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What NOT to do while in a relationship

What NOT to do while in a relationship



I think it's fair to say I have been in my fair share of bad situations with girlfriends. Some were filled with spite and done on purpose, but a lot of the time they had no idea what they did wrong. Here is my list of things not to say or do if you want to keep your man secure and interested. This is not saying all women do these things or if you do these you are automatically a bad person; these are things I personally hate. This is coming from a person with anxiety so they may sound a bit extreme.



  1. Comparison - One of my worst experiences so far was with a girl who compared me to her guy friends and crushes. No body wants to feel inferior to someone else in a relationship. This can be simple like "Why can't you..." Or "He's so much more..."

  2. Insecurity Jokes - This is for anyone in a relationship in general. If your partner has an insecurity than don't joke about it. If you do, a little bit of teasing is ok, but don't go over board on it.

  3. Talking about crushes - Wether it be your favorite celebrity, or that hot dude/chick at school/work I understand people get crushes. However, chances are your partner doesn't want to hear all about how great your crush is or how much you like them. Even if it's a small thing it may stick in your partners mind and make them feel lesser.

  4. You<Me - There are people who like dominance in a partner, but there are limits. Don't make your partner feel lesser than you, or make it seem like you are so much greater than your partner. In the end that's what you should be, partners, not a god/goddess with their own peasant.

  5. Dick Jokes - Ladies, here's the deal, jokes about a mans size is a no go for any dude unless you literally hate him. Penis size is a huge insecurity for a lot of guys (as you can tell by all the questions on GaG) so unless it's a compliment, we don't want to hear it. Even if it is genuinely just joking around it can be hurtful to your partner.

  6. Treating Them Like a Chore - It's one thing to be ignored by your partner, but feeling like a burden is worse. Spending time with them, talking to them, and complimenting them shouldn't seem like something you are forced to do. If you feel like your relationship is a chore than it might be on its way to the end

  7. Friends of the opposite gender - Having friends of the opposite gender is great. There is no limit on who you can be friends with as long as they are nice! However, if you start treating this guy/girl like a love interest, flirt with them, or hanging out with them when you could be with your partner, this may raise some red flags to your SO


These are some of the things you shouldn't do if you are interested in your partners happiness. I have been through the ringer and a lot of these are personal to me. A lot of these, when built up over time, can tear a relationship apart and hurt your partner very badly. My first and only girlfriend and I were in a relationship for three months, her doing all of these the whole time, and it left me with severe anxiety. She has learned from her mistakes, ad we are back tougher after a few years apart. Are relationship is strong, it's been almost a year and a half and I'm happy, but because of the mistakes she has made before it is a bit difficult being with her.


I don't want other relationships to have a similar fate as the last one. Some people just don't know what they're doing wrong, so I hope this helps. Maybe your in a relationship and this is happening to you; leave that relationship. Maybe you are the one doing this; change your ways or let the poor person go.


This is just my experience, and my opinion, I hope it helps some

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