Should you unblock him on whatsapp? (during no contact) ?

[cubbi]

if you've blocked your ex on whatsapp, and you're on day #9 of no contact (that you've initiated) - should you unblock him? would he go check?

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thank you, I broke it off, he did everything possible to push me to do it. things were gud, then out of the blue, just flipped the switch. ignored my messages, switched phone off, pick fights, accused me of cheating etc. I broke it off for gud in Feb, started no contact many times, only lasted 4 days. This time I'm on 9. today I unblocked him, & now I don't know if I should block him again. I was doing so well

[Zoey12]

From my personal experience - I don't know if you broke up or if he was the one who initiated the breakup but don't break no contact. I broke no contact several times with my ex but it was only just painful. We would chat about nonsense, I would eventually hint at wanting to get back together but there were just way too many reasons why it wouldn't work out even if we tried again. I know it's crazy hard to not break no contact and I know you think about him constantly but distract yourself. Hangout with your girlfriends, exercise and just stay positive that things will fall into place. I wanted to try again with my ex and I blamed myself for things when I never did anything wrong and when we did try again the same reasons for why we broke up were there again. They don't go away. The doubts, the insecurities... I wanted to try again with my ex because the relationship was familiar. Because of the memories. But it just wasn't enough. Now if someone would break up with me or if I would break up with someone I would definitely never initiate contact again or try to win them back. There was a reason why it didn't work out. If your reason was bad timing or something less severe then yeah - give it time. Just se what happens. If he will reach out to you then respond if you want to but ask yourself first if he just wants a "quick fix" of you or if he wants to seriously commit and work on the relationship. Don't wait for him though. Don't initiate contact. If you broke up with him things are a little different but time apart also brings clarity and makes you see things from a rational point of view. Best of luck! Stay strong :)