Lied to him about my age... now I don't know what to do?

[Anonymous]

I am seventeen years old and about to start my senior year in high school. I went to a frat party with some older friends and lied about my age. I said I was 18 and just graduated high school. I thought I was going to never see those people again but I've spent a lot of time with them lately. I hooked up with this guy and now things are kind of getting a little more serious. It started off as just hooking up but now he's hinting at relationships and I've spent a good amount of time with him to know that I like him. He's 19 and in college. I'm scared to tell him my real age and that I'm still in high school. What if he doesn't like me anymore or gets upset? What would you do? and i was planning on seeing him next Friday but it turns out I might not be able to see him for 2 weeks or possibly more so would it be bad to try and tell him over the phone or should I wait until I see him in person?

you wouldn't want anything to do with him/her

you wouldn't mind and continue to try and start a relationship with him/her

[LittleSally]

A - if a guy lied to me and told me he was younger or older than he was (and his actual age was unacceptable to me) I would be pi**ed and wouldn't want anything to do with him.

I don't see why anyone would lie by a few years unless it was your case - saying you're of age when you're not. If I was the guy and had correct moral values (hence not wanting to date someone who isn't of age and that alone could get me arrested) I wouldn't want anything to do with you purely because I wouldn't want to go to jail. But, that being said, guys in general don't care about this and they wouldn't care if you were 15... much less 17... So, I doubt he'll care all that much. I think you're good.

[SophieBabie]

Are you MAD? Thats not cool. That's exactly how men get arrested for sexual assault/abuse, little girls, like yourself, lie, their parents find out, then, BAM, an innocent man that would never date a kid gets arrested and placed in the system as a pedophile. If It was me I would never speak to you again, you can ruin that man's life with that one "not so innocent lie". smh.

[Hannah591]

You're only two years younger so why on earth would you lie? I wouldn't continue a relationship with someone who's lied the moment the relationship started. Relationships need a hard foundation, not a foundation of lies. They could easily lie again, I'd not trust them. You shouldn't do it again. I hope you learn from this.

[staytrue2]

depends on your age, I dated a girl i thought was 19 and turned out she was 16 and just turned 17, shortly after our first date... that was some freaky s**t. Just make sure you're not breaking any laws by being together and should be all good, he's going to be in college for the next couple of years, i can't see why dating you would be a problem... unless you're like 15 or something!

[Execu]

Be apologetic. "im so sorry I'm actually 17.."
No guy is going to give two fucks about a 2 year gap, lying is a turn off but forgivable.

[Asker]

I'm not as concerned about the age gap but more about the fact that I'm still in high school. Even though it is my last year

[Execu]

I can't imagine him caring that much about it, if you're moving really far away to go to a university after that would be a problem, other than that he shouldn't care about HS.

[Roarke]

The best thing to do to mitigate the whole statutory rape issue is don't go flapping your mouth to all your girlfriends about this 'new guy'. On here is fine, as no one can identify you or him. But i don't care how much you trust your friends, once you reveal this info to one of them you might as well take out an ad in the newspaper.

[lalalabbie]

I would tell him in person. He might take it well and he might not its hard to know but just be honest its better than him finding out through somebody else! Definitely in person though. If he really really likes you this shouldn't be a issue for him.

[Anonymous]

its important you tell him the truth and why u lied " I didn't think I'd see any of those guys again" it helps me better understand ur reasoning. I would do it on the phone. if he gets up set or acts weird about it then u really dnt need him. he needs to be understanding.

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

All you got do is apologize about things and make it right
we all make mistakes in life all you can do is tell the truth
I had some girl tell me one time she was age 28 well finally
she came out told me the truth she was only age 18

[eshka]

When the age thing comes up, he's gonna be so disappointed, and might not even wanna talk to you, so you should have started with the real age in the first place.

[Kaynetime]

You gotta tell him, I'm not sure what the laws are in your area but if your under 18 the he's a rapist in most of the country.

[Asker]

The state I am from, 16 is the age of consent so it isn't rape but I'm just scared that he'll be bothered by the fact I'm still in highschool

[Kaynetime]

Well honesty is best policy, tell him what you told us and I don't see any reason why dating someone 2 years younger would be a problem.

[Terminal_Access]

you should be straight with the guy and let him know, he deserve to and has a right to know your real age!

[Anonymous]

You really need to tell him. He's going to be unhappy, but there it is. And he'd found out anyway...

Luckily, there's only 2 years difference between you, so it's probably not statutory rape.

Yeah... don't lie...

[Anonymous]

it really just depends on your feelings for him. if i was in your position i would tell him my real age because he knows but you just wanted to fit in so you told them you were older.

[Asker]

I really want to get it off my chest asap but I don't know when ill see him next since I have a lot going on. Would it be appropriate to tell him over the phone? Or should I just wait until the next time I see him?

[Opinion Owner]

i think in person would be more appropriate because over the phone or in a text he can get the wrong impression but you telling him in person he can ask you why and stuff like that and you can see how he takes it. trust me its not easy to tell him to his face but when you do it you'll feel better.

[Jayharrybee]

I hate being lied to. It's one of the worst things. Once you lie to me, I question everything you say. It's better to know & be disappointed, than to never know and always wonder.

[Anonymous]

Most men don't care that you're young. If it were the other way, & you were a 30 year old woman saying you were 25, then men would have a problem.

[jacquesvol]

If it was about majority, I'd walk away after saying 'Goodbye, come back when you're adult'. Otherwise, I'd laugh about it.

[Anonymous]

You should tell him everything... adding that all you did was to get him because you liked him a lot at that time!!

[Kshppatel]

You should probably tell him. But don't be like "Yeah so I'm 16 so.." be like "I'm 16 and here's why I told you I was 18."

[Anonymous]

If he really 'likes' you, he won't give you up because of a minor age gap.

[kamaehameha1234]

well... depends on the age... don't want to be registered as a sex offender

[Marissa_A]

Tell him in person and see what happens then