Tips to be more dominant and assertive in a relationship?

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Savage_Wisdom · Accepted Answer

Before you can be truly dominant in a relationship, you must first have confidence and pride in yourself. What are your hobbies and interests? What is it about you that makes you unique and set you apart from the crowd? Be proud of these things, and don't be afraid to own up to your shortcomings. Both of these things will go a long way towards helping you build up your own self confidence. Without that confidence, you won't ever be able to be truly dominant in a relationship, as how can anyone truly respect you if you don't respect you?

On that note, the key thing to remember in any Dom Sub relationship, is that it's all about mutual trust and respect. The Sub trusts and respects the Dom enough to know that the Dom would never abused the power they've given them. And the Dom trusts and respects the Sub enough to know where their limits are and ensures to give the sub a way to stop the situation immediately if it becomes overwhelming for them. Just because you're the Dom and they're the sub doesn't give you the right to treat them how ever you want. Just because you are the sub in there the Don doesn't mean you don't have the right to say no.

So just remember to respect who they are as a person, respect how much power they have given you over them, and trust them enough to give them a way to stop any kind of Dom sub situation you two are currently engaged in, in case it becomes too much for them.

MrWolf · Accepted Answer

Now i see that as an Lego tower i did build as an kid.

Block by block steady you go.

First and foremost as an Man it is expected to act like one. But in those words i mean just that Man. Not a player not whatever there is out there.

Build it little by little step by step as you lead she will guide trough the way. This goes both ways always. Keep in mind you are never ever smarter then a girl.

Don't lie, don't jump to conclusions or such. Listen carefully what she has to say let her finish talking then is your turn. Honesty goes a mile long.

Have a bit of spine there for each case be brave with words.

It is expected of you in any case.

She expects great things from you if you want to be dominant. Yet don't take it to far or you will end at the bottom.

Make her feel like a woman, pricness or whatever she likes but still don't be a fool.

And lastly said it depends on the person and your own midset so those advices i gave may work or don't we don't know for sure.

But if you ask me be yourself.

dmvgirl16 · Accepted Answer

Well I think that if u want to be dominant or assertive i think u should be the person that says what u want from ur partner like in the romantic moments or the sex moments or at any time u pass with ur partner just tell ur partner what u want and keep on saying what u want until ur partner does it

SunnyCaliGirl · Accepted Answer

Be clear as possible in communication with your partner and make your desires know, never have them wondering what it is you want. And communicate with your partner about their needs and desires

Prof_Don · Answer

Take the lead in the small stuff... as in TELL her, or do the thing, w/o asking for input.

Girls love this shit for two reasons:

1) It shows dominance, and girls like to be dominated by men they like/love & trust

2). If you pick things that she likes (such as bringing her favorite drink from a food place to go with her order), it shows that you know what she likes... which means you pay attention to her likes and needs... which makes he like/love you even more!

Unit1 · Answer

Wanna be ALFA AS PHUK? Tell her " SHUT UP AND SUCK MY DICK, YOU WORTHLESS BITCH " and overpower her to do as you just said. /sarcasm Actually I do not recommend doing that unless she is into that. Know the boundaries and respect them. Just don't be a freaking doormat. Find a middle ground.

Agape93 · Answer

Tell yourself what you exactly want and can reasonably expect. State that to a designated target, and don’t backtrack.
Example
“Hey babe, you’re doing dishes tonight.”
“But why?”
“I said so. So get it done, please and thank you.”

ketfoen · Answer

You can be dominant and assertive at your job or in the workplace if you have a leadership role, but not in a relationship.
In a relationship you have to be equally understanding and take the time to listen to one another, take your s. o emotions in consideration and always stay calm during an argument, even if you are not the initiator of that argument. If you can't do this, then I am sorry to say that the person you are with isn't the right match for you.

LoU_Hades · Answer

Situational awareness and putting things right at rational and logical level are important.

ItsTheNephilim · Answer

Speak up your mind, be decisive, blunt yet polite. Know your priorities.

Iron_Man · Answer

Take a stand, be a leader a shot caller. Don't let her have her way to much, take charge put your foot down when she's demanding. Run your own Castle not her.

NorthwestRider · Answer

My fiancée is the dominant one and she thinks logical and communicates often. She also protects me and listen to my concerns

Massageman · Answer

#1 - learn the difference between dominant/aggressive and assertive.

Anonymous · Answer

1. Avoid feminists.
2. Get a submissive woman.
3. Just do it.

Submissive women like being told what to do and generally won't fight back. (Unless they're stubborn. In which case they'll enjoy being punished, if you're into that.)

1CentWorth · Answer

take chances on what to say to her. be bold. worst case scenario you will have to explain yourself. if you have no confidence, fake it.

uhmdontoknow · Answer

Be confident, surprising, and let her work for it too

FollowtheFellow · Answer

Always Tell what you want and feel. That is all it takes and it makes any relationship better.

Poppykate · Answer

Be handy around the house.. change a lightbulb 💡

jojixlight · Answer

*here to read the comments*

COMMODOREII · Answer

Take the initiative? Im not sure

Numbnuts89 · Answer

time, and not being so shy

Emperorxxxemilio · Answer

Why be more dominant? You into bdsm or some shit?

msc545 · Answer

Be uncooperative with her demands

bigpopsicle · Answer

I put a leash on a her straight up

simplelikeme · Answer

Don't be controlling

Anonymous · Answer

Stick with ur words

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