Should I apologize to her for being overbearing?

[Anonymous]

So I started talking to this girl about two months back. During that time, I started to develop some really strong feelings for her. In the short version of it, I could say everything went really well up until a few nights ago. I told her how I felt and she took it really well, but told me she would rather stay friends for the time being (which I do believe she truly meant) and that she just wasn't looking for a relationship (which I also believe she meant in general, nothing personal towards me). I, on the other hand, just being the way I am, despite having genuine intentions, freaked out a bit and went on and on about how much I liked her, cared about her, wanted to be with her etc. and basically didn't leave her alone about it for the next few days. But every heartfelt thing I said was true, which is exactly why I'm wondering if I should apologize to her for being that way and probably making things really awkward in doing so, and let her know that I really would be ok with just being her friend. Or would it best best to just leave her alone for a bit and see what happens? (I did promise her I wouldn't bring any of it up again)

[vmw2008]

I think it's too soon, It'll seem like you're still obsessing about it and not letting the subject drop. If you do want to bring up the "awkwardness" do it in a week or two, and make it short and sweet.

Also, while it may be true that she just wants to be friends and doesn't want to be in a relationship right now, it's very similar to a guy saying the same thing to a woman he's sleeping with. "Hey I just want to keep things how we are. We're friends, It's not you, I'm just not ready for a relationship." Does he mean it? Probably. But could another woman walk into his life and magically change his mind about relationships? Absolutely.

Keep that in mind. You may be investing a lot of time and feelings into a woman who likes you but isn't going to ever fall for you. This is how "friend-zoning" happens, similar to "FWB zoning" to women.

[cocominnie]

I don't think you should apologize, just let it be on it's own. Apologizing for it makes it seem like you did something wrong, when you just had strong feelings. Eventually it'll cool down. :)