Yes apologizing isn't emasculating. But sometimes those words "I'm sorry" get used way to often and the meaning of it is lost. It starts to become the top word of ones vocabulary and when you say "sorry isn't enough" you feel like a complete jerk and they make you feel that way too. How can truly believe one is sorry when it's said everyday.
Both gender are have some people with ego/guilt/shame problems which have they have hard time apologize to other person. Masculinity, Feminity such shit have no role in it.
No one ever thought that apologizing was effeminate. The issue has always been that people realize that admitting fault means admitting that they need to change their behavior. Humans require crisis to change.
Yeah it's cool, I got no problem with being humble.
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I don't understand why guys need to memorize how they react? It's insecurities in most males If you are confident enough , all this drama isn't the case And some guy did this exactly with me, I felt he us immature Man is like women exactly, good couples will not hurt and in case they do you will find both caring and humble
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An apology when the man is wrong is so sexy to me. A man who can admit that or they over reacted or they shouldn't have spoken to me like that is so...😍😍A man who isn't proud is a diamond.
Just shut up about that... Men appologise more than women and that's a fact. Men appologise to women even when there is nothing he did just to avoid conflicts. So shut ur fuck up!
I am incapable of apologizing to people and having it come across as even the slightest bit sincere, so I will refrain from apologizing to people - for that reason, and also it would hurt my poor ego...
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I don't apologise for being a man nor will I apologise for how someone choose to feel because that's in their control. All a man can do is try his best and that's more than good enough, and if a woman (most) still suffers from post dramatic syndrome due to previous bad relationship. It's her own doing that she keeps reflecting it upon her current partner and that's her fault for being promiscuously uncautious in the past.
Sorry to burst your sexist bubble but we're aware. For instance, I've written an apology note in my own blood and packaged it with the finest homemade jerky from a recent deer kill
Oh and your advice terrible, "Let her simmer in her emotion until she misses you" I'm sorry, are you assuming she'll miss him because she doesn't have other options? It's more likey that she'll find someone (not necessary another lover) else within a week that cares about her feeling.
You seem like a really intense chic. You seem like someone who if angry would not listen or be approachable for conversation in the moment. What I would do if you were very angry is to give you space. This is because you would not want anything to do with me. So if you and I were dating and you were pissed off about something. I am not talking about a small thing. LIke really angry. I would give you space and then sit down with you the next day if we lived together. If we didn't live together, I would give you space for maybe 2 or 3 days so that you can come to the conversation outside intense feelings. In the heat of the moment you will be so angry that you won't listen and we wouldn't be able to negotiate or come to a place where our souls embrace forgiveness and love. Women are emotional creatures. They are centered at their emotional core. Men are centered at their logic oriented core.
A woman will irrationally take a vase or a picture frame and smash it across the room. She will do things blindly out of emotion. A man in his logical space will not listen to a woman and will argue and justify and make excuses and get defensive. Man and Woman in that situation are not promoting love and healing.
The solution is space and to come together at a time when both hearts can recall how much they care for each other and listen with compassion to heal the wound. Does that make sense Beth?
You are wrong about one thing thought, I don't get angry about a lot of things. If I come up to you to talk about a problem, I already took my time to think and get a hold of my feelings. If you tell me to "you are giving me space to think" it would annoy me or get me angry. Because you are assuming that I didn't think about it or that I am straight up wrong. Depending on the issue, if you need to take your time to think about important issues, I would understand.
It sounds like we have a simple misunderstanding. I think a woman who is real chill and doesn't get mad a lot is cool. This written work is not about a woman approaching a guy and expressing herself. A man must listen and have compassion. He must say, "Come here baby. Tell me more. How did that make you feel?"
This is for a situation where a couple gets into this big fight where they are yelling at each other. The next day they aren't talking. Or a situation where a guy has done something to hurt his girl and he can tell that she is frosty and hurt. The relationship is still not the same.
It is VERY important to not over pursue a woman and suffocate her. VERY important not to harass and badger her about an emotional topic. Give her space. Then approach her with an open heart and clear mind. If I was dating YOU that would be what I would do as your man. Then of course we would kiss and go out for a nice date out with pizza and wine. :)
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Men are not the ones who need help admitting they are wrong. But then, if you were actually a man you would have known that.
Yes apologizing isn't emasculating. But sometimes those words "I'm sorry" get used way to often and the meaning of it is lost. It starts to become the top word of ones vocabulary and when you say "sorry isn't enough" you feel like a complete jerk and they make you feel that way too. How can truly believe one is sorry when it's said everyday.
I never heard that is unmanly to apologize. If anything, if someone really messed up and don't do it that just shows how weak they are.
It isn't unmanly to apologize, but it's humiliating to be threaten to apologize when you don't mean it. I think that's what they mean.
I apologize to people when I've wronged them, whether they be male or female.
Like any normal fucking person.
Of course we should apologize if we upset women. If anyone doesn't, they don't know what is the right thing to do
Both gender are have some people with ego/guilt/shame problems which have they have hard time apologize to other person. Masculinity, Feminity such shit have no role in it.
No one ever thought that apologizing was effeminate. The issue has always been that people realize that admitting fault means admitting that they need to change their behavior. Humans require crisis to change.
Yeah it's cool, I got no problem with being humble.
I don't understand why guys need to memorize how they react? It's insecurities in most males
If you are confident enough , all this drama isn't the case
And some guy did this exactly with me, I felt he us immature
Man is like women exactly, good couples will not hurt and in case they do you will find both caring and humble
An apology when the man is wrong is so sexy to me. A man who can admit that or they over reacted or they shouldn't have spoken to me like that is so...😍😍A man who isn't proud is a diamond.
Thank youuu. Im glad you accept a msns flaws
Just shut up about that... Men appologise more than women and that's a fact. Men appologise to women even when there is nothing he did just to avoid conflicts. So shut ur fuck up!
What I am more concerned with it how did you change the font size and what's up with the blue white thing.
I am incapable of apologizing to people and having it come across as even the slightest bit sincere, so I will refrain from apologizing to people - for that reason, and also it would hurt my poor ego...
I don't apologise for being a man nor will I apologise for how someone choose to feel because that's in their control. All a man can do is try his best and that's more than good enough, and if a woman (most) still suffers from post dramatic syndrome due to previous bad relationship. It's her own doing that she keeps reflecting it upon her current partner and that's her fault for being promiscuously uncautious in the past.
So being an adult is unmanly? He is talking how you should apologize if you hurt a girl or do something wrong
It's amazing that this is rocket science to most guys.
When tf did anyone ever claim that apologizing isn't masculine? You femboys are just making shit up now
If you are not wrong, don't apologize, no matter how angry they are or appear to be, or even if they pull that fake crying stuff either.
This makes sense unless the woman is just flaky or a bitch, you can't fix that, best to just avoid her.
Sorry to burst your sexist bubble but we're aware. For instance, I've written an apology note in my own blood and packaged it with the finest homemade jerky from a recent deer kill
If I feel like I didn't do anything wrong, I'm not apologizing. You need to humble yourself and not force an apology.
Oh and your advice terrible, "Let her simmer in her emotion until she misses you" I'm sorry, are you assuming she'll miss him because she doesn't have other options? It's more likey that she'll find someone (not necessary another lover) else within a week that cares about her feeling.
You seem like a really intense chic. You seem like someone who if angry would not listen or be approachable for conversation in the moment. What I would do if you were very angry is to give you space. This is because you would not want anything to do with me. So if you and I were dating and you were pissed off about something. I am not talking about a small thing. LIke really angry. I would give you space and then sit down with you the next day if we lived together. If we didn't live together, I would give you space for maybe 2 or 3 days so that you can come to the conversation outside intense feelings. In the heat of the moment you will be so angry that you won't listen and we wouldn't be able to negotiate or come to a place where our souls embrace forgiveness and love. Women are emotional creatures. They are centered at their emotional core. Men are centered at their logic oriented core.
A woman will irrationally take a vase or a picture frame and smash it across the room. She will do things blindly out of emotion. A man in his logical space will not listen to a woman and will argue and justify and make excuses and get defensive. Man and Woman in that situation are not promoting love and healing.
The solution is space and to come together at a time when both hearts can recall how much they care for each other and listen with compassion to heal the wound. Does that make sense Beth?
You are wrong about one thing thought, I don't get angry about a lot of things. If I come up to you to talk about a problem, I already took my time to think and get a hold of my feelings. If you tell me to "you are giving me space to think" it would annoy me or get me angry. Because you are assuming that I didn't think about it or that I am straight up wrong. Depending on the issue, if you need to take your time to think about important issues, I would understand.
Most people expect an immediate explosive emotional reaction to social problems but I don't do that.
It sounds like we have a simple misunderstanding. I think a woman who is real chill and doesn't get mad a lot is cool. This written work is not about a woman approaching a guy and expressing herself. A man must listen and have compassion. He must say, "Come here baby. Tell me more. How did that make you feel?"
This is for a situation where a couple gets into this big fight where they are yelling at each other. The next day they aren't talking. Or a situation where a guy has done something to hurt his girl and he can tell that she is frosty and hurt. The relationship is still not the same.
It is VERY important to not over pursue a woman and suffocate her. VERY important not to harass and badger her about an emotional topic. Give her space. Then approach her with an open heart and clear mind. If I was dating YOU that would be what I would do as your man. Then of course we would kiss and go out for a nice date out with pizza and wine. :)