I love my boyfriend but I want to sleep with other guys? Should I cheat on him secretly?

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We've been together for 3 years and he's everything that I want in a man. We connect on every level and have great sex. He cooks, makes great money, keeps in shape, he's funny, charming, very ambitious and he really cares about me. We were each other's first sex, love and relationship. Despite all of this, I can't help feeling live I want to have sex with other men. I want to have both. 

I suggested a three way with another girl and he said that he only wants to have sex with me, so he's definitely not going to be down for an open relationship, nor do I want him to be with other girls. If we break up, he will find a new girl pretty quickly, he's a relationship guy. The only way that I can think of having both is if I cheat on him and make sure he doesn't find out. But if I cheat on him and he does find out, then it will definitely be over.

I feel like I met the most amazing guy too early. Before I was ready to settle down. What do I do?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Don't be fucking stupid. It's human nature to find other people attractive and even think of having sex with other people other than your partner, but these things are fantasies. Something that should only happen in your mind. Especially when you found someone that is really great. Some fantasies are meant to stay as fantasies. I'm sure your boyfriend finds other girls attractive. I'm sure if he wasn't with you he would have sex with them. But the thing about loyalty and finding someone that is hard to find is that you don't give into your lustful desires. Because if you do. You will lose your boyfriend. And I highly doubt you will ever find a guy as great as him. Not saying that they don't exist and he's the only one.. because that's not true, but the odds of you meeting someone else that is like him is slim, and even if that happens for that someone else to like you and want to be with you is even slimmer. Don't ruin this once in a lifetime relationship because you want to have sex with other men. It's normal to want too.. but keep that to yourself and keep it as just a fantasy.

billmunch · Accepted Answer

I've been in a serious relationship for over a decade and my girlfriend came to me with a similar situation, except in her scenario she wanted to fuck a black guy. I was fine with it, so long as certain conditions were met. I suggested that she gather a few of her girlfriends and go on holiday to Las Vegas for a week and get it out of her system provided that she use protection and that it's just sex - not a relationship and that she gets rid of the guy's contact info as soon as the trip is over. Also, the ladies have to look out for one another's well being.

Now, every year, her friends get together and take a "cheat week" somewhere warm. Of course, her friends have to hide the truth from their boyfriends/husbands but have no qualms about telling me about their parties. To tell the truth, it's kind of hot. Sometimes, they send me pics of themselves during sex. In exchange for this, I get to have a prostitue while she's away.

desidoll · Accepted Answer

I don't think he's a perfect guy for you. If he is, you won't even think about cheating on him. There must be something else that you aren't getting from him, whether you realize it or not. Sounds like you aren't ready for a relationship. You better consider to break up with him and just get into a  friends with benefits  situation instead of cheating.

smokahontas · Accepted Answer

That's wrong! You can't have the cake and eat it too. Just be very thankful that you have a good guy. I understand that ou might have desires to sleep with other men (I have actually been in the same boat) but I would never cheat on someone. I would never encourage someone to be unfaithful in their relationship.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

What he doesn't know won't hurt him

JSmuve · Answer

Ya... life's just tough all around isn't it. The perfect guy just isn't enough for you eh. For shame.

ponpokopen · Answer

I don't really care what your sexual preferences are, but let me say this. You are a very selfish person. You want to have sex with other guys, have an open relationship, and still be with your boyfriend? Great! BUT, you don't want him to be with other girls? WTF! That really doesn't make any sense. How is that an open relationship? An open relationship is not a one-way relationship. Either stick with your man, or break up (for him). By cheating, you are not helping with this "relationship" you have with your boyfriend.

Prof_Don · Answer

To be blunt, you aren't good enough for him.

A guy like you describe, deserves someone who wants him and only him.

You're not happy in this relationship, so you need to break up with him, and stop wasting your time and his time.

AleDeEurope · Answer

It's funny how some amazing people have no one, and shitty people like yyou have someone that loves them.
Life's a bitch.

Listen, just go fuck whoever you want, but be a decent person for once, qnd break up with your bf, you'll do him thw boggest favor ever.

Frost_Byte · Answer

So your telling me that u hav THE PERFERCT GUY, but u r STIIIIIIILLLLLLLL not satisfied. U sound like an ungrateful bitch, thats what u sound like to me. If u aren't satisfied with him, u will NEVER be satsified. He deserves better than u. I would either learn to suppress these feelings and somehow learn to live with yourself for even thinking them, or break up with him so he can find someone better than u, someone who will stay loyal to him... you should be ashamed of yourself.

Rocko26 · Answer

Hello there,
I have many years of experience with this and the best advice is to be honest with your lover and tell him what your desires are. Your body is going to want what it desires eventually happening down the road. If your lover doesn’t like what you are into then it’s a good early sign that he may not be the right one. You will he surprised how many men get turned on by the idea. So it’s the honesty that they want and the bond of trust that connects you two by love. There’s nights for love making and there’s nights for kinks and fetishes. If a couple plans for the long haul then kinks and fetishes will eventually be explored. I personally love my significant other’s sex drive. I rather her be my personal pornstar then what some some girl I don’t know if a porn. It’s not cheating if he knows lol! Bottom line, find someone that loves all of you. Honesty is the highest level of kink that most couples never reach. Good luck

TheEnding · Answer

Well he's not everything you want in a man if you need to have sex with other men. The way I see it, you're gonna have to find a way to deal with those urges in a way that is NOT cheating. Or you could break up with him and look for a more open relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

Don't cheat on him. That is how players are made. They get their heart broken so badly, and they can't put themselves in a position to be hurt like that again.

xobrowneyedbeauty · Answer

if you really love him you won't cheat on him! that's the worst thing you could do to a person! that's extremely selfish of you. if you just HAVE to have sex with other men at least break up with him first.

blondfrog · Answer

When you cheat on him "secretly" you will become for distant towards him and he will start sensing that, become suspicious cheating never turns out well. You have a great guy don't ruin it its hard to find a guy who wants more than sex with a woman your an idiot if you cheat on him.

space-jams · Answer

NOOOOOOOOO DON'T CHEAT ON HIM. He sounds like a great guy, don't ruin him with your lust.  If you want to have sex with other guys break up, don't make him suffer.

Viking31 · Answer

Well you can't have your cake and eat it too. I think you either have to choose. Super great guy v. s. whatever crap is out there. I would choose your boyfriend. If you love him you will have to make sacrifices for him right!

Anonymous · Answer

Break up. If it was meant to be you wouldn't feel this way. To young to settle down that's a perfectly good reason. No point in forcing a relationship, you will resent him for it later.

Both of you deserve to be happy. You have to settle. He should def not have to be cheated on. Cheating on someone is the worst thing you can do to break then emotionally. He will find out.

Nathalyy · Answer

Oh girl. You won't know what you really have till you see its gone. Be careful with your decisions because lust won't take you anywhere. You'll be losing a great guy

Th3D3vil5w1f3 · Answer

The perfect guy for you will make you not want to be with anyone else.

TripleAce · Answer

If you cheat, it will never be the same ever again. It will forever be different

If your ready for that to change, its up to you and you will have to carry the guilt inside you. won't be as easy as it sounds

kayleyswaw · Answer

If he is all you say he is then it's just curiosity you want to know what it would be like to be with other guys you really love him and have a good relationship don't cheat and ruin it just push your curiosity to the side

Jonnyboy1 · Answer

No trust me this will only bring extreme problems in your life in the future and near future. Is he worth not sleeping around? If so be faithful. Is he not worth it? If no then be single. If you're real young (under 22) dump him and be single you won't regret it in the future.

caligrl209 · Answer

Ya just never admit to it or get caught, it sounds mean but we only live once and it's a fantasy, on the plus side you might not think it's all you expected and get it out your system. Just make sure you connect personality wise, sometimes the hunt is more exciting than the kill

DaGenius · Answer

No. That will destroy him. Break up with him in that case. He doesn't deserve that. Find a cuckold, or someone who will break the rules with you, or stay single. But don't break an innocent guy's heart by cheating.

KHaskins · Answer

Um... no. You should not. Either keep your libido in check and go to couples counseling or break up with him. He deserves better than that.

MyUsernameRules · Answer

You should break up with him but I doubt you'll listen to us. If you do cheat on him, I really hope he finds out about it.

BumbleDeev · Answer

Leave him. If you're really considering cheating on him then it's not going to work. Maybe tell him you want to have a friends with benefits situation

Anonymous · Answer

No. Stay faithful or break up. Your choice. Otherwise once he finds out he will ditch you. As the saying goes "nothing lasts forever".

Anonymous · Answer

You are disgusting... And please break up with him.. don't hurt him... it will hurt him a lot... i just hope every deserving guy in this world stays away from a bitch like you...

Anonymous · Answer

Don't cheat because he doesn't deserve it. If you want to be with other men then maybe your relationship isn't meant to be and you two should break.

Anonymous · Answer

Just read the title, the answer is  FUCK NO😒😞 I love a long lasting relationship, and here you are wanting to fuck other men.  If you do cheat I hope you get caught ✌

JustinX9 · Answer

damn he is perfect... he doesn't deserve this one... honestly you dont really love your bf... i really pity your bf... you are still in a bf/gf stage how much more if you guys are married... tsk3x

Anonymous · Answer

So pretty you don't love him. Otherwise you woukdnt cheat. I'm sorry but I'm sick of people insisting that they love the person they are with despite they cheated. It's bull.

Supermosh1990 · Answer

Cheating is cheating. Do what ever you want to do. It's wrong to cheat on him.. If you truly love him then stick with him.

JustinCaseUDontKnow · Answer

You should break up if your not happy maybe somethings missing from your life

Tokana · Answer

Ho the gym and pick out the biggest roided gut dude and go back to his place. No, really though you shouldn't do it.

Strider90 · Answer

You're not happy and you definitely don't know what love is. Break it up with him. He deserves better. Then you can screw around as much as you want.

Anonymous · Answer

I feel the same way girl. But my man is going to mexico for 7 weeks, im gonna cheat

Anonymous · Answer

go for it. this is 2015, nobody has the right to control your sex life. if you think he might become violent (physically or other) because of it, dump him. your happiness and safety comes first.

Ihav2fart · Answer

You should go to couples counseling is what you should do.

Billywu · Answer

Go for it and be a cheat when he finds out and he will he's gone and you can fuck as many as you want toho

GreenTiger · Answer

It's actually a lot more common than you think. Go for it.

Anonymous · Answer

Cut the poor guy loose and let him find someone who deserves him, because you sure don't.

Anonymous · Answer

Talk to him about it. Maybe you can work something out. The relationship will surely end if you go behind his back.

Xelebrum · Answer

Are you fucking stupid?

DodgersGM · Answer

Just break up with him?

OhMyGoddess · Answer

Leave your bf because vajayjay is too thirsty.

Anonymous · Answer

You're stupid  Go die

jackmaxim · Answer

Go cheat he leaves you'll find someone else

Anonymous · Answer

Do it

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