That's not that big of an age gap and we aren't much older than 18 :-) I don't know about you but I was just as mature at 18 as I am now. I had to raise my sisters since I was 5 so I am extremely mature for my age. Everyone tells me I act like I am 30. I bought my own house at 18 so when I dated older guys it wasn't for the money and security like a lot of people thought. And any of them that I could tell didn't genuinely care for me I was done with. I wasn't about to date someone who was just looking for a younger girl to have sex with.
I am 20 and my fiancee is 30. We have been together for over a year now. Everyone thought it was really weird, especially his friends and family but after getting to know me they don't even notice it because I don't act like the average 20 year old. He works with my step mom and he saw my pictures and kept giving her crap about setting us up. He was totally kidding but she took it seriously and set us up on a date. He decided he'd take me out once just to be nice and never talk to me again. Well since we are engaged you can obviously tell that didn't happen :) And I only planned on dating him casually because I had just gotten out of a four year relationship. Sometimes things just don't work out the way you planned. Nobody even thinks twice about my age anymore and it doesn't bother anyone with the age gap. My family loves him to death and his family loves me. His mom has been telling me for about nine months that she wants us to get married.
So I guess you can't really judge someone's situation based on numbers. Because sometimes age is just a number and the two people are really compatible and really great together. Why miss out on something so amazing because of age? That shouldn't be a determining factor. ...Unless they are underage, they should def steer clear of that!
well if girls my age showed more intrest in me then I wouldn't date younger girls. but women my age except tons of money and lots of comfort I can not provide them. women like that stuff and only older men can provide that. its just the way life works but there are exceptions my brother and his wife are the same age. men have it hard until theyget older and more refined and then life rewards us. women have ther glory days when there young
Hmmm I just answered this but from my point of view/situation (I date older guys because they don't play games, treat me like a lady, know what they want in life and are way more mature than guys my age), and at least in my experience, the guys that I have dated are in the late twenties to mid-late thirties and they haven't found that someone, either girls are too busy with their careers, or they want to settle down ASAP afraid that their clock is about to expireor pressured by their families, or some of them are afraid of commitment or insecure about themselves and I think that in that case it's when a guy is looking for someone to start with, someone not so worried about the pressure that age brings along, someone they can teach to and learn from... but I'm talking about guys a lot older than your typical college student...
I also think that guys that go for younger is because either the girl is just insanely pretty, insanely mature or the guy is playing her and just wants arm candy because someone that young lacks the maturity and experience that are needed for a real relationship... that's just me
I don't see anything wrong with it as long as they are both mature and can handle the relationship. Their are many people now a days who are married and have 10 years between them. 18-25 is only a 7 year age gap...and they are both adults so their isn't anything wrong with it.
I have wondered this a few times myself. I always thought that it was for sex. I am 23, 24 in 2 weeks, and I was best friends with this girl who turned 18 earlier this year. We had the best and closest friendship I have ever had with anyone. We was just friends and we actually started to fall for each other earlier this year. We really did try to stop it, but we just couldn't. We now do care for each other really bad. When people see us they probably think the same thing you think. Why is he with that young girl for!
I have to agree with you thou...she is very immature.
They aren't many girls in my age group that I have found that I like. It isn't that hard to get a good looking girl, but most of them don't have no personality. I don't look for just looks. Most of the girls in my age group just don't attract me for some reason...idk why. Just because you see an older guy with a younger girl doesn't mean anything bad. It could be they really love each other. Now if you see a girl that is young enough to be the guy's daughter then yeah that is just for sex.
This is a honest opinion. And as a guy in his 20 ' s... reason why most guys do it because girls at 18 don't really care about money and trading up in life until they themselves reach their twenties. Usually it's before they get into collage and are exposed to a large group of guys ranging from hot to ugly, rich or poor. But when I say rich... I mean rich in life style, thay could be drugs, cars, sex, traveling. All expenses that require a crap ton of money. Granted not all chicks are like this and actually want a decent guy, up until they realize they are settling for less. Sorry but not sorry this is the truth. Women don't stop day dreaming for a prince charming to come along till they are 25 maybe 30. I consider myself attractive to the point girls come up to me. Not many men can brag about that either
But these guys in their late twenties have money and see these young girls still I'm that mindset wanting to be swept off their feet. Life isn't fair, some get lucky but who am I trying to kid...
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often girls in their mid twenties become much less fun and they get all bitchy and serious.
most importantly though, guys are attracted to youth. sexiness is greatly defined by how young and fresh a girl is. an 18 year old exudes that sort of youth to us. we like skinny young looking girls and we like the idea of teaching them about sex and breaking them in. the idea is very very hot to us. sorry but it is true. I don;t really like it because as you say they are often less mature, but I am inevitably attracted to it. I dated a 16 year old when I was 24 because she was so sexually enticing. even though I knew it was a bad idea, I let two 16 year olds give me head in the park together when I was 23. then I dated a 19 year old when I was 25. she was too immature, it didn't work out. now I am into a 19 year old and I am 27. it never fails. we are attracted to them because they are young and that is by definition hot. we will think 18 year olds are hot as hell when we are 80. they have tight young bodies and nice perky t*ts. they have youthful faces.
I don't what else to say. we aren't really choosing what we are attracted to.
also we don't want some girl with all this baggage. we want someone fresh and uncorrupted by other guys and stupid mental problems. girls my age are all about getting married and having busy carreers. that is lame and boring. I practically need to go young just to find someone who doesn't act like they are 40.
I agree that a 16 year old girl can be attractive, but I would never act on that attraction. And you just admitted to something that can get you put in jail, I would be careful.
Came across this question while doing research for a book, figured I'd she'd some light. There are reasons layered on reasons for why SOME men in their 20s go after teenagers.
One reason is the men are still boys themselves, working all week to have the money to party on the weekend is a huge red flag. I did the same in my early 20s. Then I realized what I was doing, and suddenly recognized it in others. I didn't want this behaviour so I made myself change.
Another reason is men being jerks haven't jaded younger women as much. I was also a jerk, even though I had the best of intentions, I was too ignorant and immature to grasp the subtleties of women, and how very different AND COMPLIMENTARY they are to men. This reason is also why many women in their 20s go for men in their 30s and 40s. This is also why women are attracted to married men, even if they never act on it. It isn't because they are unavailable, it is because living with a woman they care about for years balances them.
Men giving too much of themselves to their mate is also what leads to midlife crises.
Another reason is the everlasting "wanting to grow up" and usually too fast. Teen girls want to feel like a woman, and so "transform themselves" into one i. e. makeup, clothes, mannerisms. This leads to what the top commenter discovered as immaturity. It is merely the emersion of the GIRLS natural personality, being immature as it must be due to lack of experiences.
Children are sponges and mimics, mainly this is to incorporate into society, but this (being misunderstood) can easily lead to greater misunderstandings.
Basic and simple answer, it isn't entirely natural, it's taught.
Because by the time a girl gets to your age, they are naggy, spiteful bitches who feel the need to judge everyone else around them. Who the FUCK are you to judge someone else’s attraction? The hard truth is, younger girls are just more attractive to guys. And we aren’t allowed to admit how we really feel in society. It’s not disgusting. It’s genetic attraction. For most of human history men took young (14-20 year old) women as wives because they are physically more healthy and the most likely to have healthy children. This was interpreted over the generations in genetic coding, and hasn’t gone away because the law and society forbids grown men from having sex with younger women. Most guys are too afraid to admit it, but probably most of us would be lying to ourselves if we said we weren’t attracted to that thin 17 year old girl with a shapely tight ass and perky breasts in a bikini at the beach.. I’m not saying that wanting to rape a child is okay, that’s whole other topic, but to say a guy is a freak because he’s with an 18 year old girl is narcissistic. The truth is, you’re not innocent you’re prime anymore.. hot little sally down the street’s just hotter than you! Sorry hon!
Well, Let's see...
They are most likely still nice and firm and tight...
and they are relatively new to physical relationships so possibly open to more options...
It's all new to them and there is the wide eyes amazement factor too...
And oh yeah...
They look at the guy as a great new toy. They really WANT the guy. And they have not become jaded and self absorbed. To them sex is still new and they are enthusiastic about it. They don't look at every guy like he's a pervert because he wants sex. They want it just as much.
Oh and it's not just the 25 year olds. It's the 35 and the 45... and dare I say the 55 year olds too.
I met a great girl when I was in 12th grade. I was the nerdy type in school and had NEVER hadn’t a girlfriend. I was so lonely and hated myself. This girl was so full of joy and life and for some reason she liked ME. I couldn’t believe it. Her eyes were bright and full of life. We immediately fell in love. She was 15, I was 17. When I had sex for the first time it was amazing. She was so enthusiastic about it. We did everything. We were together for 3 years and I got called a sicko, pedofile, and threatened by multiple people. I was even driven out of a job because my boss (my age) was trying to seduce me into banging her in the walk-in... I refused and she started calling me a sicko and pedofile because my girlfriend was 17. Society is cruel to men. Everyone says that men are privileged but we are the most abused in society. My girlfriend ended up breaking my heart as soon as she turned 18. She changed and became a selfish cruel person. I found out she had cheated on me 10 times.
From a scientific (vs a social) point of view it comes down to breeding. Young adult females are more likely to survive (and bring to term) healthy children. Therefore males of any age will give younger women an edge in attractiveness over older ones. The reverse of this is females will look for males who are established enough to take care of children. Often that is an older male.
Of course, there is a lot of data about cheaters in the above... as males try to sow their seed among as many females as they can, and females may want to marry the 'nest provider' he may not necessarily be the one who she wants to get her pregnant.
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From the social view, it only matters to the individuals involved. Community opinions on the matter change from location to location, but they only influence the people involved.
I like the pseudo biology here. Let me add some more:
Advanced paternal age has been shown to greatly increase the odds of autism and certain mental disorders.
Breeding with different men decreases the odds that the child will have a genetic disorder (if the mother is healthy).
So biologically speaking a woman should breed with various young strong men :) such as myself.
"Let me add some more: Advanced paternal age has been shown to greatly increase the odds of autism and certain mental disorders."
No it doesn't. Not nearly as much as maternal age does. Sperm are an insurance policy. Many sperm means the healthiest will still tend to reach the egg first, but only one egg means any defects are there to stay.
Besides, nearly all reputable experts in the field cite maternal age as the number one risk factor for autism and down's. Miscarriages mostly depend on mother's age as well.
"Breeding with different men decreases the odds that the child will have a genetic disorder (if the mother is healthy)."
The world record for most children born to a woman is 69. The world record for men is 860 (far more than that if you count Genghis Khan, but his wasn't recorded).
You're the one spouting pseudo biology.
Woman are actually in their prime around 23-25 years old. Pregnancy below the age of 20 carries an increased chance for premature labor and miscarriage. However, I do see young females fitting the ideal image according to the media of what a female should look like. Let men chase what they want, we're all going to get old either way you look at it. If they want 18 that bad, let them chase their interest until their unbearable to look at, then they will be too old to have any lady by their side.
First of all, men of ALL ages lust after 18 year-olds, if only physically. If they say they don't, it's because they're either embarrassed of their sexuality, gay or asexual (lot more of them than you'd think).
I mostly agree, though, with the poster who wrote that it's usually the other way around. Teenage girls lust after older men because older men are typically more experienced, more self-confident and more masculine in general than teenage guys. In my experience, the younger the girl, the more she wants a strong and dominant (i.e. older) man. Call it a daddy thing, but it is what it is.
Girls in teen years are at their prime in terms of looks, so yeah we naturally want them, but if you go too young, even though is natural, you may get in trouble. I would say 18 is safe.
Also many guys suck with girls when they were that age and they didn't get to enjoy them, so in the mid 20's most of us go through a mental crisis that make us want to compensate.
Not all of us have success at it, since we don't have a clue how to make it happen, usually older girls are the ones that are more open minded and easier to connect mentally, so it's an issue that can bring a lot of frustration to guys.
Hey BigJoey I think it’s sick that you’re 28 and go after a girl 8 years younger than you. How does that feel? I’m 23. So if I dated a girl 8 years younger than me she’d be 15 right? You can’t say that someone’s attraction makes them a perv or a sicko.. no one can control what they are subconsciously attracted to.
1. girls in their mid 20s either have a job or looking to get married or both.
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Also all the stress makes them look less attractive than their 18 year old counterparts. Also their bodies are less firm than 18 year old's..
2. Its easy to bag a younger girl, because guys in their mid 20s are better looking ( more mature and muscular) than 18 year old guys + they have jobs to take care of college girl's shallow spending habits.
Guys in mid 20s aren't looking to get married. those in late 20s /early 30s are.
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Wow, according to that statistic I married quite young, at 25 :D
After high school, I was never interested in 18-year-olds because frankly, most of them act like teenagers. (Since my early 20s, all my gfs, FWBs, etc have been at least 19 and most were close to my age at the time.) Sometimes we do end up finding someone much younger by accident, and some girls play into this game by exclusively dating men who are older than them, which limits our options a bit.
That said, some guys actively look for younger girls basically because they are (on average) less mature, easier to impress, and easier to manipulate. Not all of us do that, though. Right now I'd much prefer someone who's capable of acting like an adult!
why does every 18-19 year old girl go for guys in their mid 20s? its just the way it is. Maybe the guys do because when they were in high school still, they couldn't get a girlfriend because all the girls in the school were with dudes in their mid 20s, now that the guys grew up, its their turn?
So True!!!!!!!!!!!
I can't say anything bad about 28 going out with 21 because I've done it. I think the main thing to me is a girl fitting into my social bracket. For me that means... well, old enough to drink. A couple years and I may up that to mid 20s, but we'll see. For me, it has more to do with fitting into my social life. Hell, you get senior citizens in strip clubs all the time. Hot girls are hot girls. What I like doesn't necessarily change, but what I'm looking for does. I hope that makes some sort of sense.
I guess it depends on the level of maturity. But the age range thing is seemingly becoming like it's no big deal, but it's something to me. When I was 27, I asked out a 19 year old girl, but ONLY because I liked her and thought that she was geniunely sweet., and we seemed to get along fairly well. I was wrong. Yes, there are guys who will go after girls who are younger for sex, but what about those who really don't care because maybe, just maybe, they truly like the girl?
That age gap isn't that big. If you look around it appears natural for for guys to go for younger girls and girls go for older guys. It works both ways. In many cases, I'd say it even works better this way for these people. The guys are still 18 in their minds...and the girls are looking for security and more maturity in an older guy...
i always go for girls heaps younger then me, because girls want older guys. so if your 28 your not gonna usually get someone 28 or older it will be a few years younger generally. but this is not always true. this is just from what i have seen in my social circles and with other people i know.
i personally go for girls that are 8-10years younger.
At 18, girls have a lot of potential for bearing many children; so this is only natural if you believe in evolution. IF they don't take care of themselves, many women go downhill after 18, especially in obese USA. 18 year olds can be quite responsible; it's just that we have so little expectations of them; back in time, 14 years olds where considered the ripe age for marriage. I think you may just be jealous of the beauty of younger women.
Thats such a dumb answer not every woman even wants children! or man for that matter.
"go downhill after 18"? WTF?
14 for marrigage??! yikes.
I'm not in that age range anymore, but maybe you are asking your question the wrong way. Possibly, it's not that they want a 18 year old for some specific reason, but rather that they don't want a 25 year old for some specific reason. You might try that question instead, if the current one doesn't help you.
It's life. And girls reach their full maturity faster I think.
And no offense, but 18 year old girls are often cheerier, they haven't been burned by dating druggies/convicts/losers, and they look up to a guy in his 20's more and are happier with get the attention, so they're less bitchy. Hence why us men in our 20's love 18 year old girls. They're great on so many levels.
False, I cannot stand even a two year age difference and there is nothing worse than getting dumped by a little girl. No thank you. It is all preference. Youth is beauty and older girls are a little harder to access due to emotional walls put up by bad relationships, so it is easier to date younger; however, same goes for girls too.
Personally I don't think its your place to judge, my husband and I started dating when I was 16 he was 23 he is now 27 and I am 20. We have been together for 4 years and married for 2 what's it to you? I think its ok at least he can score a younger chick
I think it would be amazing to date an older women. She's much more mature and she knows what she wants in life. To answer your questions yeah guys love to look for younger girls because there easy to manipulate. Maybe it makes them feel young when there with someone like that.
Why is it that when a man asks a stupid inflammatory question, he gets rightly told off, but when a woman does the same, the "men" around here kowtow to her and self-deprecate their entire gender to appease her?
I'll say it since nobody else is:
You are BITTER. You are in your late 20s, and you are upset that men your age are dating younger women. You know deep down that there is nothing wrong with it, and that it's completely natural and even healthy, and that infuriates you more than anything else in the world. You desperately starve for the attention you once commanded, and you're green with envy that younger women are able to get it so easily.
My advice: get over it. Age is harsher to women than to men. It's a fact of life.
A guy who is 25 dating a 18 is not disgusting at all,trust me.
Anyways...
My answer to this is the following...
Age is just a number(As long as it's legal)
Love is love it doesn't matter what ur age(As long as it's legal)
Peace!
Thats soo true age is just a number..25 and 18 is not bad
I've seen quite a few 18 year old girls who could easily pass for mid 20s in both the way they look and the way they act. And I've seen mid 20s guys who look like they're still in their teens. The age group isn't as far apart as you think.
That's normal.
What's disgusting is 18 year old girls who look to men in their forties or even fifties sometimes.
Though those girls can have their perverted middle-aged men, they're golddiggers.
I know plenty of 18 year old girls who are way mature. Everyones different. Some guys mature later, which make an 18 year old girl who is mature equal to a 25 year old boy who is mature. Of course every relationship is different, and so is every person.
Because men want easy p**** and the younger the easier to influence.. My boyfriend was 29 and I was an 18 old vigin.. 3yrs later I still haven't forgiven him! BASTARD! GET A GIRL YOUR OWN AGE YOU PIGS!
IF I DIDN'T LIKE DICK SO MUCH I'D BE A DAMN LEZBO!
Eighteen and 25 is not bad...I'm nineteen I date a 25 what's wrong wit that?
nothing
There's nothing "wrong" with it as long as you both are satisfied and happy. Age doesn't matter if the two are off a similar mindset. But sometimes men do it to prey. I mean the get young inexperienced women so they can take advantage. 6 years is a lot different then 11 years between my man and me.
Men are just more attracted to girls in their late teens - early twenties, and women tend to be more attracted to slightly older men. My guess is that you're mad they don't choose you so you're trying to make them out to be disgusting creeps trying to manipulate naive women, good effort lol.
some people over fixate on age , like this summer I've meet several 19 year old girls I really like and age isn't why I just find them really attractive and into them . they just happen to be a few years younger than me is all .
I guess I can't really answer this...I'm only 20 but I do go after younger girls. Only because they are more into the chase and being all hella flirty. I also feel like I'm more of a man for them then a girl my age. Sounds stupid but its true
im 18 and I like a 29 year old, well we like each other a lot and no its not for sex he is not that type of person. I think it depends on the 18 year old how mature she is because not all 18 year olds are immature.most are tho.
I think guys always want an 18 year old. because they've just finished growing up. They are at there cutest point and there considered adults. I don't think guys often get wrapped up in the maturity issue.
Because younger girls are easy to mold and manipulate. They become attached to men much more often than an older woman would. This is why.
Are you kidding? At 18, her female body is as great as it will ever be and she's a ready adult. I'd bang her in a minute if she wanted it. Us men go crazy for cute young sexy pussy. She should go to a nice resort, find a good looking millionaire, get him hard as a rock and say, "I'm not that kind of a girl. I do like you. Please call me."
Because women their own age have higher standards, and expect a mature adult.
Yes totally. younger girls will put up wit anythin nd are easier to get in 1st place. I kno this guy who treats girls like crap he's 21/22 theyre all like 18-20 so it figures
"There is nothing more disgusting than seeing a 25 year guy go after 18 year olds who still look like they're finishing up with puberty and who still acts like she's an immature kid."
"(25 to 29)"
Well, *somebody's* bitter as hell. :)
- 23 year old currently in a relastionship with a 19 year old
in my opinion,not every guy always gets attracted to a teenage girl... almost all girls are beautiful. I love them all..
that age difference is not that large, and as some studies will show you, a mid 20's guy is equal in maturity to an 18 year old girl :)
i think that's a really stupid stuck up thing to say to automatically assume that about guys. yes, it is true in many cases, but you have to ask then why do the girls that they go after oblige?
it takes two to tango.
It's mostly about asses, and sometimes breasts, if they have any.
The wonders of the male brain.
Lol...thanks for being honest ...
LOL!!!!!!!!!!
No it is not
Im 20 and I'm more attrackted to girls about 25, but that doesn't mean I will rule out younger girls.
Not true with all guys...when I was 24, I dated a 38 yr.
I’m 23 and I’ve been with women 15-35 years old throughout my life.. saying you banged an old lady doesn’t mean that you’ve NEVER looked at a 16 year old and subconsciously say “hey she’s kinda hot”.. we all do it and you shouldn’t be ashamed of it. We can’t control our attraction.
There is nothing wrong with a a eighteen year old and a 25 year old..I'm 19 and I date a 25 year old there is nothing wrong with it at all.and for all you pple trying to say its just because sex that's not true at all..I am very mature for a 19year old girl..Yeah there are some immature 19 years old..but my boyfriend is 25 and acts like 20 sometimes because he likes to party and have fun..
so were pretty close in maturirty levels..lol
Thats not disgusting at all. TRUST ME. am 18 and my fiance is 23!
I disagree I would go younger than 18 if it were legal lol, not pre-puberty of course that's gross. But yeah if she looks like a woman and we click then I'm into her regardless of age. 18-30. I'm 26.
It’s natural to be attracted to girls 12+ as long as it’s mutual.. but society demonizes this attraction. I think what happened is men reached a point where they got in trouble with their wives, and in a last ditch effort to cover their tracks of sleeping around with teen girls, they made it outright illegal just to pander to their wives and get them off their backs..
I don't think so much its that we want a 18 year old girl as much as a younger girl. I think that the maturity level and what each other is attracted to makes it a better match.
its the other way around. eighteen year old chics and under salivate over 25 year old guys.
I'm dating a 25year old and I'm 18. There is NOTHING disgusting about that
Thank you..there is nothing wronmg at alll..i'm 19 with a 25 year old
Younger girls are easier to control.
I’m all about being able to be attracted to whoever you want, but when you outright use your age to manipulate a younger girl it’s abuse. That’s a fucked up thing man.
Tight puss
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