Why I've Decided to Give Up

[Anonymous]

This is something that I've been mulling over for a while and just finally wanted to get off my chest. Before everyone goes ballistic, no I am not giving up on life. What I am giving up on is something that I could never hope to achieve in life: love, relationships, and sex. It was foolish of me to ever have hope that one day I could find somebody for me, but at 23 I realize that it’s too late for me. There’s no one out there who could ever love someone who by the age of 23 had never had a girlfriend or sex.

I know some people will probably think that I blame women for my problems, but that is not the case. It’s just a cruel fact of genetics that my looks rate a 0/10 and that I have a face that not even a mother could love. The rest of my body is even worse with my insecurities over my height and my tiny size of 6.5” x 5” (which could never possibly please anyone). It would take me a ton of plastic surgery to even look human, and unfortunately with the cost of it I won’t be able to.

Personality, it is said, is the most important factor, but I unfortunately have the worst personality in the world made worse by a lifetime of depression and anxiety. My personality is extremely cold and distant, and I never try to show emotions around anyone. It is because of my personality that I have zero friends and as such zero chances for ever meeting a romantic partner. Therefore it's best for everyone if I keep myself isolated.

My decision to avoid love, relationships, and sex in my opinion is one of the nicest things I can do since it would be too cruel of me to ever be involved with another person. Simply put, I am way too worthless to be loved. As well, avoiding this in my life will allow me to focus on my self to find a comfortable way of living out the rest of my life. I have so far tried to keep my mind on other things by avoiding sexual images and porn. My sex drive, however, is still quite high and I am considering chemical castration, and with all desires gone I can finely push forward into making the rest of my life as comfortable as possible.

[MarkRet]

With a negative attitude like that, you'll never get anywhere. I was a virgin until I was 25, and I'm certainly no good looking hunk. I was pretty withdrawn in high school, had very few friends, and didn't even TALK to girls, because I didn't know what to say to them, and I was afraid of them anyway.

As the years went by, I started breaking out of a lot of shells. I wasn't out trying to 'get' a girl, but did things that opened my horizons (like ice skating lessons). Along the way, girls just kind of floated into and out of the picture. The more I talked to them, the more my social skills and confidence grew.

Maybe you should just do things to broaden your horizons, and it might open your world more for other possibilities.

[Anonymous]

I didn't even read it. There already a lot of negativity that I'm saving myself from. I don't want to indulge in your negative attitude towards life.
I'd rather live I'm my dream world and believe in true love, making love and babies and finding my ideal husband ----instead of giving up.

[Anonymous]

you need an attitude make over dude, read a book called "you are a badass" and seriously learn to change your attitude.
So you think your body is bad? read a book called "shrill" because she thought she was fat and ugly, but she got over it. Learn to get over your body and looks.
You are lovable, that's because Jesus died for everyone. Everyone is loved. If you are a human, you are deserving of life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. Go get it.

[Anonymous]

pffftttttt hahahahaha. dude your right... its over. your screwed for life...

listen your sounding too desperate dude. go read a book called The Game. it won't help you find love actually far from it. It will turn you into a very fake man if you follow the instructions though but it will give you results

[BillyB4]

Geez, I see to many stories last key this. Listen man, life isn’t easy, but it is completely possible to meet nice women and find love. You’ve got to keep trying. Giving up will just make you more miserable. And you’re 23, you’re situation isn’t that hopeless. My grandfather didn’t have a proper girlfriend until he was 32, and he ended up happy in love

[moviedude714]

What you define as proper girlfriend?

[BillyB4]

@moviedude714 I mean one he was serious about. He had one in his early twenties who was more of a friend

[moviedude714]

So the one in his early twenties was not really a true girlfriend?

[BillyB4]

@moviedude714 As far as I know no, it was just someone he got along with but didn’t have strong feelings for

[moviedude714]

As usual, cases like that happen to men more than women for obvious reasons

[zagor]

A lot of people haven't dated or had sex by 23 - especially if they are focused on education and career.

But keep thinking like that and you'll be in the same boat at 63. Then you'll be justified in giving up on those things.

[Pamina]

23? You geezer, it's over.

Get that chemical castration ASAP.

[mattl338]

LMAO!

[Bluemax]

I believe you are giving up on life, and you might not even be aware of it.

What country are you in?

[monkeynutts]

Ever asked if they serve cement in public bars, if they do make sure they throw in some gravel. You want the ladies, you gotta drink a man's drink. Toughen up sport. Work hard, get rich and when your 50 you can be a sugar daddy.

[BaileyisDarcy]

you're 23 not fucking 50. Get the fuck over yourself

[mattl338]

This is so true and I'm laughing my ass off XD

[luvstoned4him]

23 wow... seriously? Im 27, well i guess life has already ended for me.

[Anonymous]

You are far to negative. I'd be with a virgin and someone who's never experienced love or a relationship because I know I'd get there all. He wouldn't play a game

[MysteriousDarkness]

You come across as the feel sorry for me type. You seem to have no self esteem.

[Dchrls78104]

If you at 23 have this attitude, what hope is there for a 40 year old virgin like me?

[Ellie-V]

ur still young

[Astoriana]

No one cares Hayden.

[Anonymous]

Unfortunately the desire never goes away

[CT_CD]

Don't give up.

[hasrett]

Okay.

[mattl338]

? lol

[Anonymous]

alright sir