[myTake Owner]

Um no not much girls I know demanding hot tall men. One of my best friends in fact married a well ugly dude. And she's super beautiful.

[AleDeEurope]

Like I said, men aren't the ones with the campaign "every man is beautiful" XD

[myTake Owner]

So...

[AleDeEurope]

That girls expect to be liked by hot guys even when they're fat and ugly.

[myTake Owner]

Not all girls. Like I said mainly guys do that they might not do campaigns like those but there's still pretty shallow when it comes to dating.

[AleDeEurope]

I know not all girls do that, but girls do it way more often than guys. When you grow older and spend more time with both genders, when you go to bars and clubs and socialize with other people and hear them talk, you'll understand what I'm saying.

[Bandit74]

"If you want people to stop being shallow and only caring about looks so should you! Lower your fucking expectations Christ"

Not really. One person's refusal to care about looks isn't going to change anyone else's dating standards.

Girls are just as picky about looks, if not more picky, especially when it comes to casual sex.

[BiscuitesSwag]

I think you have seen the posts from guys that want a hot girl just because she is hot and don't care about personality at all, those posts are the worst (besides penis, boobs and Turkey). 😐

By the way, thanks for saying this! 🙏

[FudgeIsTasty]

Why should people settle for less than they feel they deserve? That's called settling and that's not a good thing. People who settle end up locked inside unhappy and unfulfilling existences. This is not good for the mind, body and spirit.

[myTake Owner]

I never said to settle for less then they deserve, but just not act like they deserve a 10/10 when they're not one themselves.

[FudgeIsTasty]

Why shouldn't they try and punch above their weight? Also I have never seen a single woman that is a 10/10 and the women closest to that mark usually have to enhance their appearance to achieve that imaginary boundary, therefore they are not really that attractive and in some cases are on par with those "less than desirable men" that they complain about.

[myTake Owner]

It's just annoys me like sure you shouldn't settle for less then you deserve. And punch above their weight? What's wrong with you? Just get a girl who looks the same as attractive as you and be done with it and if you somehow manage to get a better looking person then good for you.

[myTake Owner]

There's too many shallow people smh

[zombiebabe]

i agree with you on this
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[TheOneAndOnlyBart]

That devastating moment in a guy's life when he realises that his mother was lying to him when she said that he is handsome and that any girl would love to be his girlfriend. Sigh.

[TayTay21]

I agree, people do need to be realistic. That said, anyone can improve themselves.

[Red_Arrow]

lol. When I first read it, it cam out "Why you should stop having such high erections if you're not so attractive yourself"

[myTake Owner]

Lol.

[Negrodamuss]

Yeah this isn't something i need to worry about. When you look as good as I do, there are no women who are out of your league.

[myTake Owner]

Bahaha yeah sure

[Anonymous]

So I should view my "average" looks as a genetic deformity that prevents me from dating the highest tier females? I should be content with the fat girls I meet on Tinder?

[myTake Owner]

No. I never said to go after ugly fat chicks just don't act like you're deserve a girl who's 10/10 if you're not one yourself.

[Opinion Owner]

But LOOKS AREN'T EVERYTHING. And there's no such thing as a 10/10. Everyone is human. Personality is more important. Some people think that girls can only be a "7" tops due to the fact that they are female and desire a strong male leader. Not every girl who is of the top tier in looks is with a male model. After a certain age, is their even such a thing as a "hot guy," if he's not rich or famous?

[myTake Owner]

Yes I know there's no such thing as a 10/10 but what I mean by that is a hot women that comes close

[myTake Owner]

I know looks aren't everything! That's why I'm saying not to just go after hot girls.

[Opinion Owner]

But what's the fun in not trying for them? Seems unfair that I'm not allowed to "try" just because of some reason that I don't know what that is.

[myTake Owner]

Ignorant asshole

[Anonymous]

im ygleh but stll wants hot girls. can't help it

[myTake Owner]

Sigh you're just proving my point that guys are shallow as I said.

[Opinion Owner]

ohh damn spelling mistake... everyone is shallow