How do I bring up swinging with my wife?

[Sdkdomo]

I just got asked today by a lady I work with if me and my wife would be interested in swinging with her and her husband. I would do it but only if she was 100% comfortable with it. How do I ask without her getting mad or upset?

[Ogopogo]

However you may try to package it, the minute you express interest in a specific woman your life is going to get weird and miserable, maybe forever. Do this instead, preferably in bed after an exceptionally good romp.

"We should go to a swingers' club."
(Wait for her shocked expression.)
"We'll just do each other and let people watch. Anything more than that, you can decide."

Don't just spring a specific opportunity on her or she will think you are bored and just want to sleep around or get off watching her with somebody. If she was into that I think she'd have hinted at it by now. The thing to do is ease her into this with a general interest check, and very emphatically on the premise that you only do this together and she leads.

[SomeoneImportant]

Try to sell it in a way that makes it sound beneficial to her. Don't make it out to be something for you or "us", also, if she denies, you gotta let it go.

Be very careful how you word it, chances are, no matter what you say, it will translate in her mind to "I want to sleep with another woman." So you have to be slick with your choice of words.

One other thing, if your sex life is already fine, this has no chance. For most married women, it has a very slim chance anyway, but the odds increase if your sex life becomes dull.

[obiwansmistress]

Tell her beforehand that you're going to ask her something that might make her uncomfortable, and ask her if she's ever thought about swinging, and tell her you're not asking because you're unhappy with her, assure her that you're 100% happy with just having sex with her, but someone brought up the idea to you and you were wondering her opinion, and if she's at all uncomfortable with it than you won't bring it up again.

[Nicoleceline]

I would be mad about it no matter what.. Lol I don't like sharing what's mine.

[RisibleSpade]

In certain swinging deals, the extra people are practically accessories in a sex life. The third or fourth person might as well be battery operated. My wife and I aren't like that, but we know it works for others.

[raaaaaaaj]

Ask her when she was in happy mood? If you ask her in normal times it may cause huge problems in your relationship.

[NExPats12]

Don't ask not now not ever lmao. You're asking to be bitch slapped! (Pow💥💫)

[Anonymous]

Hahahaha... good luck buddy... she will either say yes or say no and may even leave you... as you are clearly not happy wiyh her...

By the way if she says no you could try threesome with them...

[Anonymous]

Wait, wait, wait, wait!

*microwave finishes making popcorn*

OK, go!

[Anonymous]

Good luck with that.