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Say it again louder for the people in the back
specially for WOMEN they loving denying it.
love denying it*
Yes, they do!!!
They love denying it because they don't want to admit that they want to have their cake and eat it too. They want the comfort of a boyfriend, but also the validation/attention/safetynet of male friends. So in other words, they want the best of both worlds. So when you have an issue with your girlfriend, guess who she runs to? That's right. And the male-friends are more than happy to Orbit around her, waiting for you to slip up so they can swoop right in. That's why I don't date girls with male friends when it comes to long-term relationships.
My girlfriend was never against this sort of thing because she trusted me. She knew my other female friends were just friends.
See then there is nothing wrong with this for you, because you are not doing anything that upsets her. But the day it does\if become an issue to her, do not just assume it is her problem. If the day comes that she does raise concerns step back and ask yourself, how important is that relationship to you, if she feels that you are potentially threatening the future of your relationship with her.
I hope my next girlfriend is as caring as she was, rest her soul. 😥
Might be true, but I'm still not going to marginalize those who've had my back for more than 20 years some girl I've known for a few weeks.
Right, I would agree but once make that commitment to take that relationship to next level... you might have to rearrange those priorities and mange those relationships differently.
Serious question, are we not allowed to have friendships while in a relationship?
Yes, you are totally allowed to have friends. But sometimes those relationship can get in the way of other relationships. So, it is a matter of how you prioritize them, and manage them, and discuss those relationship with your intimate partner. But at the end of the day if you want to have a stronger emotional bond with you intimate partner, they what they are perceiving matters, and therefore you have to take some degree of responsibility for your decisions and actions.
I find this Take a bit ridiculous, since in the mordern world, both men and women work outside the home, and that often means COLLEAGUES of the opposite sex.
That is before mentioning dating sites that make it really easy to arrange an affair. I have seen those profiles of someone feeling "unfulfilled" and looking for something "discreet".
Basically, if your partner is gonna cheat on you, clearly they were not the right partner.
Guys are too dominant and always want their way
Not really what this was or is about. It easy to say that and dismiss the whole thing, because that is easy and simple. But relationships are not easy or simple, so you are either willing to work though these things in productive way... to establish and respect other people's boundaries or you just assume its all their problem and you have no responsibility.
@jennz6 The irony in you saying this is that these guys are often the ones who score the ladies. Whereas the nice guys are often left in your friendzone.
@DaveJord I'd rather be a bachelor than losing strong bond with my bros to appease "girlfriend".
Not talking about same sex friends, just opposite sex friends.
@DaveJord I also prefer to be a bachelor because dating means I will have no opportunities to make friends with opposite gender for all eternity.
Right, which means essentially you are taking the appropriate action by avoiding commitment because on an emotional level you are taking responsibility for your own outlook and perspective about relationships.
Except it's possible to do all of those in the "what not to do" list while it's not possible to do it to the partner. That's because not ever opposite sex are compatible which is why there are relationships that don't work. If they're gonna "fall in love" is the case, then bisexuals can't have friends.
Because you guys cannot be just friends
Correct, most guys do not make friends work women that they assure not other wise attracted to. 64% have had friendships with women turn into sexuality intimate relationships. Only 44% of women. So if your in an intimate relationship and or they work your guy friend, then they is a good change it is ir could interfere with you intimate relationship.
you elaborated it so beautifully :'o
Lol... yeah walking and texting does not work.
Hmm... I'm torn on this... For many reasons.
Reason #1 is probably because you are not ready to have long term meaningful relationship with a man who has a high self-esteem and emotional intelligence. You are having fun doing what you are doing and are not ready to make those changes.
Are you fucking kidding me? 🤔
That's a very bold and ignorant accusation!! 💯
Seeing as you know nothing about me, why on earth would you say this?
Because you provide no details my apologies, please explain better your initial post?
You say many reason... please at least give one?
it is all down to balance? girls just despise us guys talking to the sexy shop assistant but see nothing of them going out for the night with workmates who are men?
So what am I supposed to do as a bisexual man? Never have friends when I'm dating?
You're the ugliest man I've ever seen.
Thanks, why say it anonymously?
Ad hominems is a testament that you're intellectually incapable to produce a coherent counter-argument. I know for a fact that you don't think yourself as pretty in the mirror, so therefore felt the need to project your own self-image on this man.
@TruthBringer I'm pretty but he's ugly.
@Anonymous lol whatever you say
Your insecurity is your problem not hers.
Anything can harm a relationship. But friendships are not synonymous with harming intimate relationships.
Trust me once your out of highschool and in the adult dating world you'll see. Everyone is friends with everyone in highschool.
If you don’t trust your partner to have friends, then maybe don’t chose a partner you don’t trust.
She’s your girlfriend not your wife, you don’t have the right to dictate who she can or cannot be friends with.
Yup, she's 42 with a record of disastrous relationships. Trust me when your my age it's completely different.
@DaveJord Don't you just love it when a 15 year old tries to shame you on adult matters? 😂😂
@suzzieQ And even IF she was his wife, I bet you wouldn't stop there but go further and say something along the lines like "she is your wife, not your slave/property". In other words, it's never going to be good enough. At your age, I used to think like you. But as DaveJord said, when you're older and have gained a bit more experience in life & dating, then you'll understand the significance of this Take. So until then, good luck trying to gaslight people by calling them "insecure". Not that it works though ;)
@TruthBringer So you think it is okay to dictate who your significant other is allowed to be friends with? That seems really controlling...
If you dont trust your significant other... then they shouldn't be your significant other.
@suzzieQ No missy, I don't dictate who my significant other is being friends with. I simply make my boundaries clear from the very beginning and allow her to take it or leave it. She chose to take it and we've been in a relationship ever since.
It's not a matter about trust. Just because I may trust my girlfriend, doesn't mean I have to trust the other person (s). It's a matter about not entertaining the odds that are notorious to lead to certain dramatic scenarios. So in other words, it's a pre-caution. Just because I have trust in my car's security system, doesn't mean I'm going to allow people to try and break in. Same thing with my significant other having male "friends" around her. Male friends are notorious for wanting to be more than just friends. And they will grab the chance when they see it. Happens far more than you think. So I'm not going to entertain that BS out of political correctness.
The fact both my significant other and I don't have friends of the opposite sex has saved us from all sorts of BS drama from that department.
@TruthBringer And that is the point... mutually agreed upon parameters for the relationship.
You shouldn't equate your girlfriend to a car though...
@suzzieQ I see you're still struggling in understanding the difference between an analogy and a direct comparison. And yes, we have indeed agreed mutually on these parameters. I would never impose my parameters on someone. I give them a choice to accept or make way for someone who will.
@TruthBringer I see you are still struggling to make good analogies and comparisons.
@suzzieQ Oh dear... when you still cannot distinguish a direct comparison to an analogy. Now I see why people laugh at the American educational system. 🤦♂️😂
PS: Nice to know that you spend your Valentine's day arguing with people on the internet.
@TruthBringer And you still cannot make a good comparison or analogy... funny you are here arguing with teenagers on Valentines day... dont you have a girlfriend?
Nice to see you resort to the Proof by assertion fallacy to make up for your inadequacy of understanding the fundamental concept behind an analogy. Seems like logical fallacies are your thing, love lmfao.
Also, it's not V-day here anymore, sweetheart. It's 0:53 AM here in the Netherlands on Wednesday 15th of February. So V-day has finished and my girl is sleeping like a baby (we call this a metaphor, my dear) after we had a wonderful day full of love, great food, activities.
@TruthBringer lol you're like a broken record. Next time make better analogies and you won't have such a problem.
@suzzieQ love how the pot calls the kettle black. Enjoy spending V-day on G@G sweetheart lmfao
@TruthBringer LOL... you're arguing with a 15 year old... who obviously is incapable of understanding the point or respecting her elders.
if you want a liberal polygamist relationship then feel free to find someone who shares the same values. we live in a monogamous world good luck with finding a guy like that in your life. and if you do he won't really want to commit to you.
@davejordd The funny thing is, I've met 15 year olds who are actually more mature and know the difference between a direct comparison and an analogy 😂
That boy/girl bud often becomes a love bud.
64% of the time for men, 44% for women.
But also they're harmless if you're single