I had sex with someone else, but for fun. There is only my boyfriend in my heart. Do you think I'm cheating on him?

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I think I didn't cheat because I was just in love with my boyfriend. It's the feelings that matter. Not the body.

Darwin_n_chill · Accepted Answer

Firstly, yes, and more importantly you are cheating on him in the way that he will care most about, sexually. If you tell him about this, you should anticipate a potentially explosive emotional reaction from him, whether the emotion is anger or simply sadness and betrayal. Interestingly, the fact that you don't understand this is because men and women actually have different priorities when it comes to cheating. Women, because they are evolved to care most about who is emotionally attached to who, because women who had that priority typically stayed with men that would stay with them and care for them and their children for longer, often do not understand that men primarily care about who is having sex with who, because men who did not have that preference ended up getting cuckolded and devoting their resources to some other man's children. So, for evolutionary reasons, women care about emotional cheating and men care about sexual cheating, most that is. Of course both sexes dislike both kind of cheating, but the one they care most about is based on these evolutionary adaptations.

D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

"Cheating" is a very simple concept. I watch kids try to do it to each other by bending the rules, trying to change them, or outright just not obeying the rules... usually because they're just greedy and just want to win.

So in a couple-situation, the rules they agree upon should be talked about and what's allowed and what's not should be agreed upon... between them. If those understandings are not verbally agreed to then one or both parties assume certain rules are in place, which might be placed on their cultural norms or some other standard.

But to put your question under the spotlight, are you doing something you'd want to hide? Did you do something he's not going to find acceptable? and that's the basic litmus test to help you figure out if it was cheating or not.

If you two talked though and he signed on to this idea that sex with others isn't cheating... I'm not going to judge. If you're cheating though to get that extra dick, then duh... it's cheating.

SnowyOwl · Accepted Answer

You're asking this question because deep down you know it was cheating. It felt wrong because you know you probably never agreed to this with your boyfriend. If you wanna feel better, come clean to your boyfriend. Don't hide the truth from him, because that's the same as lying. Tell him what you did, and tell him you feel bad about it, and ask for forgiveness. That is if you actually wish to save your relationship.. your boyfriend will probably need space, probably a break from you so he can think, and he will decide if he can forgive you. All of that is better than living with the sensation of a lie, since the guilt will eat you up.

Humans make mistakes, it's part of nature, but you should also learn from mistakes, not pretend they don't exist or equivocally justify them. If you can take accountability for your actions, then you can be proud of yourself because that is growth. It takes a bit of courage.

Alwayreckles93 · Accepted Answer

The real truth here is YOU DO NOT AND YOU NEVER LOVED YOUR BOYFRIEND PERIOD! I AM SORRY HONEY BUT YOU ARE NOT WIFE MATERIAL. LIKE MY GRANDMA SAID BEFORE YOU JUST CAN'T TURN A HOE INTO A HOUSE WIFE!

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

As a relationship coach, I'm here to provide some insights. Cheating isn't just about feelings; it's about trust and agreements in a relationship. If your boyfriend isn't aware or okay with this fun adventure, it could be a major red flag waving in the wind. Love is indeed about the heart, but honesty and trust are the foundation. Keep communication open and spirited, just like a passionate tango. 💃❤️

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Finchie40 · Answer

Ummm you cheated period , tell your boyfriend you did it just for fun and I guarantee he will have fun dumping your cheating ass

AviatorTom · Answer

Cheating is having sex with someone other than your partner.  You cheated on your boyfriend. Admit it and stop trying to justify your actions.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Did you tell your boyfriend before it went down, or did you tell him afterwards? Why not?

RespectfulGuy · Answer

What you did is what "cheating" means. In the Courts, a divorce can be granted to a married couple, favouring the other partner.

Consider it the other way round. How would you feel if he does the same to you instead?

And yes, as others wrote, tell him the truth and see if he forgives you. Or considers it cheating.

If you plan to go long term with him, I suggest find an occasion to tell him. Then ask for his forgiveness. Otherwise this incident may haunt you, especially if you two were to eventually got married.

In all sincerity, relationship involves the heart. Hence don't make it too much child play or fun. A broken heart, violated trust and dishonesty could be very difficult to mend.

Med_guy1978 · Answer

I think it's natural for people to feel sexual attraction multiple times over time no matter if they're in a relationship or not. What they decide to do is another thing and determines their personality and fate. We often get stuck in relationships that aren't working and I'm all for making it work but sometimes it can't. In any case, women are usually stronger than men. I think sometimes if things are changed in a relationship then these attractions can be compensated and neutralised. Once you eat too much of your favourite food then you have no space for pizza 🍕 and this is the problem, many people are being starved.

Purpleronnie · Answer

You’re delusional if you don’t regard that as cheating. You say you’re in love with your boyfriend but clearly you don’t know the meaning of the word if you can have sex with another regardless of the reason. You’re a disgusting and thoughtless individual.

Billlewis · Answer

I don't think you did anything wrong whatsoever, and if he somehow finds out, don't be surprised if he loves you even more for engaging in extracurricular intimacy. When my first serious girlfriend told me she'd been having sex with her former classmate every weekend, for an entire summer, after I got over my initial response, I admitted to her that I found her indiscretions tremendously exciting, and I literally begged her to continue seeing him.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

A hobby is an activity that you enjoy doing when you have personal time. Sometimes you engage in hobbies for fun, while other times you complete them to relax or when you're bored. You can participate in hobbies to socialize with people who have similar interests. As for you for fun you had sex with someone else so if you consider sex a hobby I guess it’s not actually cheating & I’m sure your boyfriend has a few hobbies too.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

the question is to your boyfriend if he agreed to share your body with someone else... if yes, then you didn't cheat, if he didn't agree, then you cheated

Anonymous · Answer

It's beautiful if you did it. It's definitely not cheating unless you are married to him. And if you are married then it's cheating and horrible unless you let him give you permission.

Mine has permission from me to have sex with guys I approve and even have children from only white guys. I just love the process of reclaiming her. It is like she is unmarried to me for 3-4 months and has extremely hot sex till she is pregnant and then we can start having sex again. I love having kids from her so much. That reclaiming her as wife after 4 months of abstention is beautiful. And her pregnancy makes it worthwhile seeing and having children of beautiful genetics being born.

tzdc21 · Answer

I know that you are just bored and just wanna start some drama on here. Because if you're not and being serious then what is wrong with you? Of course that's cheating. You still decided to have sex with another man who isn't your boyfriend. That's cheating.

genericname85 · Answer

No, i don't "think" you are cheating on him, you objectively are cheating on him unless he knows about it and is ok with you fucking someone else. But that's some impressive moral contortion you tried there to justify your wrongdoing.

SeriouslyNotSerious · Answer

It's people like you that makes love difficult. When you truly love someone, you cannot even imagine hurting them.  It's a hypocrite thing to say you love that person, and then cheat.

Zack-Bann · Answer

Tf kind of clickbait is this? Yes of course you’re cheating you literally did the very definition  Your own coping mechanisms might put you to bed at night but don’t change the facts

Red_Arrow · Answer

Anyone with intelligence knows that is cheating. If you still can't understand that easy fact, then tell your boyfriend you are fucking someone else and see what he says. If you refuse to tell him then you know it is cheating.

Kayleigh2005 · Answer

Ur a cheating hoe, I may sleep around but everyone that knows me, trusts me, worse type of women

Heyhey0 · Answer

Yes, I think you cheated if you broke a boundary, set by the both of you. If he didn't mind, or if you already set it straight that your relationship wouldn't be monogamous, then I wouldn't consider it cheating, but if you broke a boundary that was set, then yes. It doesn't matter whether or not you were just 'fooling around', if you and your partner got into a relationship and made a promise not to have sex with others, then what you did is considered cheating.

Miristheiss · Answer

BULL SHIT!!!

If you are sexual with anyone but your committed mate you are a cheater.

boyfriend should dump you as you are a foul, putrid person. No one should ever commit to you. Not girlfriend material.

sawno · Answer

100% cheated, your boyfriend won't accept this excuse and you know it.

WannaBeSuperhero · Answer

Well, in my opinion, yes, it’s 100% cheating. But it may differ for some. Like, u may keep urself in his place and think. Imagine he has seeex with a girl just for fun. Would u consider it cheating? If yes, then there u are! If no, then we may think about it.

EmmaMary · Answer

REPORTED ... DUPLICATE . Congratulations on winning a  Troll  of the day award.

overlord337645 · Answer

well aside from the stds and so fourth that might arise i can offically say if your not telling your boyfriend this then its cheating and you haven't so you cheated

CarolinaGirl5 · Answer

You're the same type to scream abortion. You're 35 years old, no husband and no kids. Your clock is ticking yet you're out here wasting time. What a dummy

saraupstairs · Answer

... so people could catch it...

Anonymous · Answer

"I think I didn't cheat because I was just in love with my boyfriend. It's the feelings that matter. Not the body." And how do you explain this when you come home with a disease of another mans baby?

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

If you both didn't talk about it beforehand, so it was consensual between you & your boyfriend, then yes, it's cheating.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Well if that is how you feel, open the relationship and let your boyfriend have fun too.. its only fair.

puurikke · Answer

So your boyfriend loves you and only you. But the last couple of months slept with all your female friends and your sister. That’s okay, right? I mean it’s about love and he loves only you….

Fireguy17 · Answer

yeppers, cheating is cheating no matter how you try to rationalize it. And of course, you did not hide the fact that you had sex with someone else and told him all about it didn't you.

Phoenix98 · Answer

No you cheated, it doesn't matter where your heart was it does not change the fact that you slept with another man while in a relationship. I hope ruining your relationship was worth it.

Kelley1 · Answer

No, at your age, you were not cheating since he is far more sexually attractive than your boyfriend and he was only interested in sex.

lightbulb27 · Answer

I'm hearing extreme sarcasm and frustration in this question. the answer is yes... your boyfriend and other guys, are idiots and liars...

douride2 · Answer

I'm not sure if your trolling or your simply that stupid?

Gwendoline · Answer

You cheated. No amount of mental gymnastics will change that fact.

Peridot25 · Answer

I don’t think this is something you should ask us. You should ask your boyfriend and see what he says.

Unit1 · Answer

You cheated. Face the consequences!

Nikki1989 · Answer

If you did without your man knowing, it's cheating.

pascal_climbs · Answer

When that is an agreement between you both, and are open in it, no it’s not cheating

spartan55 · Answer

This is the weakest most transparent troll post, even by GaG standards.

Garud · Answer

Tell your boyfriend your truth and then accept his decision without any drama

Intheclouds00 · Answer

You are cheating on him, but most women do simply because they can. He probably already knows. Seriously, unless he is cheating himself and not paying attention.

DJB72 · Answer

It's cheating. If you don't believe me, reset out of the anonymous settings and tell your partner.

Gospeedracer · Answer

This is why it's unwise to waste your life trying to build a life for you and a woman together.

Jay-_- · Answer

Long story short, yes you are a cheater 😂re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

TheStaleMarshmellow · Answer

If I was the boyfriend, I would immediately be done with you.

WestofNowhere · Answer

I'm trying not to laugh. You're not serious are you?

Knightwatch27 · Answer

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noohair · Answer

So put the shoe on the other foot. If your boyfriend came to you with that story, what would you say? What would most women say?

Anonymous · Answer

Yes! Loyalty matters a lot! Unless he says you're free to fuck whoever you want, you shouldn't.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Yes, and so do you if you are honest with yourself.

Pohjolan · Answer

Do you think that beating a wife doesn't count if the husband likes her?

the29thhuman · Answer

As long as u used protection, it doesn’t matter. Guys don’t have feelings

Woyboy · Answer

Invite the other person over for a fun time with your boyfriend

Cheerfull009 · Answer

You are cheating and bluffing your boyfriend, you are not loyal to him

Slim57 · Answer

I think you're probably a dumbass troll and if not just a dumbass.

Dinoparx · Answer

Yes. You're cheating on him. Having sex with another person for "fun" isn't an excuse.

Viking_Girl19 · Answer

Yes, it's cheating...

thegreenyogi · Answer

For me personally that is definitely cheating.

Account · Answer

I think you are a troll. 🧌

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

Yea, sucks for him, hopefully he finds out

I had sex with someone else, but for fun. There is only my boyfriend in my heart. Do you think I'm cheating on him?

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