My bf likes to manhandle me? Is this.. normal?

[Anonymous]

When we fight, He grabs my wrist and doesn't let go until it's red. But i really wanna leave the room and talk later. If i cry during an argument and dont want to see him at that moment he catches me when im leaving and doesn't let go till i stop crying and hugs me. But i hate him seeing me cry and all..
He's always like this. The other day when we were fighting he carried me to his bedroom, threw me to his bed, locked the door and didn't let go till we solve the problem. i couldn't get him to let go off me cause he's way too strong.
Is this normal?

[lullah]

Been in your situation with my ex. I loved him a lot before. His acts were similar to your bf. He held my wrist and shoulder with force, pushed me on the chair... sometimes he would get my bag from my shoulder by force just so I wouldn't leave him in the middle of our argument.. and it really hurt a lot physically and emotionally. Even though he's not tall, his structure is wide so I can he is strong. We lasted almost two years. I never told any of my friends about this because I really thought it was normal.
I only realized it wasn't after entering a new relationship with my current bf. My current bf (fiance) never held me with force or what. He was so gentle to me.. even in the middle of our arguments (we rarely get arguments though).

IN SHORT, no it is not normal. I'm sure you will still give him a chance though.. because you love him. But you need to learn to live without such kind of guy.

[Deft_maiden]

Well said

[Annymous8]

That's not normal. You should run.

[Asker]

I see..:/

[Annymous8]

Those are precursers to abuse, sweetheart.

[LFontes_]

tbh, the best way for relationships to last or to get fixed during arguments is to talk it out, giving time doesn't work. You just need to talk it over with him on what happened because a lot of times they have different opinions on what happened and whatever it is, its better to talk about it, ik u don't like to cry in front of him and neither does my gf but just talk to him because not doing it is bad for the relationship and bad for both of you to leave when you are both annoyed or upset, hope this helps, don't dump him just because u can't talk about it, its very VERT important to talk if you argue because you both express how you feel and it may change the others mind on what he thinks, if you love him, stay with him no matter what unless he physically punches u in the face

[cavmanier]

No that's not okay. His heart may be in the right place. I mean he may just want to resolve things, but I don't think it's okay to physically control you like that.

[7heDubz]

This.

[Asker]

Yeah he just want to solve the issue.. andhe never hits me i think i should talk to him..

[cavmanier]

absolutely

[faceless127]

Yeah, he sounds a little crazy to me.. locks you in a room?
I mean its good and all that he wants to solve your guy's problems together but he is going a little to far.

[Encolpius]

That's borderline abuse, whether he means it or not. Talk to him about it, and if it continues, you should walk away. Being dominant is one thing, but causing pain is another.

[PrettyBama]

So hot lol I looooove crazy men lol

[Asker]

Yeah he's crazy lol very dominant in bed too

[PrettyBama]

I looooove it lol

[catguy]

Why do you like them? They are just drama. You like drama?

[PrettyBama]

I like the intensity. And yeah. I like a little drama and insanity in my relationships. Otherwise they're boring.

[Anonymous]

How much are you fighting... that's not good to fight a lot

[Asker]

Well more than we should.. these days

[Opinion Owner]

Don't think you should seek some counseling or something... see what's going on. You can fight, but if you're fighting about every little thing, it's not a healthy relationship

[Anonymous]

I would say that's not OK. He sounds controlling and it may be a sign of personality problems.

[Anonymous]

Very dangerous to your well being, best to let that one go.

[catguy]

Um no this is not normal in fact I'd call it abuse

[Asker]

He's naver hit me. I don't know he just can't control himself..

[catguy]

But he is mentally abiding you. 'He can't help himself' is just you excusing his behavior. You shouldn't have to stand for it and deserve better.

[catguy]

abusing*

[AnimeLover12]

hell no, that's an abusive ass dude

[jmmmfi]

Sounds like abuse to me