The 1 Time It's OK to Cheat on Your Partner

[Anonymous]

There may not be anything more detrimental to an intimate relationship than infidelity. Cheating is a surefire way to hurt your partner. It ruins trust and can lead to the end of your union. All that being said, there is a single time that cheating is, well, OK. Wondering what circumstances can make this hurtful act acceptable? Let’s take a quick look. We’ll also see if cheating can ever be a good thing.

For starters — no, I don’t condone cheating!

Infidelity is a no-go. We aren’t suggesting you go out of your way to make it OK, either. Most reasons for cheating are bad excuses — excuses that many people seem to make in their relationships.

How common is cheating these days?

Unfortunately, it’s hard to gauge how common it is

There have been a plethora of studies done on the frequency of infidelity. Unfortunately, it’s still difficult to determine just how common of an occurrence it is. The reason? It’s a sensitive subject that most people don’t want to talk about. Moreover, individuals who have cheated typically don’t want to admit to engaging in this behavior.

There are many reasons for cheating

And where does the urge to cheat come from anyways?

There are many reasons that can make one — or both — members of a couple cheat. A lack of sexual or emotional satisfaction frequently leads someone to cheat on their partner. The want for more sexual adventure is also a common reason. In some cases, one member of the couple has already been cheated on and wants “revenge sex” to feel vindicated in the situation.

How both parties can be affected by infidelity

Cheating does more than break the bond of trust in a relationship. The cheat-ee will likely walk away with lowered self-esteem, and experience sadness that can manifest into depression. But the cheater doesn’t make it out of this doing so well, either. They will either become completely ravaged with guilt, or become completely detached and convince themselves that their partner drove them to cheat.

There is one time when it’s OK to cheat!

There is one time, however …

In the instance that you are in an open relationship, your partner may give you the go-ahead to sleep with someone else. We know this sounds odd — is it even still cheating if you get permission to do it? It’s actually becoming a more common practice, with more and more people giving their spouses the green light to have the occasional fling. Of course, the key to making this work is to actually have permission from your partner, and a very clear understanding of what the affair can entail.

What happens after cheating?

One of you cheated — now what?

Let’s say you didn’t get the go-ahead from your significant other to sleep with someone else — and then you got caught. Now what happens? For starters, the only way to move forward is to admit that you did something wrong. Take responsibility, and stop lying. Be willing to give your significant other space to be hurt and angry. If you genuinely feel awful about what you did, learn to forgive yourself as well.

[DWornock]

I'm not even sure that men can cheat. Even if you call it cheating, when women cheats, it is forty times worse for a woman’s SO than for a man’s SO. No man has ever convinced his SO that a child he sired by another is her child, but that is what women do all the time. Not only does it cost the man hundreds of thousands of dollars, it is an evolutionary dead end for him because he is not propagating his genes. Instead he propagating another man’s genes.

However, assuming you call it cheating, the advantage for a man to cheat is he may sire more children and increase the probability that his genes win out against other men in the race for survival.

From a woman’s viewpoint, the advantage of her cheating and the reason that most women cheat, is that few women can marry the top males with the best genes. Therefore, she must settle for a lesser man that is dependable and a good provider for her and her children. Then when she is ovulating, she seeks the best genes available for her egg and child. That is easy for a woman because, although they don’t marry down, men are extremely willing to fuck down. Finding superior genes for her eggs give her and evolutionary advantage over women that don’t cheat. Over a 1,000 generations (an extremely short time in evolutionary terms), the advantage is so overwhelming that women that are not inclined to cheat are not our ancestors.

[Flower7]

All a man has to do is get a paternity test to find out whether a child is his. If a guy pays hundreds of thousands of dollars without even having proof that it's his child, then that's foolishness on his part.

[DWornock]

@Flower7 So typical. Women argue both ways. On POF forum when the question was asked if men should get DNA testing, without exception, all the women claimed, "No men shouldn't because that proves he doesn't trust his wife." Others, knowing full well such a law would never be passed, went to say they would not be opposed to a law requiring that all babies be tested.

Regardless, you are right. All men should have the baby DNA tested.

[mesamii]

This was interesting but the one time considered to be ok cheating isn't cheating in my opinion. Cheating is being sneaky and going behind someone's back in secret to do something u know ur not supposed to do. I think that if someone does cheat, they should realize what they did was wrong and correct it whether that be a confession or just simply leaving the person becuz u know u don't want that person 100% if u stepped out to begin with.

[Lman3000]

No, just no if you don't like what's going on either work it out or fucking leave why cheat? that shit will only make things worse especially when the other person finds which they will, Why write shit like this? huh goes to show people are more stupid and horrible than I thought

[Flower7]

If the partner has given permission, it's not cheating.

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

anytime someone tries to legitimize cheating

is like trying to make trump president again, it's just retarded

[JennieF]

This is good.