Why do so many groups constantly reach out to women and not men? On average, a man has to deal with the stress of maintaining his family because he brings in the most income. Oh, your man doesn't, and you do? I said on average. Society has this view where men cannot show emotions, and this is defiantly true. If a man cries, he is seen as "weak"; admit that is just how it is.
Does anyone see the hatred for men these days? Feminism has sure given us "equality", hasn't it? Just take a look at what a lot of people say in terms of men and women. It has become such stereotypical talk of men acting like dogs and only wanting sex, with the woman being the innocent victim. Men are public enemy #1 for absolutely everything in regards to a sexual assault, divorce, argument, etc. However, I am not just some "angry man" crying and wanting comfort; I am writing this to maybe get people to see what side affects this man-hating has.
If you know anything about how a church operates (I am a Christian), let me say this: Most churches do not care about male youth. They constantly put girls in some sensitive group that no one should touch, and leave the guys on the outside being looked at as the enemy. So many ministers point to the guys saying how they should "calm down" and not be a perv, and then siding with the female youth to "comfort" them and let them know that the "bad men" won't hurt them.
This would leave the young men to feel guilty...about nothing. This would have them feel like villains and would tread wisely....Until they realized it was pure stupidity and if anything, adopted the actual bad guy personality in an attempt to rebel.
Sorry for this long post, I still did not even get down what I really wanted to say. But it's more of an opening statement towards this type of issue (if you are even interested). The side affects of this man-hating nonsense that the media, and possibly you, always whine about is doing nothing but making good guys feel bad.
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i understand some of the points you're making, however it sounds like you think that women aren't mistreated and that it is only men. you sound very biased and i encourage you to be more objective. there is more of a "man hating" culture nowadays, but all the days before it was a woman hating culture. and really, it still is in many ways. there are more outreach programs for women because in general and especially in the past, women were more disadvantaged than men. there is still a power imbalance between men and women (im talking socially, not physically). it is generally still more difficult for a woman to be successful and earn respect than it is for a man to. women are also abused beaten raped mistreated and controlled by men, more so than men are by women. not saying that men never are the victims at the hands of women, because there are definitely times that they are.
like you pointed out, men also go through lots of struggles ie having to always be tough and masculine, unable to show emotion, expected to be the breadwinners and be the financial backbone, always be the ones to take responsibility and be the protector. and all of that is very sad and i imagine it is a lot of pressure on boys/men to fulfill these roles. but women have problems too, theyre rather just on the complete flipside of mens problems. women have to work harder to gain respect and be successful bc society expects men to fulfill these roles. women aren't taken seriously because theyre seen as too emotional and fragile and are also expected to always be kind, loving, nurturing and be the emotional support. also expected to cater to men and care for them. another opposite struggle for men and women is that while women constantly have to worry about sexual assault/rape, i know a lot of men worry about false rape/sexual abuse accusations that could ruin their lives.
the truth is that there is struggle for both sides. in my opinion, i still feel that women are more disadvantaged and have been all throughout history, but that still doesn't discount the struggle men go through. whatever hate you feel men are receiving now, women have been receiving for years and years before... and still do. even the leader of our country is a misogynist and openly disrespects women. feminism IS about striving for equality of the sexes and should never aim to put men down. true feminism acknowledges mens struggles and fight for their issues as well. i am a feminist and clearly see mens struggles too.
The point of the post was addressing men's issues and struggles, so it makes sense why I wouldn't focus completely on women's issues. I am not denying anything about the struggles that women go through either, but instead I am speaking about how men go through a list of problems just like women do, but unlike women it's not socially acceptable to be in some "man-support" group (it's seen as weak and pathetic, other men may degrade the guy needing help), and nonetheless there are way less groups focusing on men. It's all about the women's struggles that groups like feminism focus on and neglect what men go through. I point out this flaw in support groups because it's a real issue for guys. Men also get raped by other men, and not just women, and the support for that male victim is horrendous and socially, the man will never overcome it. Not saying a girl will, but she definitely has a better chance because people will reach out to her more than the man.
And if you think about it, the dominance that men had in the past and still somewhat have today can actually hurt the rest of the male population just like the bad past for women. Women, again, are reached out to when they need help and mostly everyone talks about their struggles. But a man? They are seen as invincible and their problems can just "go away". It might be assumed by society that a man is just some terminator who withstands anything and everything. Is that the truth? Nope. Is there a group speaking about that issue? Not any popular ones that I know about. You can mention feminism, but they care more for women's rights than men. That's just a fact; they put more energy towards women. Anyone can say they fight for equality, but they for sure put their resources and efforts towards one gender. It's sad to say that one person like Trump makes the entire male population feel bad, doesn't it?
"This would leave the young men to feel guilty... about nothing. This would have them feel like villains and would tread wisely... Until they realized it was pure stupidity and if anything, adopted the actual bad guy personality in an attempt to rebel."
That's a good point. A lot of people both intentionally and unintentionally treat men like they are already doing something wrong from the beginning and like women are always doing the right thing.
Good post, more people need to take this position, and point out the rampant hatred and sexism towards men in our society!