In my Opinion: High School Freshmen and High School Senior don't Mix

[Kittyshoes1000]

When I was in high school, I watched a video about healthy relationships in health class. One relationship was about high school students. Of course, she was a freshmen and he was a senior. They acted all lovey dovey around each other. Their commitment was quite strong actually. Also, they took their relationship seriously and realistically. The 18-year-old boy knew that he was going to college and he will have to leave his girlfriend behind. The 15-year-old girl knew this as well. But, she and her boyfriend tried to stay in touch. I didn't get to see what their relationship was like after he went away to college. I had no choice but to assume that they both moved on.

I have nothing against dating older or younger people. When it comes to dating (in my opinion) age, size, and color do not matter. What does matter is where the person is in life. When someone is a freshmen, they are just starting their high school journey. They will be taking practice ACTs. They can't wait to take drivers ed. Freshmen are getting used to things in a new level of school. Seniors have been there and done that. They've been in high school for over 3 years. They want to spread their new adult wings and fly. Seniors are done taking their ACTs and other testing. They are usually done with school around May. They have their driver's license. Seniors think about one thing; what are they going to do after high school.

It seems to me that freshmen and seniors don't have much in common. What they do have in common; they are in their youths and they are in high school. But, they are at different stages in life. Freshmen (that I know of) don't put a lot of thought into college or making big decisions. They're only thinking about their grades, their friends, and mostly themselves. If a senior and freshmen were dating, they wouldn't have much to say to one another. Unless they have a lot in common. However, when that senior graduates high school, their relationship might end.

Commitment is what keeps a relationship strong. When that senior is a freshmen in college, he/she might have a connection with someone else of the opposite gender. When they live on campus, they have more of a chance meeting someone else. Also what if that freshmen meets someone else at high school. That happened to me when I was in high school.

I was a senior and he was a freshmen. He decided to ask me out 3 months before graduation. Sadly, I turned him down. I told him that we are in different stages in life. I don't know if he got the message, since he was glaring at my breast. But, I will assume that some of my words got through to his teenage brain. This happened to a friend of mine as well. She was a freshmen and her boyfrined was a senior. When I asked about their relationship, she told me that they had to breakup. She said it was too hard to keep up with him.

Okay, I know what all of you are thinking. What about a college freshmen and collge senior relatioship? I don't know, you tell me...

[Anonymous]

I beg to differ... Well as for relationships I can agree they don't tend to work out and I realized that myself when semionrs were trying to date me during my sophomore year.

But the title and the image that you have up is misleading/so cliche. Because that was not what your over all topic was about not that how we don't mix in over all society/high school but how our relationships don't tend to last. What you posted in the beginnig just basically said that we don't associate with each other and that freshmen are at the bottom of the pack coming in naive and unaware ready to make new froedms with everyone while the seniors are at th top of the pack ready to get out of the hell hole and how they're above everyone else... Which on most cases are true but it still had nithing to do with their relationships and dating or the point you were trying to prove. It was two separate situations.

Also its not always like that some freshman do associafe with the sophomore, juniors, and seniors and just not just stay in their little age group and make other friends. I mean I certainly know I did.

But over all I understand what you meant and I do agree the relationships do not last and there for I do not allow them to start.

[Kittyshoes1000]

Okay I'm new at this. Thank you for pointing out my errors. Don't be so harsh next time😓

[Kittyshoes1000]

Also I had a hard time finding a pic

[Opinion Owner]

I'm sorry I didn't mean to be harsh it's just sometimes like with regular discussion people tend to debate two completely different things and they think they know what they're talking about that's when I can't help but to throw in my two cents but out of all homesty I think you still did great and got your point across.

[DarkHumorRUs]

On the contrary:
A SHITLOAD of couples in the past have had to deal with meeting in high school, one of them is older, so that older one eventually has to go off to college without the younger one. I mean my parents did this, and I think the majority of my relatives did this. Probably most people who are 40+ right now.

It seems kind of rare to meet someone your exact same age so you can't count on that. Until you graduate college you might not be able to "settle down" with anyone, and that's just how it is.

[crazyincalifornia]

I'm 19, my guy is 30.
We've been together for 2 years.
I have always gravitated toward older, established, up and coming, educated guys.
By the time I was a sophomore in HS I was dating college guys.
That's just me.
Our social choices can be complicated, and although there are generalizations, we in fact are all different.
:))

[kangy]

It is common tbh, when I was there then, such tning happened. People move on to the next chapter in life and they ended their relationship. Young people won't settle down in one relationship so soon, they tend to hop through several hoops and then finally found the one. People change.

[fiego]

@Kittyshoes1000 I found that when I was a Freshmen I was very nervous and apprehensive. When I was a Senior I thought I was very mature. Now that I'm no longer a Freshmen or Senior I now know I should not have been nervous about being a Freshmen and was not very mature as a Senior.

[Kittyshoes1000]

my attitude never changed throughout high school. I just went there to get in and then get out

[DancingWithDragons]

Dude when I was 16 I was with a woman who was 24. It's really not that big of a deal so long as you don't piss off anyone who'd attack back with a false allegation of statutory rape on your gf/bf, you're fine.

[kat511]

I think it's the whole him going away to college thing that makes the relationship hard because he might go school to some college that's not in the same state country so they can't ever see each other and life goes on and you both meet different friends and fall in love different people.

[Anonymous]

My guy was 22 when I was 14. It was a ldr and we made it work for 4 years. Maturity level. Not age.

[Kittyshoes1000]

Huh haven't thought about glad you brought it up...

[PiuBelloAmante]

i always have looked older than my age
it would be scary for my senior self to date a freshman in highschool
yuck lol!

all of my past gfs have been the same age or older than me

[Mcell]

Freshmen are 14 like they're very much still children while seniors are (legally) and almost maturity wise adults

[Phoenix98]

Its not so much the titles senior and freshman that make a difference but rather the growth and maturity of the people.