All throughout this post, you speak of what she needs and what makes her happy. When are you going to ask the question of what makes you happy? It's obviously a toxic situation that is building and building and out of contentment, not out of a pure foundation built for stability.
I hope you realize you don't need to change to be happy and that the happiness comes from acceptance of another person. Love should be easy. Not full of "maybe"s and "someday"s. Obviously you don't have to listen to anyone's advice, but for your sake, my friend, I hope you realize your own worth and stop sacrificing your happiness for hers.
She doesn't deserve your charity if she doesn't appreciate you for you. She's disqualified herself.
That being said, please be well. I hope you realize these things for yourself, even if you never read these words on here.
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That's just sad. You seemed a pretty successful young man some months ago and now you are reduced to defend your girlfriend awful behavior and pathetically elaborate logic hoops on how she's not abusing you.
@Ellie-V He literally wrote "When she's not screaming or being jealous, or hitting me" That's abuse. Sure, people go through arguments in relationships, but abuse is different.
This sounds like my marriage, minus the hitting. I stayed. We had kids who are my world, but I'm now going through a divorce mostly because I couldn't face being unhappy for the rest of my life, which I would have been if I stayed. I'm now working F/T, I'm full time carer for my children and life is crazy, but I'm glad to finally (after 15 years of marriage) be out if that unhealthy relationship. Wish I'd done it years ago but never considered it.
If there's ever the possibility of kids in future, I'd strongly encourage you to get out *before* that happens.
Also just remember your happiness matters as much as hers. I realised that even if I never find anyone else I'd be happier in no relationship than in that one.
They say love is blind, and that the heart wants what the heart wants. Here is a bit of simple poetry you should quote to her on your next anniversary, her birthday or Valentine's day (whichever comes first): Love is all I need, and whom I love I love indeed I love thee, thee, thee
Damn thats beautiful. I hope she can fix some her behavioral problems, I understand you love her and you are doing the right thing but, it might take a toll on you in the long-term.
Anyways, God Bless, and I wish you two all the best
Hey bro, fact is you have a normal woman aside from the hitting you stay with her because you seek the accomplishment of fixing and making her life better than it was so you endure which will only grow to be a bad thing because as the days go by you tally up so much resentment not only for her but for you as well it’s best to revisit this at a later date and focus on you or risk it all by sticking it through
If it means improving your relationship and making your life a happier place, I suggest quitting the website, even thought I and many people like you being here.
But I just think your happiness is more important :)
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WTF. You are tolerating being hit? How do you think people would have reacted/advised if a woman posted that, vs a man? I know it sounds awful - but watch even just one video on a YouTube channel called Thrive after Abuse by Dana Morningstar. It sound extreme , but she explains the traits and behaviours of narcissists (it is on a spectrum). You may be a little taken aback (I’m not trying to be dramatic).
If you manage to get trough the rough times you'll be able to build something greater. Out of the original fire of passion true love appears and that, needs work and commitment. But, from both sides
there are three things you shouldn't do in life, quit on her, quit this site, and quit sharing because you never know who's going to find it useful. cheers brother, keep keeping her she's a keeper.
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All throughout this post, you speak of what she needs and what makes her happy. When are you going to ask the question of what makes you happy? It's obviously a toxic situation that is building and building and out of contentment, not out of a pure foundation built for stability.
I hope you realize you don't need to change to be happy and that the happiness comes from acceptance of another person. Love should be easy. Not full of "maybe"s and "someday"s. Obviously you don't have to listen to anyone's advice, but for your sake, my friend, I hope you realize your own worth and stop sacrificing your happiness for hers.
She doesn't deserve your charity if she doesn't appreciate you for you. She's disqualified herself.
That being said, please be well. I hope you realize these things for yourself, even if you never read these words on here.
That's just sad.
You seemed a pretty successful young man some months ago and now you are reduced to defend your girlfriend awful behavior and pathetically elaborate logic hoops on how she's not abusing you.
Follow your heart but have a sense of reason! No matter how much you love them or they claim to love you, hitting is NEVER a normal thing.
I know
@Ellie-V He literally wrote "When she's not screaming or being jealous, or hitting me" That's abuse. Sure, people go through arguments in relationships, but abuse is different.
This sounds like my marriage, minus the hitting. I stayed. We had kids who are my world, but I'm now going through a divorce mostly because I couldn't face being unhappy for the rest of my life, which I would have been if I stayed. I'm now working F/T, I'm full time carer for my children and life is crazy, but I'm glad to finally (after 15 years of marriage) be out if that unhealthy relationship. Wish I'd done it years ago but never considered it.
If there's ever the possibility of kids in future, I'd strongly encourage you to get out *before* that happens.
Also just remember your happiness matters as much as hers. I realised that even if I never find anyone else I'd be happier in no relationship than in that one.
Good luck with your decision.
Fyi i can't tag on this crappy app on my phone but check gag community! Someone posted about you i think,... again
Sad people who have nothing to do in my opinion!
Thanks for telling me.
Lol i dont get why people take the time. Appears you have fans on here as well, take it as a compliment🤷♀️🙈😂
And sure thing👍
Maybe I share too much stuff here
They say love is blind, and that the heart wants what the heart wants. Here is a bit of simple poetry you should quote to her on your next anniversary, her birthday or Valentine's day (whichever comes first):
Love is all I need, and whom I love I love indeed
I love thee, thee, thee
Damn thats beautiful. I hope she can fix some her behavioral problems, I understand you love her and you are doing the right thing but, it might take a toll on you in the long-term.
Anyways, God Bless, and I wish you two all the best
Hey bro, fact is you have a normal woman aside from the hitting you stay with her because you seek the accomplishment of fixing and making her life better than it was so you endure which will only grow to be a bad thing because as the days go by you tally up so much resentment not only for her but for you as well it’s best to revisit this at a later date and focus on you or risk it all by sticking it through
If it means improving your relationship and making your life a happier place, I suggest quitting the website, even thought I and many people like you being here.
But I just think your happiness is more important :)
WTF. You are tolerating being hit? How do you think people would have reacted/advised if a woman posted that, vs a man?
I know it sounds awful - but watch even just one video on a YouTube channel called Thrive after Abuse by Dana Morningstar. It sound extreme , but she explains the traits and behaviours of narcissists (it is on a spectrum). You may be a little taken aback (I’m not trying to be dramatic).
I am not opposing your point of view in any way but I think he's talking of small little hits. Juuuust putting it out there babe uwu.
ok wait dun worry i agree with you
Do what makes you happy, your happiness comes first
Don’t get it what’s the point of this mytake, you already said you don’t want to break up with her isn’t that all you need to say
Would you say that to a woman who said her boyfriend hit her?
No I’d say you need to get therapy but if she still says no what more can I do
Fucking god, she either managed to break you or you are as obsessed as her
Love, the only emotion that is a reason unto itself. I would say good luck, but it seems like you and her are attached, so there is no need for luck.
If you manage to get trough the rough times you'll be able to build something greater. Out of the original fire of passion true love appears and that, needs work and commitment.
But, from both sides
Did you just say "hitting"?
I think that's a problem. Seek professional consultation. In a healthy relationship, partners don't do this to each other.
She probably just likes you so much, that she wants to always be around you, which is cute. Maybe you should be more like she wants you to be.
there are three things you shouldn't do in life, quit on her, quit this site, and quit sharing because you never know who's going to find it useful. cheers brother, keep keeping her she's a keeper.
Don’t quit
Honestly not a bad thing losing a guy who don't want be helped u. u
@bloodys2 he's nice. I like him.