First of all, the problem is NOT that you're not trying hard enough. In fact, you're trying too hard (three text messages over the course of a few months is far too much, especially if he is not being responsive). And by that I mean, relationships of any kind seldom turn out well when one party is make more of an effort than the other. I used to be this way until one day I said, okay, I'm no longer going to be the one who goes out of my way to make friends and initiate "play dates." If I don't seen any interest, enthusiasm, or effort on the other person's part, I move on.
There are obviously two possibilities as to why these guys don't want to hang out with you: 1) they don't like you personally, 3) they think it's strange that you asked them if they wanted to hang out out of the blue - or 3) perhaps they really are busy, though it doesn't seem like it. Something to think about is, how was your relationship with these people while you were in school? Were you "friends" in class? If not, perhaps that's why they're not interested in interacting with you outside of school. And even if you seemed like friends in school, some people don't like pursuing friendships with classmates. There are some people who never say hi to me or even look at me unless we're in the class that I know them from. In the future, it may be a good idea to observe their behavior towards you in class before asking them to hang out.
On a side note, I believe it's unhealthy to feel lonely without the presence of another person. Perhaps you can try finding ways to occupy yourself that don't involve others. That way, you can avoid situations like this where you want to hang out with someone, but they don't feel the same way. Personally, I'm fine without people and I never get bored because I always have something to do (I'm an artist). In fact, that's the way I prefer it; I'm not fond of people to begin with. But if I end up hanging out with a friend, I'm fine with that too.
Good luck.
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Give them a call brotha, catch up a little and then ask if their down to chill if they dont pick up text them to get a convo going
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That's odd, yes.
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