Just an FYI: When I close my QOTW question, I’ll be writing the mytake within that day or the next.
Here’re the top 8 answers from each gender. I need more women specifically to answer my questions, cmon guys! If you have any suggestions on what you’d like to see for a QOTW then comment or PM me your suggestion(s).
Boys:
1. @capncool age24: “If I’m doing something casual then I keep my options open but once I am in a full relationship I commit. I think it’s fine if you two aren’t serious but if you are then you shouldn’t be too insecure to need a backup.”
2. @JohnDoe3000 age29: “Nope, I’m no male model or a pretty girl so I’ve never even had that option.”
3. @Dreamboy31 age20: “This isn’t meant for people if you are in love, you should have faith in your love and in them. It’s okay if you just are casual or enjoy flirting, cause then it is only attraction and not love.”
4. @Blitzkrieger age22: “I don’t even have time for that, too much planning.”
5. Anon 30-35: “That’s not how things work and for those who do have serious issues.”
6. @Phoenix98 age23: “No that is a ridiculous concept, people are not tools or parts, we don’t stock up on people in case one breaks or doesn’t work out.”
7. @TheFifthBeatle1965 age18: “I don’t want it because I think it’d just create a distraction, it could also cause you to take your current relationship for granted.”
8. @Liisjak age28: “I’ve got back ups for my backups lol”
Smh that isn’t good though lol
Girls:
1. @FallOutBoy2001 age 16: “I wouldn’t want a backup even if I did have guys or girls interested in dating me to begin with. If I am in a relationship, I want to be with that person ONLY.”
2. @Archiz age21: “I don’t even think of anyone else if I am really into someone.”
3. @DizzyDesii age21: “Backup boyfriend, no, backup crush, 24/7 lol. I have about 7 of those at once.”
4. @Turquoise46 age46: “I never had the luxury of more than one option at a time, usually I have no options.”
5. @Lizzietwentyten age18: “I have a backup, he’s crazy about me but I’m not so much with him. He’s insurance but at the same time he would be a second choice but that isn’t a good thing.”
6. @lost_alice age16: “My girlfriend was kinda my backup for other people, I regret it not because of me but for her. She loved me a lot and didn’t deserve to be treated the way I did.”
7. @BuchitaBuchys age25: “No that just means you’re ready for it to fail. You’re just eventually setting yourself up for it to end and it’ll happen again.”
8. @lostgirl_searching age24: “No, someone had me as a back burner and I didn’t like it. I felt heart broken everytime I thought of it because it was like he didn’t care that I knew.”
I personally find it disrespectful to the other person and I agree you're setting yourself up to fail. Its fine if you are casual or a hookup/fwb but if you're in a serious relationship with someone it means you aren't invested in them.
Next weeks #QOTW may be more lighthearted. Music maybe?
What do you guys wish to see, leave a suggestion in the comments or PM me for a specific qotw. I hope you enjoyed!
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