Hello and welcome! Take a seat you all.
Good! Now I want to tell you guys and gals why I find forming romantic relationships to be... I would say tedious and rather seemingly not even worth it.
The idea of personal and romantic relationships between a man and a woman is sweet like sugar, spicy like chili, warm like the sun, inducing oxytocin and everything nice. I love it!
But ideas, theories and concepts often do not match practicability and in this case: personal, romantic relationships. To experience genuine love seems heavenly like a fairy tale or a nice bedtime story.
I try my best to not blame women but it's hard not to do so or else I can't deliver the message I want to deliver. Please understand, that here and now I'm not going to refer to women as a generalization but as in actual experiences (fortunately these did not happen to me but to the other unfortunate ones). If you are easily offended or can't take opinions or viewpoints different from yours, then quit now and do the next thing in your queue. And don't bother posting anything in response.
Below are the things, that make me dread from forming personal, romantic relationships. Brace yourselves now because shit is about to get realistically really real.š£
Insecurities - Control your boyfriend what he can do and what he can't do
I'm not a puppet. I'm a human being and i am no one's property except for my employer, who rents me and my services.
You guys and gals can probably imagine how one girl can be so insecure to want to restrict her boyfriends freedom what he can do and what he can't do. She would "prohibit" him from talking to girls, liking random photos of users, who have registered as the female gender, get upset over him watching porn, randomly looking at some random woman somehow "inappropriate" for her and the list goes on for kilometers.
Girl, get the fuck real now! Your insecurities are *your* own problem. You are the source of your own misery! Either deal with them anyhow or get lost.
Wanting access to everything. Wanting no privacy for her boyfriend
Here we go again š Another insecurity or a manipulation personality. This girl wants to have her boyfriends phone password, computer password, email password, facebook password (if available), debit card pin number, home keys, diaries, private messages, SMS, your contacts...
I mean what is all of this? These are my personal things, not yours! You are not my authority! Who do you think you are, some FBI agent?
This is asking for trouble and it reeks of trust issues from kilometers away. This kind of female ought to get lost too.
My personal privacy is very important to me!
Entitlements
This kind of female feels she's the center of the universe and thinks she deserves everything and she's the one, who matters on the planet.
There has been and will be life, sun, space and time before, during and after this female's lifespan.
And she's not the only entity, that "counts". We all are alive and we all are in the center of our own body. Or so it seems.
Or she expects just because she's a female all males going on a date with her should pay for her time and presence.
NOBODY OWES HER ANYTHING!
Insanity
This female does not get it her way and starts raging like a spoiled brat.
She comes up to her boyfriend and asks "Hey, do you notice anything?" as she assumes he will because she's been hours away at the barber to get a new haircut her boyfriend doesn't know about and he responds just honestly "Uhhh. No? Oh wait, you are wearing a new shirt?". He didn't guess, she gets mad and angrily shouts at him "OH MY GOD, NO! I I HAVE A NEW HAIR CUT YOU IDIOT!" or something of that sort and won't speak to him for the rest of the week.
Or the worst of that sort: She thinks smashing her boyfriends expensive device will get it her way.
Doh!
Needy like a child
This female requires you to
- Compliment her at least 3 times every day
- Call her every morning and night before sleep
- Assure her, that she's really the only woman you love and ever want
- Give her flowers every time you meet with her (can be plucked from the ground if it's summer)
- Wine and dine her regularly
- Always tell her how you feel
- Remember anniversaries, days since you two last talked, special occasions...
- Always give her massages
- Always kiss her when she expects you to and not kiss her when she doesn't want to but you always "should know" when to do it and when not to do it.
- Something else
- The list goes on
- And barely gets
- fulfilled entirely
- but at least you tried your best
- and still you either couldn't make her for the most part happy
- or it drains too much of your energy and time
- and possibly even your money
Don't even get me started with social media
It's all fake! It's not real! It's nothing! This is the place where relationships often take an impact. The needs for likes, shares, taggings, posting photos online every now and then and their "relationship status" is extremely imbecilic! Yet many find a reason right here to start drama.
Don't do drugs, kids!
And if she's not happy for just one day with you
She'll run off and does inappropriate things behind your back. Cheaty, cheaty.
No
That's too much work for so little reward.
But of course here's the much needed disclaimer
Like I said before: Not all women are like any of this. There, I have said it before and I have said it again. Is any more reassurance needed?
This is merely my explanation why I dread relationships. Any of you can shame me for that and I won't care. Shaming me for it does nothing other than pushing me further into my shell just from you.
And before you throw any labels at me: The difference between me and any of those "nice guy incels, Elliot Rodger reborns" that you might think is that I am not blaming myself or anybody for how things turned out nor do I hate anybody for it. I just strongly dislike the way things are seeming now.
I can clearly see why many people prefer singlehood over relationships.
That concludes my article! Hope you learned something and enjoyed reading it! Thanks for reading and have a nice day!
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