I'm single... and I don't hate Valentine's Day

[dlocnarniac]

You know what I hate about Valentine's Day? All the pity-parties girls throw. They frame it as, "I'm single and I'm dealing with it just fine... with my bucket of ice-cream, chocolate, and my single girl friends," or, "I'm single and it stinks," or simply, "Happy Single Awareness Day."

I think the pity parties are lame

This Valentine's Day, my roommate's boyfriend came to visit and they are going to a big city nearby for the day. I get to listen to them talk on the phone and on FaceTime multiple times a week. And you know what? I think they are adorable. They make my life so much more entertaining. He's a great guy and I'm incredibly happy for my roommate.

And I'm single

No, tomorrow I will not take to social media and post a selfie of me eating ice-cream and wishing myself a sad Happy Valentine's Day. No, tomorrow I will not think, "My life is crappy." And no, tomorrow I will not look at the happy couples that appear everywhere on my college campus and think, "My life sucks."

Why?

Because I like my life. Sure, if the right guy puts in an appearance, that'd be great. But I'm not pinning my happiness on that. I'm happy with who I am and with the people around me who love me and who I love.

Girls, stop the pity parties and actually celebrate Valentine's Day. Not as a day to say, "I'm a strong single woman and I don't need anyone," but as a day to realize that, whether you have a boyfriend or not, you are loved and have a lot of people to love. Don't waste your time tomorrow selfishly wishing you had a different life; spend your time tomorrow celebrating all the love that is in your life... and maybe go out of your way to make someone else feel special and love on this Valentine's Day.

[Dandeus]

"Girls, stop the pity parties and actually celebrate Valentine's Day. Not as a day to say, "I'm a strong single woman and I don't need anyone," but as a day to realize that, whether you have a boyfriend or not, you are loved and have a lot of people to love. "

I totally reject that. You're still looking for ways to justify a fake holiday that's the result of modern marketing schemes. Even if you opt out of the greeting cards, flowers, and chocolates, acknowledging the day perpetuates it.

It's big business propaganda. In 2012, people in the US spent almost 18 BILLION dollars on cards, chocolates, flowers, jewelry, and other Valentine's day related purchases.

[AnayaWilliams]

This is my first year being single after being in a 5 year relationship. I see nothing bad about it at all. I'm not going to look at it as a bad day for me because I'm single. I'm just enjoying life and doing me. I feel like people who are single on Valentine's look at it as they won't find love again or something. Just because you don't have a Valentine doesn't mean you need to eat ice cream and spoil yourself with sad songs. I mean go out and do something that makes you happy. Or spoil your ownself and buy what it is you want to buy for V-Day. I mean its just like any other holiday besides Christmas of course. I'm just spending time with myself and my family.

[Creole_Flavor]

I'm single and I don't hate V-day either so I wish these little bitches just stop bitching lol. Seriously though ever since I was a little girl Valentine's day has always been about candy and heartfelt cards. My mom would buy me lots of chocolate and I would look forward to making handmade Valentine's cards and crafts. The two times that i had a boyfriend on vday it was really not a big deal. V-day is not really just couples day it's to celebrate love and if you love yourself, your parents, siblings, or friends you can make this day whatever you want it to be. My little brother brought me candy from school yesterday and I had an aww moment lol. I never sulked on this day ever its only a big deal if you make it one. Look on the bright side, half off on the candy tomorrow :)

[Anonymous]

I hate Valentine's Day not because of the supposed single pity parties or the overflowing public display affection. I just have a strong dislike for it like I do for any other major one day holiday, it's because it causes so much traffic. Like a 15 minute car ride can turn into a 45 minute - 1hour one! Also all the malls and commercial areas are packed so it feels very suffocating. If you want to spend the day with friends then it's best to hang at each others houses. Forget about seeing a movie on this day, the queues literally end at the entrance door :|

[Hannah591]

I didn't like Valentine's when I was in a relationship and I still don't like it now I'm single because it's purely a marketing scheme for businesses. I now hate it when people make out that the single people are unhappy about it, it's patronising to say the least. I'm out making money, having guys hitting on me, whilst organising two house parties and my friend's wedding, I'm doing good! I feel liberated to say the least.

[I_M_LEGEND]

there you go!

[TheDevilInside]

*single girl who thinks she is better than other single girls who wishes they weren't single posts a take*

What if you don't feel loved AT ALL?

Valentine's day is so fucking pointless and is just a way for companies to selll you so much overpriced shit.

[Ishtar]

Atter Girl! That's the spirit! Valentine's Day is created by Hall Mark anyway and people get sucked into it and place too much importance on it for the wrong reason.

First you gotta love yourself and extend this love to your friends / family / the universe and good vibe will come back to you. So yes Happy Valentine's Day to everyone :)

[RestlessYouth_]

Lol I honestly think most people use that as a joke, not to be taken too seriously. Also, I think it's natural and OKAY to be a bit down by seeing all the hapoy couples, I wouldn't shame anyone if they felt a little bitter sweet by seeing everyone. I'm actually happily single, doesn't mean everyone is though. So if they want to throw a pity party, eh so be it. As long as relationships aren't defining someone, all is well.

[SensualScribe]

So refreshing that I am not the only woman that thinks this way! I am not single this Valentine's Day, but this is the first time in over six years that I am not single and I have never had that pity party, poor me attitude! I think Valentine's Day is not just about romantic love, but a celebration of love in general- all forms of love!

[FatherKnowsBest]

Such wise words from a bright young woman. I wish every girl had your chutzpah! You are the kind of person who is comfortable in her own skin. What a catch you would be for an ambitious young man. Bless you and always be happy.

A woman once told me: "Being in a bad relationship can be hell to get out of, but when your single and free, fun can be only a phone call away"

Happy Valentine's Day !

[BattyBB]

Happy Valentine's Day!! Hope you all had a great one
Haha oh I hate that too.. This is my second year of being single (prior to that I was in a 5year relationship) last year was fun as I went and got a chocolate covered strawberry with my friend and we dyed our hair.. her bf was working. This year that didn't happen but I got stuff for my parents and made them dinner ^_^

[R3d_Anonymous]

I don't think there's anything wrong with celebrating Valentine's Day as a single person by eating ice cream and hanging out with friends.

And Happy Singles Awareness Day is just kind of a joke us singles crack. I mean it is natural for it to sting a bit that we don't have an SO yet.

And of course, it's especially natural for the recently heartbroken as well. I mean getting dumped I imagine is already extremely difficult emotionally.

[R3d_Anonymous]

I think it's somewhat normal to feel a bit down about being single on Valentine's Day. As long as it's not excessive to the point where you're miserable (unless you are recently heartbroken) or being a jerk to other people, I don't see anything wrong with it.

Humans desire having a significant other. Valentine's Day serves as a reminder to single people that their desire isn't fulfilled. It's normal to as a result be a bit disappointed on the inside. Now complaining about it beyond a simple remark would be over the top.

[R3d_Anonymous]

At the same time, I also do feel happy for the couples. Again, now if you're to the point where you're resenting other couples, then we have a problem. But simply being slightly disappointed and as a result pampering yourself? That's a fine way to deal with it.

[Anonymous]

I'm single too. I don't really care about Valentine's Day. I don't feel miserable when i'm single at Valentine's Day. I have a girlfriend this year and i sang i song i wrote to her and she liked it but that was all. I don't think Valentine's Day is a big deal.

[bloodmountain1990]

Thanks, it's really just another day. If anything, I'm more bummed about working in this shitty snowy/windy weather as I do door to door sales.

But yeah peoples relationship status whether they're taken or single today doesn't define them. I'm single but no ones giving me shit for it today. If they did, I'd tell them to grow the fuck up.

[Ericky]

i think u're right. but u should realise at the same time that some guys hate valetine's day coz of bitterness to be single or broken hearts and so on. U should keep in mind that it's just a commercial festive day.

[nandyme]

I totally agree. Ultimately your happiness depends on you more than anyone else. I am single and I love Valentine's day mainly because its such a positive day filled with adorable reaffirmation of love wherever you see.

[nikiroxs]

lol my 8 year old sis says Valentine's day is actually about food since we make Valentine's cards on Valentine's day and these cards are shaped like hearts, and hearts are organs. People eat animal organs so this day is actually about food :)

[lostgirl_searching]

I'm single and I'm not mad or sad about it either!! No one doesn't believe me, but whatever haha I think Valentine's Day is cute but I'm not going to be depressed because I don't have anyone

[Springfairy]

I don't hate it either.
I love it, because its fun at my work on V-Day. I get to hand out candies to all the customers and wish them happy Valentine's day. I love it. Especially when the kids wish me a happy v-day. Its so darn cute.

[bang678]

Valentine's day isn't just about significant others. Its about your love for family and friends as well. I think people forget that.

[nikiroxs]

we def learn this from all those valentine day cards we gave to everyone in our class as kids

[bang678]

I don't think its that. For me at least. I think media has a bigger impact.

[ihatemylifealot]

I hate Valentine's day i wish it was more about love towards other people than being in a relationship. I think Valentine's day should be more about being nicer to each other despite your relationship status. So instead of being miserable looking at people in relationship go do something nice for a stranger or a friend.

[linkywinky]

I celebrate this day by giving a respectfully fearful nod to Al Capone and carry on. I'd probably give him some flowers if I live in FL near his grave but yknow.