How to regain the upper hand in the relationship?

[Anonymous]

Initially, I had the upper hand in the relationship. The more I care about him, the more he has the upper hand. How do I flip the script? He was the jealous one, now I'm the jealous one! Will I make it better if I am calm, cool and collected?

[ManThatKnewTooMuch]

Yes. You will make it much better if you do that. Want to know why? Because that's how you should be in every relationship. Calm... cool... collected. But it has to reflect your character, not some method of "getting the upper hand."

Honestly, your desire to "flip the script" is really sad and indicates that you should not be in any kind of relationship. You think it's some kind of game that you can win. You feel like you're on the losing side and you're looking for advice to cut this guy's legs out from under him.

That is despicable. That is amoral. That deserves every kind of loathsome and detestable sentiment directed to you. You sound completely self absorbed and attention-seeking. Why don't you make the both of yourselves happy by letting him go and buying yourself a ceiling mirror so that you can look at yourself first thing in the morning... because I suspect you'll be the only one capable of lavishing you with the attention which you seek.

[ImSoSozzled]

"Will I make it better if I am calm, cool and collected?"

Yes. But you should be that way just because it's healthier for you and your relationship... not just to get the upper hand. That's a very immature way of looking at a relationship.

[Asker]

you are right. thank you.

[ImSoSozzled]

You're welcome. I hope it works out for you.

[alleycat34]

a relationship should be equal not a childish power struggle. grow up and stop playing games

[Destinybae]

Allow him to be dominant over you. You dont want a desperate needy man over you.

[Anonymous]

Never withhold sex, if fact extra bjs will make you boss