I love my boyfriend but I want to sleep with other guys? Should I cheat on him secretly?

[Anonymous]

We've been together for 3 years and he's everything that I want in a man. We connect on every level and have great sex. He cooks, makes great money, keeps in shape, he's funny, charming, very ambitious and he really cares about me. We were each other's first sex, love and relationship. Despite all of this, I can't help feeling live I want to have sex with other men. I want to have both.

I suggested a three way with another girl and he said that he only wants to have sex with me, so he's definitely not going to be down for an open relationship, nor do I want him to be with other girls. If we break up, he will find a new girl pretty quickly, he's a relationship guy. The only way that I can think of having both is if I cheat on him and make sure he doesn't find out. But if I cheat on him and he does find out, then it will definitely be over.

I feel like I met the most amazing guy too early. Before I was ready to settle down. What do I do?

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+1 y

It's not just that I want to sleep with other guys, I want both. I still want to be able to come home to him and cuddle or whatever.

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+1 y

When I'm with him I never think about anyone else. We have amazing sex and he always makes me cum - at the time I am fully satisfied every time. But when we are apart I see other guys and I want to sleep with them.

[Anonymous]

Don't be fucking stupid. It's human nature to find other people attractive and even think of having sex with other people other than your partner, but these things are fantasies. Something that should only happen in your mind. Especially when you found someone that is really great. Some fantasies are meant to stay as fantasies. I'm sure your boyfriend finds other girls attractive. I'm sure if he wasn't with you he would have sex with them. But the thing about loyalty and finding someone that is hard to find is that you don't give into your lustful desires. Because if you do. You will lose your boyfriend. And I highly doubt you will ever find a guy as great as him. Not saying that they don't exist and he's the only one.. because that's not true, but the odds of you meeting someone else that is like him is slim, and even if that happens for that someone else to like you and want to be with you is even slimmer. Don't ruin this once in a lifetime relationship because you want to have sex with other men. It's normal to want too.. but keep that to yourself and keep it as just a fantasy.

[billmunch]

I've been in a serious relationship for over a decade and my girlfriend came to me with a similar situation, except in her scenario she wanted to fuck a black guy. I was fine with it, so long as certain conditions were met. I suggested that she gather a few of her girlfriends and go on holiday to Las Vegas for a week and get it out of her system provided that she use protection and that it's just sex - not a relationship and that she gets rid of the guy's contact info as soon as the trip is over. Also, the ladies have to look out for one another's well being.

Now, every year, her friends get together and take a "cheat week" somewhere warm. Of course, her friends have to hide the truth from their boyfriends/husbands but have no qualms about telling me about their parties. To tell the truth, it's kind of hot. Sometimes, they send me pics of themselves during sex. In exchange for this, I get to have a prostitue while she's away.

[Billywu]

Your fucked up in the head I'm not racist but my wife's not fucking any black guys or white

[desidoll]

I don't think he's a perfect guy for you. If he is, you won't even think about cheating on him. There must be something else that you aren't getting from him, whether you realize it or not. Sounds like you aren't ready for a relationship. You better consider to break up with him and just get into a friends with benefits situation instead of cheating.

[smokahontas]

That's wrong! You can't have the cake and eat it too. Just be very thankful that you have a good guy. I understand that ou might have desires to sleep with other men (I have actually been in the same boat) but I would never cheat on someone. I would never encourage someone to be unfaithful in their relationship.

[Anonymous]

What he doesn't know won't hurt him

[JSmuve]

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Ya... life's just tough all around isn't it. The perfect guy just isn't enough for you eh. For shame.

[linkywinky]

thhhhhiiiiiiiiiiisssss

[ponpokopen]

I don't really care what your sexual preferences are, but let me say this. You are a very selfish person. You want to have sex with other guys, have an open relationship, and still be with your boyfriend? Great! BUT, you don't want him to be with other girls? WTF! That really doesn't make any sense. How is that an open relationship? An open relationship is not a one-way relationship. Either stick with your man, or break up (for him). By cheating, you are not helping with this "relationship" you have with your boyfriend.

[Prof_Don]

To be blunt, you aren't good enough for him.

A guy like you describe, deserves someone who wants him and only him.

You're not happy in this relationship, so you need to break up with him, and stop wasting your time and his time.

[fbird90nw]

This is why i feel most women aren't worth the time of day.

[M_A_X]

But she wants both, bro, and nobody is around to make her suffer any consequences for her actions so she won't learn anything from it either. It would serve her right if she tried to cheat, got caught, and then left by both of them

[AleDeEurope]

It's funny how some amazing people have no one, and shitty people like yyou have someone that loves them.
Life's a bitch.

Listen, just go fuck whoever you want, but be a decent person for once, qnd break up with your bf, you'll do him thw boggest favor ever.

[AleDeEurope]

The biggest*

[Frost_Byte]

So your telling me that u hav THE PERFERCT GUY, but u r STIIIIIIILLLLLLLL not satisfied. U sound like an ungrateful bitch, thats what u sound like to me. If u aren't satisfied with him, u will NEVER be satsified. He deserves better than u. I would either learn to suppress these feelings and somehow learn to live with yourself for even thinking them, or break up with him so he can find someone better than u, someone who will stay loyal to him... you should be ashamed of yourself.

[Rocko26]

Hello there,
I have many years of experience with this and the best advice is to be honest with your lover and tell him what your desires are. Your body is going to want what it desires eventually happening down the road. If your lover doesn’t like what you are into then it’s a good early sign that he may not be the right one. You will he surprised how many men get turned on by the idea. So it’s the honesty that they want and the bond of trust that connects you two by love. There’s nights for love making and there’s nights for kinks and fetishes. If a couple plans for the long haul then kinks and fetishes will eventually be explored. I personally love my significant other’s sex drive. I rather her be my personal pornstar then what some some girl I don’t know if a porn. It’s not cheating if he knows lol! Bottom line, find someone that loves all of you. Honesty is the highest level of kink that most couples never reach. Good luck

[TheEnding]

Well he's not everything you want in a man if you need to have sex with other men. The way I see it, you're gonna have to find a way to deal with those urges in a way that is NOT cheating. Or you could break up with him and look for a more open relationship.

[Anonymous]

Don't cheat on him. That is how players are made. They get their heart broken so badly, and they can't put themselves in a position to be hurt like that again.

[xobrowneyedbeauty]

if you really love him you won't cheat on him! that's the worst thing you could do to a person! that's extremely selfish of you. if you just HAVE to have sex with other men at least break up with him first.

[blondfrog]

When you cheat on him "secretly" you will become for distant towards him and he will start sensing that, become suspicious cheating never turns out well. You have a great guy don't ruin it its hard to find a guy who wants more than sex with a woman your an idiot if you cheat on him.

[space-jams]

NOOOOOOOOO DON'T CHEAT ON HIM.
He sounds like a great guy, don't ruin him with your lust.
If you want to have sex with other guys break up, don't make him suffer.

[Viking31]

Well you can't have your cake and eat it too. I think you either have to choose. Super great guy v. s. whatever crap is out there. I would choose your boyfriend. If you love him you will have to make sacrifices for him right!

[Anonymous]

Break up. If it was meant to be you wouldn't feel this way. To young to settle down that's a perfectly good reason. No point in forcing a relationship, you will resent him for it later.

Both of you deserve to be happy. You have to settle. He should def not have to be cheated on. Cheating on someone is the worst thing you can do to break then emotionally. He will find out.

[Nathalyy]

Oh girl. You won't know what you really have till you see its gone. Be careful with your decisions because lust won't take you anywhere. You'll be losing a great guy

[Th3D3vil5w1f3]

The perfect guy for you will make you not want to be with anyone else.

[garam]

exactly...

[TripleAce]

Wrong!

It's just timing. She's young and wants to explore. BUT cheating is not the answer

Break up and fuck 20 dicks. But break up with him

[TripleAce]

If you cheat, it will never be the same ever again. It will forever be different

If your ready for that to change, its up to you and you will have to carry the guilt inside you. won't be as easy as it sounds

[kayleyswaw]

If he is all you say he is then it's just curiosity you want to know what it would be like to be with other guys you really love him and have a good relationship don't cheat and ruin it just push your curiosity to the side

[Jonnyboy1]

No trust me this will only bring extreme problems in your life in the future and near future. Is he worth not sleeping around? If so be faithful. Is he not worth it? If no then be single. If you're real young (under 22) dump him and be single you won't regret it in the future.

[caligrl209]

Ya just never admit to it or get caught, it sounds mean but we only live once and it's a fantasy, on the plus side you might not think it's all you expected and get it out your system. Just make sure you connect personality wise, sometimes the hunt is more exciting than the kill

[Iron9]

Spoken like a true whore. I feel bad for any man that going to be with you.

[Billywu]

@Iron9 I agree she's a whore for sure

[KHaskins]

Um... no. You should not. Either keep your libido in check and go to couples counseling or break up with him. He deserves better than that.