Why you SHOULD date someone with Autism! (Page 3)

[Max1000AD]

I has a friend would was Autism. To me she cry a lot because she did not any friends. We went out to eat, people’s very rude. She told that when we start be came friend. She have her challenging with it front other people. All of peoples yell her also use foul language. She would call or text me at different time. She left with her dad. I miss my friend a lot. She move to a small town. To try get on with her own life. After this virus leave I am going to surprise her with a big hug.

[hello_kitty_man]

I am totally against the context of this question because in my experience I don't label the people who I want to date.

LABELS ARE FOR PRODUCTS NOT PEOPLE!

In my experience, when you are dating someone you are getting to know their personalities, not your superficial notions.

[RingOfFire]

Didn't bother reading the post because the title indicates that the choice of who to date is a "should" rather than a want to. You should date whomever you want to date, not who you "should" date. "Should" implies that your choice is based on someone else's idea of who you should date. It's your choice not someone else's.

So I reject the premise of the post.

[mr_mxy]

While I see where you are coming from I think dismissing the entire post over a poor choice of words is not the best idea. Yes it would have been better if she said "why you should be open to dating an autistic person" but the wording of the title isn't the only part of the post nor does it make her points less valid. doesn't the saying go you don't judge a book by is cover? I think a similar line of reasoning is applicable here.

[RingOfFire]

You are probably right. But in an age where individual choice is under attack by a mob of "progressive" thought police who attempt to impose their ideology on you through intimidation and force, you need to use more care choosing your book covers.

[mr_mxy]

And I agree with that but I still stand by what I said as the context behind the title of this book is somewhat different. Yes she could have used better words but reading it seems like when she says should she means "should be open to".

[MysteriousDarkness]

@mr_mxy
Instead of saying autistic people say people with autism because they are a person before they are a disability.

[mr_mxy]

@MysteriousDarkness as some with autism myself I honestly don't care either way but I see what you mean.

[MysteriousDarkness]

@mr_mxy
I do care and it's coming from somone on the spectrum

[mr_mxy]

@MysteriousDarkness ok well I am also in the spectrum and like I said I don't care either way. I understand were you are coming from but I honestly don't see how switching the order of the words means anything when you are still labeling the person as such.

[MysteriousDarkness]

@mr_mxy
You are tunnel visionef is why.

[mr_mxy]

@MysteriousDarkness you could be less toxic in your opinion you know.

[MysteriousDarkness]

@mr_mxy
Since you believe my reply is toxic it means you think it's okay to see someone's disability before you see them as a person. If it hurts a person seeing the disability first or seeing them as a person first then seeing them as a person first hurts less.

[mr_mxy]

@MysteriousDarkness again you are preaching to some with the same disability. And I have said i personally don't care because I have been called far worse. Regardless of the order of the words you are still labeling a person based on their disability.

[MysteriousDarkness]

@mr_mxy
You keep looking at the surface when it comes to things because you live in in your own little world. On the flip side I will keep on looking deeper because I live in reality. This is useless for me to continue to prove a point to someone who refuses to accept the truth.

[mr_mxy]

@MysteriousDarkness no you are thing to speak for everyone and simply throwing a fit because I am on the spectrum and don't care either way. You don't speak for me or anyone else. If you found what I said offensive than I apologize but never assume you have the right to speak for me or anyone else on the spectrum. And certainly don't throw a tantrum whenever someone doesn't agree with you. The only one living in their own little world is you

[Twalli]

I think we both have Aspergers Syndrome, even if DSM 5 only refers to it as an ASD and not a specific type. We're characterized by being above average in intelligence and the ability to appear neurotypical. Someone said that unlike low functioning people with autism we livd in our own world while trying to connect with the real world. Low functioning people live in their own world completely.

[doctord00m]

I mean, all that kinda doesn't mean diddly squat if I can't find myself being attracted to you. Can you be attractive? Can you be cute? Hot sexy? Does your voice sound normal?

And now that you're 30, I'd say you're probably too old.

Your whole post seems like a pretty autistic thing to write. Really? You're gonna convince men to date you using reason and logic? Was that what you were going for?

What prompted you to write that?

[NarutoUzumaki007]

sorry but I will date whoever I find attractive

there is no need for you to tell me I "SHOULD" date a particular class of people
if the person I like happens to be autistic , I will date them.

thank you

[confusedgamer]

I have autism as well, and agree with everything you said.
My elaboration on the feelings part, though maybe this is just me: I feel emotions, but I'm more likely to keep them inside myself, until it comes all out at once.

[Mynameisdom7]

I’m on the spectrum and so is my S. O. it works out perfectly. It seems that we understand a lot more about each other than if we were not NTs

[alance99]

I really enjoyed reading your mytake and i wouldn't mind dating a autistic girl ever, i really like all your questions and you are person who can light up any atmosphere.

Stay blessed forever 🙂🙂

[MrKinktastic]

Well said and very informative, thank you for sharing!

[Iron_Man]

I don’t really know I would have to be a friend first

[CoolKatie]

great take. My learning disabilities is called 18-p, and I would prefer to be around shy autism people and did also date some men that did have autism.

[Titanic1912]

I can relate to a lot of this. I’m also autistic myself. My main problem is that I process things very slowly so I need to have stuff written down or else I won’t understand it. I have trouble mostly with verbal language.

[Deku2009]

Yeah I agree there is nothing wrong with dating a girl with autism

[apimpnamedslickback]

When I listen to autistic people talk about their experiences they feel very similar to mine. I think I may be somewhere on the spectrum too.

[MysteriousDarkness]

@apimpnamedslickback
Instead of saying autistic people say people with autism because they are a person before they are a disability.

[apimpnamedslickback]

@MysteriousDarkness There's nothing negative about the term "autistic".

[MysteriousDarkness]

Autisict people = seeing the disabiltybthen them as a person.
People with autism = seeing them as a person first then seeing the disability

[apimpnamedslickback]

@MysteriousDarkness No offense but that is some PC crap. I, as a person, never agreed with that "rule" that mentioning the condition first would take away their humanity.

[SphynxUK]

First (and probably last) my take I have ever read.
The information contained within reminds me of myself.

[Jjpayne]

Thank you for sharing this with us! It's refreshing to have a personal prospective on things

[MoonNieve]

You’re welcome my friend, thank you for reading. :)

[Jjpayne]

You are welcome 😊

[Maninderdeepsharma]

I would thank u for inviting me to this question? Ur questions always leaves a gr8 impact on my mind. Love u. 🤗

[TonyMetal___86]

Your a sweet cute lady the way you are boobsee girl 😊
Your little heart is priceless, i just wanna see you happy, married and having a beautiful family of yours cause you deserve to be loved and taken care of 😌

[SenseiSeptred]

Because our repetitive rituals can be quite endearing.