Why Would You Move In With Someone Who Can't Adult? (Page 2)

[jshm2]

Because good dick/pussy is addictive and trumps sensible decisions. Ever wonder why celebs/politicians etc lose their credibility/careers over affairs? That is mostly why.

Power and money are trumped by sex. Its always been that way in history.

[Anonymous]

Well, women don't want guys who can do those too, I can do cooking, cleaning, fixing stuff and all the housework, probably way better than even most girls or even my mother 😂😂. As I have almost had lived independently most of my life. Both of my parents work so I am helping them ever since as a kid.
But women don't want it. Sometimes they made fun of me for wearing an apron for cooking at a party. Women don't respect men who do women's work. They want to date and nag to change a manchild or over manly men, thereby feeling good about themselves. Most men don't do those stuff at all yet they get tons of girlfriends. I also have decided to hide those talents for future relations.

[Phoenix98]

I agree everyone man or woman should know basic life skills like cleaning, cooking, basic budgeting, doing dishes, how to clean a bathroom, etc.

And it’s easy to see how being with someone like that who doesn’t know how to do any of that could be quite stressful.

[hi_it_is_me123]

Depends on. If he is going to be the provide aka the one who pays everything, then it would not be a redflag when she does the house chores etc but only if she is ok with traditional. If she wants to work and to pay the half of bills, then it is a a huge mistake to date such guy. But he also does not work so far i understands. So he brings nothing to the table. Why is she with him?

[Thatdude091699]

No. He needs to do something. Its different if he works all day and comes home, in that scenario its acceptable to be the one cleaning, cooking, taking care of kids/pets. But if he's not even working and is entitled enough to ask for that, thats major fucked up.

[Adam1978]

Yes I would say you shouldn't move in together with a moms boy unless you want to take over moms jobs, same goes for guy and daddies princess, stay away. You will get to do everything and that will get tiresome fast.

[Paul09]

Very hard to say. My mother did do a lot for me. But when she went on vacation I learned how to do house things. Especially cool. But when I moved out I started to learn more about cooking, and obviously do all my chores. I do have days or weeks I'm so drained to clean up fully. But when I'm motivated, I keep clean. If I have people over more often, I clean even more. I live alone. So sometimes it's like whatever, I'll do it another day. So maybe he will do whatever it takes to be with you.

[shaysh87]

you're way ahead of the game for 20 years old. Most 20 yr olds don't even know how to clean up after themselves, or wrap up food in saran wrap before putting it in the fridge. I work with a couple of 20 yr old coworkers at my job. They're like kids.

[19magic]

Not a chance I've got a kid who's two and she sweeps and I'm teaching her once finished with your toys put them away etc why would I expect this of a man if my two year old is already learning basic cleansiness

[t-8900]

So my guess is that one is a sponge and the other is a horndog and that's basically how these things usually go. Rule of thumb: Dont stay in a relationship where your partner doesn't put in the same time and energy into you that you put into them.

[Wester1967]

I made this horrible mistake. I got marred to a, then, hot girl who was giving up the cooch. That's about all it was worth. I was young and stupid and flattered that a hot girl would pick me. Dumbest move I ever made.

[AnggieGirl]

I won’t put up with a man child, I won’t even consider. It’s not selfish or greedy of you to want him to know those basic things but that’s also your first step in enabling it.

[Joshua_L_Blackmon]

fair enough

[average-j0e]

i agree. if a man ain't on his shit its not a man. yeah you might be an adult but you gotta work for that man title

[JCrockett]

I wouldn't take advice about being an adult from someone who uses "adult" as a verb.

[JCrockett]

I couldn't resist the flippant response.

My real answer is that it depends on the scale of the problem.

On one hand, I think partners in a relationship should complement each other, not mirror each other. They should not both have the same capabilities and responsibilities within the relationship. It's ideal for one to take care of X, Y, Z while the other focuses on A, B, C. That way they both reap the benefits of all. That means the relationship is more than the sum of its parts. If both parties are equally responsible for everything, then why even be together? They're just romantic roommates at that point.

But on the other hand, there's a level of incompetence and indifference that simply signals a bad partner to begin with. If someone not only doesn't but can't even do their own laundry, an doesn't see a problem with that, that's an unattractive character flaw. Laziness and entitlement make for a bad partner.

So in the original poster's case, that dude sounds like a loser. She's right to be put off. Although, it would be good for her to help him with a swift kick in the pants, but I can't say that's really her responsibility.

But I wouldn't overextend that example to suggest that anyone who doesn't meet your standards of homemaking is a bad match. Maybe that's what makes you the perfect match.

[hsshannah96]

Heck no I did this once and I’m not hopping into that rodeo ever again

[DJaQueef]

How does one go about learning how to adult? Do you learn at age 18? Is adulting a new sport?

[lisalikes]

Can't Adult?
This covers like all guys.
"thank God for Adam and Eve sex toys." (and Bi women)

[cookiecrusher]

That's what you get for dating boys not men 🤔

[Cowboy6666]

Life is all about struggle, sharing, living together :)
Maybe I would choose a mature, educated, non racist, open minded lady
around 26 to 29 is ideal age for a lady with me. @alwayreckles93

[FunkyMonkee]

When did "adult" become a verb? How DOES one "adult"?

[Randalama]

Clearly homeboy needs to dump this shrew. If not, alimony is his destiny. Video games and substance abuse are the new relationships.