Did I over text or no?

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Me and this girl started texting last week it's been going great like she responds to all my message and even if she texts late she apologizes but on Sunday we texted for a bit but than a message I sent she just read it but didn't respond but than at night I sent a message askin if she wanted a smoothie because I was gonna stop at a smoothie shop in the morning before school but she didn't read that message but than the next day in the afternoon my phone sent a message by mistake it just said HHHH lol but than that night she posted that she was depressed and I texted her askin if she was alright than on Tuesday I didn't sent nothing but today I said wazup and her kik said the phone looks like it's off or disconnected but than a little ago she read my message but didn't respond but I sent a message apologizing because I felt like I over texted but did I over text or no

Corsair777 · Accepted Answer

No need to apologize, she's having problems that likely aren't related to you whatsoever. However I do recommend you reduce your texting as it has zero real world value. Try to just talk to her in person, even ask her what's wrong in person. Do NOT ask her what's wrong over text, because either she will not tell you and you will feel stupid, or she will tell you and you will feel bad because you can't actually be there to really feel her emotions.

Trust me dude, I texted this girl way back and she told me all her problems and we would text for hours, days and I thought I was helping when really in fact I was just giving her something to do and it ended up worse off than it was before.

Texting is no good. in my opinion same sex can text as much as they want, opposite sex just shouldn't text at all unless they are strictly platonic friends or already in a committed relationship. Texting ruins early stage relationships, guaranteed.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Give her space and don't send another text, she either isn't into you, is stringing you along or is indeed going through something. Just let her come to you and don't he so eager.

lusciousLexi · Accepted Answer

Honestly, a girl wants what she CAN'T have. You're making it very clear she not only has you, but she has you wrapped around her finger. If you want a girl you need to make her miss you, even if that means not talking to her for a week or so. Sooner or later she'll miss the attention. But with how you explained it, i ( being a girl) know that she's loosing interest and probably getting annoyed. Give her spacell and she'll be begging for your attention. Oh and when she does text back, it wouldn't hurt to wait a day to reply. Some girls will text you and if you reply quickly, she'll know you're still there like a puppy dog and she's not loosing anything. Hopefully this isn't hurting your feelings, I just know how girls work

loverofmusic · Accepted Answer

I'm not sure as I don't really know the situation but it seems too me that's she's playing games and hard too get and toying with you emotionally letting you think she's jnstered one minute and then not responding the next too make it seem like she isn't, I'm not sure which you're next should be if you truly like her and can handle her playing games or if you can't, only you can decide that but I di know you definitely didn't text too much

pandapaws22 · Accepted Answer

I don't think you overtexted because you just seemed worried about her. If my boyfriend doesn't text me back over a couple of days I get really worried. I try and think that he is just busy, which is usually always the case when he eventually texts me back apologizing. But I see what you mean about maybe overtexting because your not dating her so she might have been overwhelmed.

girlandhermusic · Accepted Answer

You care about her and it's clear on how you txted her. You are not being obsessive. Obsessive would be asking her why she didn't get a smoothie and continue txting. She's just busy, or she doesn't trust you enough yet. Be patient. It'll catch on to her that you care.

BrokenButBeautiful · Answer

Honestly there are days where I am on my phone all day and then there are days were I just want to not be on it as much- i ignore texts and put off calls till I want to be obsessed with my phone again. Don't over think it- for a tip don't text her for a bit, don't text her till SHE texts you. See if she misses talking to you (:

MissButtercup · Answer

I don't think you over texted. Seems a little rude that she's reading your messages and ignoring them. Sounds like she just wants you to chase her. You sound like a nice guy, don't text her anymore and wait to see if she comes to you, if she doesn't, no worries, move on to someone who doesn't play games & is worth your time!

sirspauldo · Answer

Its not you, she's depressed, when one is depressed one often avoids others entirely and isolates themself, just show support and ask if she wants to talk about how she's feeling, in person preferably, thats the best thing you can do during this time.

trxllchelsieee · Answer

You didn't over text. Just relax, she may need some time to herself to figure some things out. Some girls, like myself, don't respond because we want you to double text. Its a sign that you're actually into us and its like a sign of reassurance. If you didn't double text, it would seem like you didn't care. Or if you didn't respond when she said she was depressed, she may think that she doesn't matter to you. At least now she knows you care and that she can come to you whenever she's feeling down, or that you're at least worried about her. Over texting would be a text every 2 minutes or freaking about her not responding. So just relax, and wait for her to recognize that you're trying (: if she doesn't, move on because she obviously doesn't appreciate your trying.

beeturner · Answer

You may have over texted, but I wouldn't stress about it too much... Just wait for her to start a conversation/respond and then be a bit more careful about how many texts you send at a time before you get a response :) If she doesn't message you, then leave her be.

Gmf279 · Answer

Most girls would be ecstatic if a guy texted more. Also maybe she is not the texting type. I know I like a text here or there but it is nowhere near as personal as hearing that sexy voice from the guy I like. I think in our technical society it would be a good idea to ask which is preferred. I myself lost interest in a few people because their only form of communication was texting.

bthomas89 · Answer

yes you definitely over texted. The first time she didn't respond you should have just waited for her to write you first. It sounds like she blocked you.

Anonymous · Answer

in my opinion, I think if she doesn't respond even after she read it, don't send another text. Give her some room to come to you. She knows the door is open, just let her choose to go through :) I wouldn't text her for a while unless she initiated it.

igle_0 · Answer

Hmm... I don't think you overtexted. You like her! There's nothing wrong with that. Overtexting would be sending multiples when she doesn't respond. I think it's sweet you asked if she wanted a smoothie and if she was okay. I'm not sure why she's not responding, maybe because she doesn't feel comfortable enough with you to discuss everything with you? You're okay. Stay sunside up :)

BoldBlackBeautiful · Answer

I feel like you did only because it seems like she's playing games if I text someone and they read it but decide not to text back I won't keep sending texts I'll just tell myself that if that person cares they text back at some point hopefully sooner than later

Chicka25 · Answer

She needs space. I get like her sometimes... it doesn't nessiceraly mean she doesn't like you or you ruined anything she probably just needs some space.

Misty94 · Answer

A lot of girls start texting with guys and just stop when they get bored or have no interest. And as soon as you apologize at all for something that really wasn't bad out of the blue, that's the moment I lose all wanting to talk with the person. Just let her go. If she wanted to talk to you she would have at least responded.

shadowlegend · Answer

Sounds like she is preoccupied. Don't text until she texts you now.

throwit · Answer

If there is a long stack of texts from you (like more than 3 or 4 and she hasn't replied to any of them then yes. Stop.

SinMari · Answer

She's dealing with depression, it's a hard thing. Most people tend to isolate themselves. Don't text her for a while, wait for her to get out of her funk and she'll text you

steampunkelephant · Answer

its hard to tell, i mean its not like you were asking where she was, how she was, what she was doing etc. you just asked if she wanted a smoothie and then if she was alright after posting a worrying status.

Broken has a point, wait until she texts you. don't overthink it mate :)

miserybusiness · Answer

C'mon man she was prob busy, she's not gonna spend all day responding to your texts.

Juelle · Answer

If she is depressed your messages may be helping just small sayings here and there nothing long amf outdrawn

GhostOfAlexandria · Answer

It could be possiavle you over texted her... once I asked a girl if she wanted a cookie and apparently I was texting her to much and it kinda just went down hill from there.

HowAboutNoXP · Answer

Girls are strange. We can offend by just a click, but just don't try to understand us, you'll fail. :\

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